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I have just experienced such for the first time from a distance although presently there. If one has another option, even if just in another distant relative's or friend's home, I think that would be much more of a gracious exit for your close relatives like spouse and children. After you have left them think about what they will be left behind remembering when they sit in that living room where that large hospital bed had to be put for Hospice/medical workers access. Think about all of the hours, days, or even weeks of gut wrenching anguish they will have impacted probably with PTSD or just from experiencing that traumatic event. You will have effectively changed the LIVING room into a DYING room. And people wonder why a spouse dies so many times after the death of their spouse. In the formerly described cases where the surviving spouse stays in the home where the dying occurred, I can see why.
May I suggest that if you must decide to slowly die in your home and leave a much more indelible imprint of your death in that home behind that you ensure that that home will be vacated by your loved ones IMMEDIATELY and permanently after you pass?
I am witnessing the wife of a dying man in so much daily anguish that for the first few days she could not even go into the living room to be by his side (denial/rejection) and now that she is able to muster up the strength to do so she is having to be given nitro glycerin for her heart at least once every day. That house is nothing but a dying chamber to her now. If he wanted to save thousands of dollars at the least, if no friends and such, he could have still rented a room at a motel for his dying; $2000+/day @ hospital as compared to less than 1/20th of that /day in a motel room, relatively VERY cheap and this gives the surviving spouse the liberty from those horrible memories being stimulated or triggered by the house in which they may be spending the rest of their life.
Additionally, may I also suggest that the care of your dissolving or liquefying from the inside and expiring body be handled by someone other than your spouse and children if any way possible? That urine in the urine bag which they will have to monitor and empty turns to blood and decaying organ sludge. How do you want them to remember you??? Even if you are on your death bed, Hospice (Lansing, MI) can only come in twice/wk; once/wk for a medical check by a nurse and the other by a cleaner who once/wk washes the body, changes linen, and looks for and treats, if needed, bed sores. If you need help or want to give meds left behind by Hospice you must call and leave a message and wait for a return call and instructions and permission to give any meds. Things get very intense and anxious (and even infuriating) as LOVED ONES witness terribly concerning symptoms, are the only ones there to administer care, and CAN'T and cannot get immediate, live help on the phone. Most of the time there are meds left there in a box which can treat the problem but they are ignorant of how and when and how much and cannot be trained (liability.) So they MUST call, leave a message, and wait while they observe their loved one in frantic distress, very possibly dying.
Just think about it, please. And if you get a chance to minister to such a situation like I just have, be observant of the overall situation and see if you do not agree with me. It is worth it to set that type of care up now with someone outside of your home and/or start a savings acct now to handle the costs of a motel room or rental, food, and such.
May I suggest that if you must decide to slowly die in your home and leave a much more indelible imprint of your death in that home behind that you ensure that that home will be vacated by your loved ones IMMEDIATELY and permanently after you pass?
I am witnessing the wife of a dying man in so much daily anguish that for the first few days she could not even go into the living room to be by his side (denial/rejection) and now that she is able to muster up the strength to do so she is having to be given nitro glycerin for her heart at least once every day. That house is nothing but a dying chamber to her now. If he wanted to save thousands of dollars at the least, if no friends and such, he could have still rented a room at a motel for his dying; $2000+/day @ hospital as compared to less than 1/20th of that /day in a motel room, relatively VERY cheap and this gives the surviving spouse the liberty from those horrible memories being stimulated or triggered by the house in which they may be spending the rest of their life.
Additionally, may I also suggest that the care of your dissolving or liquefying from the inside and expiring body be handled by someone other than your spouse and children if any way possible? That urine in the urine bag which they will have to monitor and empty turns to blood and decaying organ sludge. How do you want them to remember you??? Even if you are on your death bed, Hospice (Lansing, MI) can only come in twice/wk; once/wk for a medical check by a nurse and the other by a cleaner who once/wk washes the body, changes linen, and looks for and treats, if needed, bed sores. If you need help or want to give meds left behind by Hospice you must call and leave a message and wait for a return call and instructions and permission to give any meds. Things get very intense and anxious (and even infuriating) as LOVED ONES witness terribly concerning symptoms, are the only ones there to administer care, and CAN'T and cannot get immediate, live help on the phone. Most of the time there are meds left there in a box which can treat the problem but they are ignorant of how and when and how much and cannot be trained (liability.) So they MUST call, leave a message, and wait while they observe their loved one in frantic distress, very possibly dying.
Just think about it, please. And if you get a chance to minister to such a situation like I just have, be observant of the overall situation and see if you do not agree with me. It is worth it to set that type of care up now with someone outside of your home and/or start a savings acct now to handle the costs of a motel room or rental, food, and such.
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