After talking with a good friend of mine the other day, I got to thinking about this subject. He told me about how he was talking to a girl from a different church and about how enjoys watching movies and cuddling. The young lady's response was that her leaders "don't like it when we cuddle."
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I'm not a pastor or self-proclaimed "Apostle" like this church's leader is, but something about that didn't sound right to me. Since when can church leaders dictate whether their church members can doing things like cuddling?
I have also noticed on the internet, that there are a lot of sites dedicated to anti-dating and anti-kissing. :o Again I'm not sure how to respond to that. It's more common than you may think! We also touched on kissing in my other topic, so I'm interested in knowing what you think about intimacy before marriage. Whereabouts do you stand on this topic? Do you think cuddling is a sin? What about kissing? Hugs? How far do you think is acceptable before marriage between a man and woman? All thoughts are welcome!
Strange (and I would say none of the pastor's business) that he would say he doesn't like his parishioners cuddling. Oh wait, he was a
leader? Still not his business. But, that's just my opinion. No human "leader" has any say over the happenings or lack of happenings in my home and private life like that. Then again, you'd probably end up having arguments over what is moral/immoral and what - if any - responsibility the church has in bringing such sins (real or perceived) to light. I know I don't want to have that kind of argument, especially with myself, so let me go on to your next paragraph.
I think if
you think cuddling is wrong, then it is wrong for you. If you are convicted in this way, you need to pay attention to your conscience. But, make sure it is
your God-given conscience you're listening to and not someone else's. I, personally, do not view cuddling, embraces or kisses as inherently sinful or as gateways to sin. I just don't. I
know it is possible to kiss someone without even thinking about my significant other's body much less sex. Why? Because I've been there. Some relationships, some people
can stay pure while doing such things. Others can't. And sometimes there is that line and it develops slowly over time... where once there were these harmless actions and now suddenly, a line. I've experienced that one, too. Relationships and people differ
so much; there is no fall-back answer except for the one you uncover.
You
have to go with your conscience and seek God in these matters, talk to your significant other about it. Important things are worthy of discussing. I also, personally, do not ascribe to the whole "treat the other person like they're your sibling" goo-lash. I don't date my brother. Never have. Never will. You don't date someone, call him your boyfriend, call him a significant other, want to eventually spend the rest of your life with (?) and have romantic feelings for someone if he is someone you do not even want to kiss, ever. I don't ever want to kiss my brother. Never have. Never will. Love you, bro. <3