About the first part. I think you're right and it a great idea. Thanks.
Look into spiritual disciplines. You may enjoy the liturgy of hours too. Phyllis Tickle wrote several books on the subject or you can use the COE app.
If I meet a woman that wants to share a bottle of wine over dinner. I would be okay with that. There is something about sharing or drinking the same things that creates a bond. That is also why I never got along with people that liked to drink to the point where they puke wich was very popular when I was young and unfortunately still is, because I have never been in to that.
I'm not interested in inebriation or overindulgence. But a glass of wine with a meal or during a shared moment is fine. If he prefers something on the rocks that's okay too. I like good food, good wine and great company. I love being in the midst of others who feel the same. We eat well, drink well and love well too.
I probably should clarify that I like dancing if it's stylish or classy. Ballroom dancing for example and the dresses are beautiful too. Not that I have ever danced, but if I should dance it would be ballroom dancing. I agree with the twerking that's a no go.
I love ballroom dancing. It's elegant and timeless. I used to watch the competitions too. As for twerking, everything has its place. It shouldn't be on the dance floor. It's too suggestive. But in the right setting with the appropriate company (i.e. your spouse) it may be viewed differently.
I think it does help. You are nice even when people step a bit out of line, like myself. You're not hammering down on me but telling me kindly when things are messed up.
I'm nice but very little bothers me. All those little upsets (molehills) rob us of our joy and peace of mind. Some people are mean spirited, moody, and so on. But that doesn't mean I have to join them. Choosing to do otherwise is empowering. I ignore a lot.
I agree I don't know people, I don't know what made them the way they are. The people I am talking about are politicians that get away with rape, or comedians that blaspheme and think it's allright because it's a joke. The more serious matters.
That's bad. But transgressing His word in response is worse. You've gotta be smarter than that. If it pushes a nerve pray every time. That's how you strike back in the spirit realm. The enemy used to put songs in my head until I started praying for the artist. He cut that out pretty quickly. That's the last thing he wanted!
I keep my disdain to myself. I am not interested in making people uncomfortable.
Love is the counterbalance. The more you focus on love and pray scriptures along those lines and cast down wrong thoughts the less they'll occur.
I must admit, I do like homogenous people and societies. I don't like when things get too diverse.
I value a shared faith and ethos in my inner circle. We may go about it differently. But our common denominators are greater than the differences. I'm admittedly more discriminating about women for many reasons. I like a certain spirit and temperament in my presence. I'm not into combativeness, snark, or negativity. I like kindhearted women who are personable and elegant. And comfortable in their own skin. I'm not into competition or comparison.
But outside of those confines I'm fairly tolerant and adaptable. I'm not marrying them or bringing them home. The extent of their influence and behavior is minimal or situational. I give them the room to be themselves. I know who I'm meant to impact. When I encounter them the recognition is mutual.
I think this is a very wise. A thing I should be thinking about applying myself, so I don't come of as being judgemental.
Consider our connection. Most women would have lectured you or had lengthy discussions about your sin areas. But what's the point? You know its wrong. Instead of dwelling on that I told you the price of continuance and let you decide. You have to own the decision and change. No matter what I impart you'll go about it your own way. As you should. Then its truly yours. It has to make sense to you to become a habit.