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what do you say to them, to stop them from asking you all the time.
Just wondering, as Theres this one person who is always doing it and its getting annoying. Like she will ring me up and she will have a whole list of things to have to ask me. Most of the time I just say sorry no, but she will kind do a kind of wheedle or weird thing where she will just assume I will do it for her (since im such a nice person) well not actually cos Jesus wasnt manipulated into doing things he actually didnt need to do.
This time its a pick up photos thing, she cant drive, so she got someone to pick up photos and for some reason they cant drive either so it turns out she wants me to go pick up photos from these ppl i havent even met and go all the way across town to visit her. I said couldnt you just get them posted, and then she goes oh there are too many, but im not going to go get them off this person and then store them somehwhere until i see her again.
This isnt just me she does this to everyone. I said are they important, like really urgent and she says no...but i want to see them..ugh.
So i said well if actually do decide to see you, I will pick them up on the way. but am not making a special trip for photos (which dont have anything to do with me) to someones house ive never been to before. She will just have to wait till she gets back to driving again. Do you think thats fair?
Or are christians meant to just do everything and anything everytime someone asks them a favour. No other christians have asked this much favours of me. So she might be a special case...but is it christian to just ask ppl all the time for kinda uneccesary things. Just think its being bossy or overly needy now. It would just be good if I could have a normal telephone call with her without her pulling out a list of things to ask.
My other christian friends who are know her get stressed out having to deal with her needs or demands all the time. At first its ok..she cant do a lot of stuff for herself, but then it becomes like, she will abuse this kindness and take advantage of it.
Just wondering, as Theres this one person who is always doing it and its getting annoying. Like she will ring me up and she will have a whole list of things to have to ask me. Most of the time I just say sorry no, but she will kind do a kind of wheedle or weird thing where she will just assume I will do it for her (since im such a nice person) well not actually cos Jesus wasnt manipulated into doing things he actually didnt need to do.
This time its a pick up photos thing, she cant drive, so she got someone to pick up photos and for some reason they cant drive either so it turns out she wants me to go pick up photos from these ppl i havent even met and go all the way across town to visit her. I said couldnt you just get them posted, and then she goes oh there are too many, but im not going to go get them off this person and then store them somehwhere until i see her again.
This isnt just me she does this to everyone. I said are they important, like really urgent and she says no...but i want to see them..ugh.
So i said well if actually do decide to see you, I will pick them up on the way. but am not making a special trip for photos (which dont have anything to do with me) to someones house ive never been to before. She will just have to wait till she gets back to driving again. Do you think thats fair?
Or are christians meant to just do everything and anything everytime someone asks them a favour. No other christians have asked this much favours of me. So she might be a special case...but is it christian to just ask ppl all the time for kinda uneccesary things. Just think its being bossy or overly needy now. It would just be good if I could have a normal telephone call with her without her pulling out a list of things to ask.
My other christian friends who are know her get stressed out having to deal with her needs or demands all the time. At first its ok..she cant do a lot of stuff for herself, but then it becomes like, she will abuse this kindness and take advantage of it.