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Discussion in 'Married Couples' started by DZoolander, Dec 6, 2017.

  1. DZoolander

    DZoolander Persnickety Member

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    Once my wife and I had kids - I started gaining weight. Mostly it was because it changed around my schedule so much that I ceased finding time to be active - plus I started "grazing" at night before going to bed. So over about 6-7 years of that I gained a bit more weight than I was comfortable with.

    About 6 months ago a buddy of mine saw this documentary called "fat, sick and nearly dead" and it inspired him to do this juicing diet thing. He lost something like 50 lbs in about a month and a half. Seeing him do it, plus recognizing that I'm not getting any younger, prompted me to put an end to that nonsense and get rid of my own excess weight. I toyed around with the idea of doing what he did for about 5 minutes - but after drinking a couple of kale apple smoothies - figured to heck with that.

    So I did my own thing - and in the past 6 months or so have gotten rid of *most* of what I gained. Still have a little bit more to go to get back to my youthful weight (lol) - but for all intents and purposes I got rid of most of it.

    There's this really obese lady at my work - and I guess she's been meaning to ask me about it for a while and finally did the other day.

    "Have you lost weight?"
    "Yeah, a little bit."
    (she goes into some long explanation about how she just noticed/etc). "What did you do?"
    "Truthfully, I just stopped grazing at night which was my biggest issue I think, became really regimented on what I ate, and worked out some."

    Her eyes just glazed over when she heard that answer. lol Not sure what she was expecting to hear.
     
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  2. Dave-W

    Dave-W Grandparent of six grandchildren, #7 on the way! Supporter

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    I doubt I could ever get back to what I was when we got married:

    145 lb and 6" 2"
     
  3. *LILAC

    *LILAC I'm a freak for lilacs! Supporter

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    Saying "I worked out some" literally has the word work in it. Some people don't want to work harder than getting their paycheque. Just sayin'! :p
     
  4. mkgal1

    mkgal1 His perfect way sets me free. 2 Samuel 22:33

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    I've probably made a similar facial response in the past when I've heard that people dropped something like 50 pounds by "just giving up soda", because I haven't drank soda for years (so I couldn't use that tactic)!

    Sometimes we want to hear something revolutionary :D

    Several years ago I felt I'd tried doing everything I'd heard we're "supposed to do"....but wasn't losing a pound. I was only drinking water (for years)....and refusing sweets at parties....eating no red meat....working out for an hour at least 3 times a week, and not eating 3 hours prior to bedtime. I wasn't losing anything. I finally went to a doctor that was a "functional medicine" doctor. One of the main reasons I couldn't lose weight was b/c I was deficient in iodine and Vit D (and a few other vitamins/minerals). As I understand it.....without the proper nourishment, our bodies don't function correctly. Nutrition is so complicated as our bodies learn to adapt (if we eat too much protein--our bodies convert that to sugar....then store that as fat). My body seems to have a paranoid and irrational fear that I'm going to starve it to death (and it seems to try everything to store up fat for that impending starvation!). It's frustrating :/
     
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  5. DZoolander

    DZoolander Persnickety Member

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    Wow - what was your waist size back then? lol

    I'm 6'03" - so basically the same height. When I was younger I always found the best size (for my build) to be around 195-200lbs. That was with a 32-34" waist.
     
  6. mkgal1

    mkgal1 His perfect way sets me free. 2 Samuel 22:33

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    That's probably a good thing to not get back to that weight.
     
  7. Dave-W

    Dave-W Grandparent of six grandchildren, #7 on the way! Supporter

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    30. Just try to find pants with a 30" waist and 32" inseam.

    The thing was, I could not go over 155 no matter how much I ate or lazed about. I tried to gain for years. It finally all caught up with me in the later part of my 20s.
     
  8. *LILAC

    *LILAC I'm a freak for lilacs! Supporter

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    If I went back to my pre-pregnancies weight, I'd be ill. lol I'd have to shrink a few inches and go down to 98 pounds. My hubby's 6' 1" and around 155 mark. He doesn't gain weight, either.
     
  9. mina

    mina Brown Eyed girl

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    I used to work out A LOT- I didn't have time for it, but I made time and I had a trainer and went to an exercise group with co-workers an additional 3 days a week. I'm thin anyway, but this just made me into great shape. It was a lot of work and dedication. and I never talked about it b/c people were just mean about it when they found out. "Why do you need to work out? You are too thin already, eat a burger"- all things I heard. One girl spread a rumour about me having an eating disorder. So nice. People are just funny about putting work into something and about judging others.
    Now I don't work out as much, I've had kids....I actually weigh less now than when before I was pregnant, but my old x-small/small clothes don't fit as well. It's like things have been repositioned, lol.
     
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  10. Dave-W

    Dave-W Grandparent of six grandchildren, #7 on the way! Supporter

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    Yeah - that happened to my wife after every pregnancy.
    Especially after the twins ...
     
  11. akmom

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    She probably wanted to hear something more specific.

    I've told people I do stretch bands for ten minutes a day and quit eating bread. It's not that far off. It just sounds less intimidating than "working out" which kind of conjures a cumbersome trip to the gym or something. I find that substituting a lower-carb entrée or snack works at least as well as giving it up, and people seem less averse to it. I lost over 30 pounds a few years ago, and pretty much kept it off because we worked those tricks into our routine.

    People are willing to make changes, not sacrifices, I think.
     
  12. Leah F

    Leah F Too blessed to be stressed.

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    I was never a thin person. Still people never believed me when I told them how much I weighed. When I was in High school I went on Jenny Craig and lost some of the weight. The I gain it all back and more when I was in college. In my late 20's I managed to lose 30lbs and kept it off till I met my husband last year. I gained some while we were dating but after the wedding I let myself go. I got back up to where I was in my 20s. All my pants stopped fitting. I used to wear jeans but now they are uncomfortable so I now wear yoga pants. Thankfully I changed jobs so I do not have to squeeze into work pants. With my new job I finally have the time to work out. I have been working out at the gym since September. I have only lost a few pounds so far. A woman the other day asked me how I could do an hour long workout on an elliptical and I really could not answer her. Also my husband said he has noticed my belly has gotten a bit flatter. I hopefully will keep losing the weight 1 pound a week. It seems to be where I am at right now except for the Holidays are going to throw it off some.
     
  13. Ana the Ist

    Ana the Ist Aggressively serene!

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    She must've thought you found that secret trick that doesn't involve changing diet habits or exercise.
     
  14. ValleyGal

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    The older you get, the harder it is to lose. I stuck with my "diet" plan for several years, then when I got married, he did not want to eat the way I ate. I found myself making pastas, buying bread, etc. It made me physically ill, but I made it and ate it anyway. It was not a difficult diet once I was on it, but the first few weeks are the hardest. I lost 100 lbs on it, and kept it off till I met husband. Then I gained some - not all - back. Recently I found that some of what I gained is the result of a medical condition that affects adipose tissue and is triggered by hormonal changes. I'm hopefully seeing a specialist in the next few months to determine a course of treatment. That should help to a great extent, which will then make exercising easier (it has greatly affected my mobility). But the diet that worked for me is eating six times a day, about 150-200 calories in each meal, and each meal has protein. The other part is no flour, refined sugar, cornstarch or yeast. Easy!
     
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