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You are focusing on his position. I'm focusing on his age and sex. Those attributes have a standard by which they operate. And those standards are hard to fight, even if the guy is a Christian. That is why they had the rule about the two being alone. He's not some "special case". He was a normal kid that age. I mentioned the movies because they are based on real culture. If people can't relate to them, they don't work.Well, very clearly I'm from a very different part of the USA. Sorry, not Amish - maybe you're not aware but there are no Amish communities in NJ. Just because you have Amish where you live doesn't mean they are everywhere. I was a teen also - what this youth pastor did was not typical for me. If it was typical for you then I have to tell you that most people would consider that very perverted, not "typical". Perhaps because you were a hippie you had no sexual boundaries, but again, that is not "typical" for regular folks in the USA (at least not at that time - maybe your kids' generation it is, as you seem to be saying it is for them).
I haven't seen all of those movies but can you point out to me where in Saturday Night Fever or Grease or Back To the Future or Clueless a youth pastor drove an underage, teenage girl into the woods instead of to her home as he initially said he would, then stopped in the middle of nowhere, then pulled out his penis, then told her to do what he said to do to it, then molested her?? I don't remember that scene in any of those movies.
And again, no, that is not "typical". At least, not in civilized places like where I'm from. That's deviant behavior. That's why there's an uproar over Harvey Weinstein decades after he did the same thing (to adult women, at that).
Please, tell me one of thse "MANY others" that has a scene which is like the one involving the youth pastor and girl from his youth group. I'm curious about these many films that portray that same kind of behavior as "typical". Please share.
Until you can show me that instead of just claiming it ad nauseum, I have to believe that you're wrong about that behavior being "typical" and that it's disingenuous to single out the guy for participating in that (what you call) "culture" (and what I and other civilized people call deviancy and sexual abuse and sexual assault).
So you think kids who are peers and are the same age and same roles/levels (i.e. neither one is in a position of authority of any sort over the other) fooling around and being promiscuous (fornicating) is the same thing as sexual assault/abuse and deviancy? That's the problem right there. Promiscuity and fornication may be wrong in that they are sinful, but a person in authority taking advantage and forcing himself upon someone who is under him, especially when one has the adult role and the other has the role of being the child, is a form of rape. That's the law and that's the morality behind it. How you don't see the difference is troubling. I'm sorry that you grew up thinking that rape was "typical", but it is not, no matter how much your life has been inundated with rape committed by either you or those around you.
Are you a victim of rape or sexual assault? I'm not. If you are, please share. I don't know first-hand but from what I hear from rape victims it is hard to come out with it and often when they try they are the ones blamed. Kind of how you're blaming the victim here, even decades later. It is clear from the story she tried to do the right thing but she was the one who was victimized again by being told to keep quiet in order to save her rapist from being humiliated or otherwise inconvenienced. She probably should have and could have gone another route but she was a kid who also probably felt hopeless after a second supposed "man of God" (by the way, both the men involved are devils and not men of God, they are filthy animals) also hurt her.
So I'm sorry (well, not sorry) but I can't buy your incorrect premise that rape or assault is "typical" and that the victim is to blame in this. Good luck with that spin though - spin spin spin!
And my information is based not only on my experience, but my family's, which is scattered all over the country. From Seattle, to Chicago, to Burbank, Napa, South Dakota, Kentucky and Florida. It also spans three generations. I'm like a broken record on this: What this kid did was wrong. Of that there is no doubt. But it must be put in the context of the culture. It must also be put in a context of what is "bad" and what is "really bad". It appears that at this certain point in human events and the #metoo culture, what used to be seen as "you need to keep these kids apart or else.", has become, "Hangin's too god for 'em".
The world seems to have lost its bearing regarding making the punishment fit the crime, or is suddenly deciding that what used to be a "minor" thing, is now a really big deal. That's fine, but don't ding those that did it when it was minor, with the modern "really big deal" mindset. If they do it NOW, that's different.
Judge things done now to today's culture. Judge things done 20 years ago to the culture of 20 years ago.
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