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One request - Please only respond if you are Orthodox, Eastern Catholic, OO or serious inquirers / catechumens. I don't want people coming in here and debating the value of 'submission' and whether we should or should not follow that model.
On the marriage forum on CF, there is a thread going on about 'feminism', 'submission' (despite the forum rules), and the appropriate (or inappropriate) gender roles for wives and husbands. I find myself torn in these discussions and have bowed out of any further replies, though I have kept an eye on what is being said. That said, it did make me wonder how we as Orthodox Christians live out our marriages, especially as a wife and future mother.
I've posted before about some struggles my husband and I have with figuring out job situations. So far, we have discussed us both keeping our jobs, as my job is more steady than his, especially since he is working on starting a business. We are starting to plan out when we will have kids, so I have been thinking a lot about our roles in an Orthodox Christian marriage as husband and wife.
In America (and I'm assuming much of the Western world), women are very much a part of the workplace. We often are working for years before getting married, and getting married later in our lives. Many of us establish a life on our own before entering a marriage. It is a difficult transition to switch into being a good Orthodox wife.
As Orthodox Christians, we wives are taught to submit to our husbands. We are taught that we as wives have a great responsibility as mothers. Our husbands are the spiritual heads of our households, and we respect him and submit to him, just as he puts our needs ahead of his.
So how does this translate into real life?
What does submission in an Orthodox Christian marriage mean to you?
Do you feel that we women have a responsibility to be the ones to take care of the home, and to stay home with children? Or does an Orthodox Christian marriage often 'look' like an egalitarian marriage, with the understanding that if something was to occur where an agreement can't be made, that the husband would have the final say?
How can an Orthodox wife fulfill her role, while still working full time? Or should she, if finances allow, decide to stay home with children?
We talk often about the Babas in our parishes and their importance to us, yet the husband is the spiritual head. What does being a 'spiritual head' mean to you as husbands?
My thoughts are a bit disjointed here, as I have been mulling over this for awhile. I appreciate all input from you all. Thanks!
On the marriage forum on CF, there is a thread going on about 'feminism', 'submission' (despite the forum rules), and the appropriate (or inappropriate) gender roles for wives and husbands. I find myself torn in these discussions and have bowed out of any further replies, though I have kept an eye on what is being said. That said, it did make me wonder how we as Orthodox Christians live out our marriages, especially as a wife and future mother.
I've posted before about some struggles my husband and I have with figuring out job situations. So far, we have discussed us both keeping our jobs, as my job is more steady than his, especially since he is working on starting a business. We are starting to plan out when we will have kids, so I have been thinking a lot about our roles in an Orthodox Christian marriage as husband and wife.
In America (and I'm assuming much of the Western world), women are very much a part of the workplace. We often are working for years before getting married, and getting married later in our lives. Many of us establish a life on our own before entering a marriage. It is a difficult transition to switch into being a good Orthodox wife.
As Orthodox Christians, we wives are taught to submit to our husbands. We are taught that we as wives have a great responsibility as mothers. Our husbands are the spiritual heads of our households, and we respect him and submit to him, just as he puts our needs ahead of his.
So how does this translate into real life?
What does submission in an Orthodox Christian marriage mean to you?
Do you feel that we women have a responsibility to be the ones to take care of the home, and to stay home with children? Or does an Orthodox Christian marriage often 'look' like an egalitarian marriage, with the understanding that if something was to occur where an agreement can't be made, that the husband would have the final say?
How can an Orthodox wife fulfill her role, while still working full time? Or should she, if finances allow, decide to stay home with children?
We talk often about the Babas in our parishes and their importance to us, yet the husband is the spiritual head. What does being a 'spiritual head' mean to you as husbands?
My thoughts are a bit disjointed here, as I have been mulling over this for awhile. I appreciate all input from you all. Thanks!
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