QuidTempusEst said:I absolutely agree with Joyce Meyer! There is something really demeaning about oral sex. It's behavior that reinforces the inferiority of women and their position to 'serve' men. In a world where women are consistently treated as inferior beings, God would not condone behavior that further hurts women. I've unfortunately seen some inappropriate contentography sites on the web through popups and wrong links and noticed that there is a lot of emphasis on oral sex from women to men. That ought to say everything about the wrongness of oral sex. There's even a huge problem nowadays with young girls being taught that they 'ought' to perform oral sex - which is a modern way young women are being indoctrinated into becoming 'women' with clear expectation about the 'role' of women. I agree with Joyce.
So is it then OK for men to perform oral sex on women...QuidTempusEst said:I absolutely agree with Joyce Meyer! There is something really demeaning about oral sex. It's behavior that reinforces the inferiority of women and their position to 'serve' men. In a world where women are consistently treated as inferior beings, God would not condone behavior that further hurts women. I've unfortunately seen some inappropriate contentography sites on the web through popups and wrong links and noticed that there is a lot of emphasis on oral sex from women to men. That ought to say everything about the wrongness of oral sex. There's even a huge problem nowadays with young girls being taught that they 'ought' to perform oral sex - which is a modern way young women are being indoctrinated into becoming 'women' with clear expectation about the 'role' of women. I agree with Joyce.
I absolutely agree with Joyce Meyer! There is something really demeaning about oral sex. It's behavior that reinforces the inferiority of women and their position to 'serve' men. In a world where women are consistently treated as inferior beings, God would not condone behavior that further hurts women. I've unfortunately seen some inappropriate contentography sites on the web through popups and wrong links and noticed that there is a lot of emphasis on oral sex from women to men. That ought to say everything about the wrongness of oral sex. There's even a huge problem nowadays with young girls being taught that they 'ought' to perform oral sex - which is a modern way young women are being indoctrinated into becoming 'women' with clear expectation about the 'role' of women. I agree with Joyce.
erin74 said:Ok,
Not sure I can add anything substantial to the theological side of this debate. I for one don't see that there is a theological issue with any of the sexual options that have been suggested. I can see that some think them not something they would want to do. That's fine too.
I just wanted to bring into it another factor that you may not have considered. For some couples there are medical reasons why 'normal' sex is not possible. Not sure about the male things, but for some females penetration is simply not possible. This really means that in order to satisfy one anothers needs it is imporstant to be a bit versatile and creative. Is this sinful. I don't think so at all. Sex is something given by God - he said to cleave to one another (really bad quote obviously). It is like glue really. So for some people this may have to be done another way. Oral sex is a fairly obvious option here.
Erin
EmSchmem said:So is it then OK for men to perform oral sex on women...
Katydid said:The poor little picked on women defense? I am a woman and I don't buy that one. I wonder how many women complain when their husband's satisfy them in this way.
Well that defense doesn't apply to all women I think. There are women, and maybe you're one of them, who have had the benefit of being taught to value themselves. But a lot of women don't. I'm speaking of them. I wouldn't tell you what to do in your marriage. I am speaking of my own opinion.
Look at it this way. I hope Joyce Meyer would not be offended by this straightforward talk, but personally, I couldn't take seriously a woman who preached and performed oral sex on her husband. There is something that doesn't seem right about it. How can you speak the word of God through that same mouth? Now that I think of it, the same probably applies to men preachers. It just isn't right.
Katydid said:If it is a problem for you, then it is your husband's responsibility to respect that, but you cannot make a rule just because you personally feel something. It is not an issue for me, so I feel that it is wrong to state a rule for feelings that don't apply everywhere.
Stating one's belief shouldn't mean that. Everyone has their own conscience before God and if God respects our own free will, then we are left to choose for ourselves.
QuidTempusEst said:It is different. A man isn't a second class citizen throughout most of the world, so this is not likely to reinforce a negative self-image. But this may not be true for all men - so I don't know.
QuidTempusEst said:Look at it this way. I hope Joyce Meyer would not be offended by this straightforward talk, but personally, I couldn't take seriously a woman who preached and performed oral sex on her husband. There is something that doesn't seem right about it. How can you speak the word of God through that same mouth? Now that I think of it, the same probably applies to men preachers. It just isn't right.
(it's not what goes into the mouth of a person that's a problem, it's what that mouth SPEAKS that's either good or bad)"Hear and understand: Not what goes into the mouth defiles a man; but what comes out of the mouth, this defiles a man."
Matthew 15:10b-11
And if God wanted us to fly, he'd have given us wings. And if he'd wanted us to travel more than 10km/hr, he'd have given us wheels... etc.QuidTempusEst said:From a biological standpoint, if God had meant us to have oral sex, He would not have put the excretory organs right next to the sex organs.
QuidTempusEst said:It is different. A man isn't a second class citizen throughout most of the world, so this is not likely to reinforce a negative self-image. But this may not be true for all men - so I don't know.
Look at it this way. I hope Joyce Meyer would not be offended by this straightforward talk, but personally, I couldn't take seriously a woman who preached and performed oral sex on her husband. There is something that doesn't seem right about it. How can you speak the word of God through that same mouth? Now that I think of it, the same probably applies to men preachers. It just isn't right.
From a biological standpoint, if God had meant us to have oral sex, He would not have put the excretory organs right next to the sex organs.
It is pretty sad that you seem to have such a lowly opinion of the male sexual organs. I mean, a woman's words are unclean if her lips have touched him there. Why??QuidTempusEst said:Look at it this way. I hope Joyce Meyer would not be offended by this straightforward talk, but personally, I couldn't take seriously a woman who preached and performed oral sex on her husband. There is something that doesn't seem right about it. How can you speak the word of God through that same mouth? Now that I think of it, the same probably applies to men preachers. It just isn't right.
EmSchmem said:Oh boo hoo women are treated bad. Weep weep wep cry cry cry... I am not a second class citizen in my marriage. I am not lesser because I chose to please my husband orally and when I spread the gosepl to other it is NOT defiled thank you very much. ANd I am crtainly not lesser when he decides to please me orally. You don't have to take me seriously but you can bet there are PLENTY who would not bother to take you seriously with your added rules and your qualifications as to who can and can not preach. And how do you know what God intended when he created us? Were you there? Were you giving Him input on what a ridiculous idea it is. After all our CHILDREN pass through that very same place near where we "excrete" are they somehow defiled by that? We vomit from our mouths when sick should we stop kissing each other as well? Egads what WAS that God guy thinking!?!?! Horrors upon horrors!
You don't have to have oral sex, noone is saying it is prescribed but at least use not ridiculous arguments if you're going to defend your standoint.
loved said:What a husband and wife do in their own bedroom is their own business, who are we to judge anyway?
loved said:What a husband and wife do in their own bedroom is their own business, who are we to judge anyway?