Online vs In Person

[redblue22]

I think about how I would be online versus how I am in person. There seems to be a lot of anger online that I respond to--but in person I would not listen to it. Do you feel like you are different online from in person?

 

[Neogaia777]

Very... I am very courageous online, but not so much in person, I'm up for a challenge or debate, or even fight online, not so much in person...

If you met me in person, you'd find that I am quite timid, meek and mild, humble and quiet and very cautious, while it is quite the opposite sometimes online...

I seek to be noticed and purposely call attention to myself online, but don't want any of that at all in person...

I am much kinder, and gentler and much more loving and kind and caring, and patient, and kind, and good(er), softer, more sensitive, all that, in person, than I am sometimes, (and have to remind myself sometimes), (who I really am) online, and I have to be careful not lose sight of my true self (both in person and online) than/vs. my "alter ego" online...

I feel like I can be like a "monster" or someone's worse nightmare online, but am not that way at all in person at all...

There is a definite, big difference...

God Bless!

 

[Neogaia777]

Very... I am very courageous online, but not so much in person, I'm up for a challenge or debate, or even fight online, not so much in person...

If you met me in person, you'd find that I am quite timid, meek and mild, humble and quiet and very cautious, while it is quite the opposite sometimes online...

I seek to be noticed and purposely call attention to myself online, but don't want any of that at all in person...

I am much kinder, and gentler and much more loving and kind and caring, and patient, and kind, and good(er), softer, more sensitive, all that, in person, than I am sometimes, (and have to remind myself sometimes), (who I really am) online, and I have to be careful not lose sight of my true self (both in person and online) than/vs. my "alter ego" online...

I feel like I can be like a "monster" or someone's worse nightmare online, but am not that way at all in person at all...

There is a definite, big difference...

God Bless!

I sometimes wonder if it's not just online, but around religious people and when dealing with religious people in general... Maybe why that's why I have a certain "aversion" to, or feel kind of uncomfortable in a church, or church setting and/or environment...?

God Bless!

 

[quietpraiyze]

I'm pretty much the same in temperament. I don't "morph". I think that takes too much energy....

 

[salt-n-light]

I think about how I would be online versus how I am in person. There seems to be a lot of anger online that I respond to--but in person I would not listen to it. Do you feel like you are different online from in person?

No people are the same person, but somehow we compartmentalize ourselves mentally from the habits that we have that may be bad online, to in-person and vice versa (e.g. maybe im perversive online as opposed to in-person, but somehow only count my personality and tendencies that are in-person). I feel like certain situations will bring out certain things in people, and its an important thing to examine ourselves in all things, like what you're doing now.

It helps to recognize that because it also gives me a better judgement on things and be less stress.

 

[redblue22]

I find that I laugh a lot more. Especially at serious conservative statements that are silly or ridiculous. I find that no one is really offended. Then again, I laugh at myself a lot. Rarely do I find someone who thinks I'm up to no good or evil. Oh, wait. If I talk at a Christian conservative church--whether yes or no--I'm considered evil. But that has little to do with me. I try to take it as fun. "Siiiiiiiiinnnnnnerrrrrr" And then I need to be tested for witchcraft. If I float, then I'm burned at the stake. If I don't float, then I drown dead and am not a witch.

 

[salt-n-light]

I find that I laugh a lot more. Especially at serious conservative statements that are silly or ridiculous. I find that no one is really offended. Then again, I laugh at myself a lot. Rarely do I find someone who thinks I'm up to no good or evil. Oh, wait. If I talk at a Christian conservative church--whether yes or no--I'm considered evil. But that has little to do with me. I try to take it as fun. "Siiiiiiiiinnnnnnerrrrrr" And then I need to be tested for witchcraft. If I float, then I'm burned at the stake. If I don't float, then I drown dead and am not a witch.

one can never be too careful when it comes to witches

 

[redblue22]

Siiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiinnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnneeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeerrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr!

 

[συνείδησις]

I'm not good at typing and hate it. It's like this huge bottleneck that constrains quick release of my thoughts. So I get hugely frustrated and irritated and try to be as brief as possible because typing is so tedious, which sometimes comes across the wrong way. Plus the lag time in communicating this way changes the way I communicate in person.

 

[JAM2b]

I am much more vocal online and even over text messages than I am in person. When it comes to talking I am better over the phone than face to face. In person I speak very little. I'm selective about what I will say, how much, and to whom. People take it to mean I'm shy, insecure, or even stuck up at times, but none of these things are true.

I'm an introvert and I have ADD. Conversation takes a lot of work for me to organize and transfer thoughts from my mind to come out of my mouth in a coherent sentence. I do a lot of pausing and thinking when I talk, and this makes other people dominate the conversation. I come across as confused or unintelligent sometimes when I'm really just trying to think and respond well. Which is funny because I have a tendency to think in conversation. I think the disconnect is simply getting the words from my mind to my mouth. Struggling to make words come together and communicate well add to the mental exhaustion being an introvert causes. I don't have much person-to-person energy.

When I type I can organize my thoughts better. There's not a pressure to get the words out and make them sound right and have the right expression and tone of voice. I can relax and just type what I want to say. This does make me more confident and more likely to speak up online.

 

[dayhiker]

I'm a peace maker and that shows up both in person and online.
The most militant I get is when someone is putting a guilt trip on someone else and I don't think they are even sinning. I tend to see love as broader than most people so I give people a lot of grace and friendship. That happens both online and in person.