- Jun 29, 2004
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Well, I've been married before, and I'm married now.
First marriage was a trainwreck, to put it in nice terms. We'll call the ex, "James".
Second marriage was...lacking. We'll call the ex "Benjamin."
Onto the third! Third time is a charm right?
This is my husband, who we can call, "Robert."
Whelp, there's a few details. The first marriage left me with a son I was raising on my own. First husband became increasingly threatening and hasn't seen my son since May 4th, 2009 (he was born 2/14/08...).
The second marriage, I met my best-friend, who was NOT my husband, but instead my father-in-law who began helping me raise my (then) 1.5 year old (who is now 5 1/4.)
My second husband, Benjamin, began seeking other women, prior to anything happening with Robert. I ended up diseased, to put it nicely, which thank GOD cleared, but Robert wasn't impressed with his son's behavior and he and I spent a lot of time hiking, fishing, swimming, talking, just being friends.
Things progressed and Robert left his abusive spouse, much like my first husband, James, and Benjamin and Robert had a huge wedge between them.
Whelp--now Robert and I have been married for 7.5 months, together (in a relationship) for over three years, and he's completely taken my son as his own. The wedge between his son (at least Benjamin, my ex husband) has healed a lot, especially since Benjamin had twin boys almost two years ago with a phenomenal girlfriend who is an excellent mom...
I try to be the best friend I can to Benjamin, and his younger brother "Patrick", but often it's obvious the pain still runs deep. Patrick seems to resent his father for divorcing his mother, though in truth she was the one who filed and was emotionally, occasionally physically, abusive.
So, in short, my current husband was married to a narcissist psychopath to some degree, as was I in my first marriage. The second marriage just failed ultimately, but led to my best-friend in the entire world, though he's 29 years older than I am, forgot to mention that...
It's hard for family functions. It's like walking around with the red "A" at times, though I am an ordained minister, as is my husband, Robert, and I am actually officiating my first marriage next month. Things are just difficult between family and I'm lacking knowing what to do.
*Sigh* I used to haunt CF a lot, then life happened, now my son is 5 and going into kindergarten and has the best dad in the world...help?
First marriage was a trainwreck, to put it in nice terms. We'll call the ex, "James".
Second marriage was...lacking. We'll call the ex "Benjamin."
Onto the third! Third time is a charm right?
This is my husband, who we can call, "Robert."Whelp, there's a few details. The first marriage left me with a son I was raising on my own. First husband became increasingly threatening and hasn't seen my son since May 4th, 2009 (he was born 2/14/08...).
The second marriage, I met my best-friend, who was NOT my husband, but instead my father-in-law who began helping me raise my (then) 1.5 year old (who is now 5 1/4.)
My second husband, Benjamin, began seeking other women, prior to anything happening with Robert. I ended up diseased, to put it nicely, which thank GOD cleared, but Robert wasn't impressed with his son's behavior and he and I spent a lot of time hiking, fishing, swimming, talking, just being friends.
Things progressed and Robert left his abusive spouse, much like my first husband, James, and Benjamin and Robert had a huge wedge between them.
Whelp--now Robert and I have been married for 7.5 months, together (in a relationship) for over three years, and he's completely taken my son as his own. The wedge between his son (at least Benjamin, my ex husband) has healed a lot, especially since Benjamin had twin boys almost two years ago with a phenomenal girlfriend who is an excellent mom...
I try to be the best friend I can to Benjamin, and his younger brother "Patrick", but often it's obvious the pain still runs deep. Patrick seems to resent his father for divorcing his mother, though in truth she was the one who filed and was emotionally, occasionally physically, abusive.
So, in short, my current husband was married to a narcissist psychopath to some degree, as was I in my first marriage. The second marriage just failed ultimately, but led to my best-friend in the entire world, though he's 29 years older than I am, forgot to mention that...
It's hard for family functions. It's like walking around with the red "A" at times, though I am an ordained minister, as is my husband, Robert, and I am actually officiating my first marriage next month. Things are just difficult between family and I'm lacking knowing what to do.
*Sigh* I used to haunt CF a lot, then life happened, now my son is 5 and going into kindergarten and has the best dad in the world...help?
