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How do you guys deal with trolls on social networks?

Sometimes when you ask an innocent question and you're not even trying to start a fight, someone sometimes insult you for no reason at all. I don't always get it. They call you names or they insult your intelligence. Why do they do that?

How do you deal with that? And how do you learn to not get offended by trolls?
 

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How do you guys deal with trolls on social networks?

Sometimes when you ask an innocent question and you're not even trying to start a fight, someone sometimes insult you for no reason at all. I don't always get it. They call you names or they insult your intelligence. Why do they do that?

How do you deal with that? And how do you learn to not get offended by trolls?

That's actually a 'snare'. A trick of the enemy meant to cause anger, build up prideful or arrogant parts in us, etc.

Because a snare is a trick of the "enemy", we should use the Lord's Prayer, prayed with real faith, belief, because it is the prayer Christ gave us to pray and includes explicitly that we be delivered out of the enemy's hands. Out of his snares.

Notice it says "this day", which seems to me to mean it's good to pray each day.

You can find it in Matthew chapter 6.
 
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I try to politely back out of conversation with them, and ignore (not necessarily in a formal “ignore button” way) any further responses they might make. No point in arguing, no point in continuing. Life is too short for that.
 
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I love trolls. I would be intellectually stagnant if I didn't let them ruffle my feathers every now and then.

However, if they really do bother you, I've never come across a social media platform that didn't have a block button. It's there for a reason.
 
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To deal with trolls, remember one thing - don't feed them. They are looking for a fight, that's all, don't give them the satisfaction, just ignore them completely. If they want to argue they can argue with themselves.
 
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How do you guys deal with trolls on social networks?

Sometimes when you ask an innocent question and you're not even trying to start a fight, someone sometimes insult you for no reason at all. I don't always get it. They call you names or they insult your intelligence. Why do they do that?

How do you deal with that? And how do you learn to not get offended by trolls?
I try to ignore the insult and win the argument. My theory is that once you insult someone, you've pretty much lost the argument.
 
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How do you guys deal with trolls on social networks?

Sometimes when you ask an innocent question and you're not even trying to start a fight, someone sometimes insult you for no reason at all. I don't always get it. They call you names or they insult your intelligence. Why do they do that?

How do you deal with that? And how do you learn to not get offended by trolls?
My mom used to say if someone was being rude or calling you names to, 'kill them with kindness.'
I was always surprised how well that worked, not all of the time but most of the time. Either they became a friend or they didn't want to even be around. I taught my kids the same thing.

Rom 12:20 I will recompense again, saith the Lord;' if, then, thine enemy doth hunger, feed him; if he doth thirst, give him drink; for this doing, coals of fire thou shalt heap upon his head;
Rom 12:21 Be not overcome by the evil, but overcome, in the good, the evil.

Unfortunately I don't always remember to respond so well. :sigh:
 
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How do you guys deal with trolls on social networks?

Sometimes when you ask an innocent question and you're not even trying to start a fight, someone sometimes insult you for no reason at all. I don't always get it. They call you names or they insult your intelligence. Why do they do that?

How do you deal with that? And how do you learn to not get offended by trolls?

It isn't easy. Best way I have found is to realise that what they say isn't about you at all; it is about them. Just bounce it back like a mirror and block them.
 
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How do you guys deal with trolls on social networks?

Sometimes when you ask an innocent question and you're not even trying to start a fight, someone sometimes insult you for no reason at all. I don't always get it. They call you names or they insult your intelligence. Why do they do that?

How do you deal with that? And how do you learn to not get offended by trolls?
Such people are mean-spirited and therefore don't have the spirit of Christ. This means that they have no connection with Christ at all, no matter how religious they think they are.
 
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Wow. I can remember some of the characters on the internet as far back as 1997. How fast, far, and terrible things would get when wrapped in distance and anonymity.

I do know that the unsaved are a mixed bag of self driven ideals. I certainly once was. They are not directed in ways we are to be holy. We fall away, and remember where we need to get back to. They typically draw their own maps and get lost or found at random or by the kindness or meanness of strangers.

In other words, if they are un Christian...well, they are supposed to be.
 
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How do you guys deal with trolls on social networks?

Sometimes when you ask an innocent question and you're not even trying to start a fight, someone sometimes insult you for no reason at all. I don't always get it. They call you names or they insult your intelligence. Why do they do that?

How do you deal with that? And how do you learn to not get offended by trolls?

I usually mentally fit people and responses into 3 categories.

1. It's a Christian that's having a really bad day or hurting badly from something, or misunderstood what I said, or perhaps I misunderstood their tone. I try to assume the best and assume it was unintentional. Sometimes, some people do need to be treated kindly and with some amount of patience and forbearance.

2. It's a Christian that thinks the topic under discussion is a matter of eternal life or death and must be dealt with seriously. This can be a challenge when they become quite tenacious about it. Some people simply cannot comprehend that another Christian might have a different view on the subject. A further challenge is when their behavior starts to rise to the level of bullying and driving good sincere people away.

3. A real troll that is out to hurt and disrupt. I usually don't respond to them if they are addressing me or on occasion report behavior or posts that are way out of line.

I usually assume it's 1 or 2. Once in awhile it's 3. The one thing I do is try to treat other Christians with gentleness and kindness realizing that it might be my chance to minister to them. I will however sometimes hop in and mix it up or do something if it looks like they are hurting someone or if some poor person is getting ganged up on by a number of people with the same viewpoint. If I find that it is affecting me (as in I cannot stop thinking about it), I walk away and do Bible reading until I find I can drop it from my mind. Sometimes I can drop it in a few minutes or hours, sometimes I need to leave it for a few days.
 
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Such people are mean-spirited and therefore don't have the spirit of Christ. This means that they have no connection with Christ at all, no matter how religious they think they are.

I wish that were true, but sadly it isn't. Christians can be trolls. Fallacy of No True Scotsman.
 
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I wish that were true, but sadly it isn't. Christians can be trolls. Fallacy of No True Scotsman.
Anyone can profess to be a Christian, but a genuine born again believer is seen by his or her conduct and behaviour.
 
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Anyone can profess to be a Christian, but a genuine born again believer is seen by his or her conduct and behaviour.

If only.

No true Scotsman - Wikipedia

'Philosophy professor Bradley Dowden explains the fallacy as an "ad hoc rescue" of a refuted generalization attempt.[1] The following is a simplified rendition of the fallacy:[4]

Person A: "No Scotsman puts sugar on his porridge."
Person B: "But my uncle Angus likes sugar with his porridge."
Person A: "Ah yes, but no true Scotsman puts sugar on his porridge." '
 
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If only.

No true Scotsman - Wikipedia

'Philosophy professor Bradley Dowden explains the fallacy as an "ad hoc rescue" of a refuted generalization attempt.[1] The following is a simplified rendition of the fallacy:[4]

Person A: "No Scotsman puts sugar on his porridge."
Person B: "But my uncle Angus likes sugar with his porridge."
Person A: "Ah yes, but no true Scotsman puts sugar on his porridge." '
An interesting analogy. But a true Christian is different. A true Christian is a new creature in Christ. Just because a person starts going to church and "gets" religion, and calls him or herself a Christian doesn't mean that they actually are. They could just be a religious person wearing Christian clothes. Man looks on the outward appearance but God looks on the heart. If a person is a compulsive criticiser and gets his or her jollies putting others down, which is actually spiritual bullying and abuse, just as bad as a domestic abuser, that person is not living consistently with 1 Corinthians 13 or the fruit of the Spirit in Galatians 5. Such a person is a religious hypocrite and not a genuine believer. Let's face it; such a person is an insult to every true believer who loves the Lord and loves others and would not dream of being a criticising, put-down, spiritual bully and abuser.
 
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I wish that were true, but sadly it isn't. Christians can be trolls. Fallacy of No True Scotsman.

I've found that when you look really close, that isn't applicable. We aren't just ignoring the wrongs of actual believers, Christians, and pretending such do not exist -- so it's not the norm even if it applies. But more, we can look even deeper at this putative 'fallacy' and critically examine the 'no true scotsman' idea and whether it applies even sometimes (instead of occasionally).

Example: I personally advocate a free market, free enterprise system with moderate regulation, just like the U.S. currently has. But what if I decided I would also try to claim to be "socialist", and that my own views should be what "socialism" is now? (Maybe I could make some argument, like "this is the real socialism" etc.)

See? I could claim to be a "socialist" though actually very much opposed to actual 'socialism' as the word has always been used.

--> Merely saying I am does not really make me one, unless we just empty words of their definition, and replace their definitions with simply whatever-anyone-claims.
Like I could just redefine "socialism"...
"Socialism -- once an idea that 'a political and economic theory of social organization that advocates that the means of production, distribution, and exchange should be owned or regulated by the community as a whole', but now meaning instead simply whoever says they are, no matter what views they hold; e.g. -- Socialism in modern form is to advocate for a state that has only military and courts and zero additional functions of government, but makes people rely on their neighbor's generosity or suffer without that."

We'd most all agree that's not a good way to define a term, like "socialism", but instead that "socialists" are those that at least mostly agree with the original definition or a clearly similar system largely following the initial impulse of older socialism.

Therefore, I think we definitely can keep the term "Christian" as being a group of people that largely agree with/believe in Christ's teachings, and not for example equally applied to a group that explicitly says the opposite in several ways of His teachings.

For instance, even if a new church started preaching that "we should love our neighbor, but definitely hate our enemies", and this is 'Christianity' the right way, etc., I will simply insist it isn't in accord with Christ's teachings, and won't worry if some opponents of Christianity in general try to throw the 'no true Scotsman' nonsense at me.
 
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How do you guys deal with trolls on social networks?

Sometimes when you ask an innocent question and you're not even trying to start a fight, someone sometimes insult you for no reason at all. I don't always get it. They call you names or they insult your intelligence. Why do they do that?

How do you deal with that? And how do you learn to not get offended by trolls?

On the cross, Jesus prayed to the Father to forgive them for they knew not what they were doing and 1 Corinthians 2:8 says that if they had known what they were doing, then they would not have crucified him. In the same way, trolls don't know know what they are doing or they would not be acting like they do. They've only been shown how to act like other trolls and haven't been shown how to love, so we should follow Christ's teaching and example of loving our enemies and doing good to those who persecute us. They want you to reply in kind, but that will just justify the way that they've been treating you, so the best way to judge someone that we don't have authority over is to act in a way that causes them to see their actions as being wrong in their own eyes. It is much more difficult for someone to continue to insult you when you respond with telling them how great they are, how much you love them, what you like about them, etc., than when you respond with insult them right back. I recommend this video:

 
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