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So recently my school had a homecoming dance. In the days leading up to the dance I had a dilemma of whether or not to fall into the peer pressure of grinding. I knew it was a sin but yet for some reason I didn't listen to God and when I went to the dance I decided to grind anyway. However, when I went up to a couple of girls I somewhat knew and thought would grind with me and tried to grind but she did not want to so I stopped but now during the school week i am paying the punishment for what I did because they told their friends what happened and now all of them hate me and it is just so awkward whenever I see them in the hallways or the cafeteria or something. I just need some prayers and help. I realize what I did was wrong and have already been praying and doing my best to live for God but i just want to know what you guys think
 

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Man, I don't mean to put it down, but its in highschool. I agree you shouldn't have grinded, but I wouldn't dwell on it. They may act awkward but you don't have to, being awkward (in a situation like that) is a choice, and I say this as a pretty awkward guy. Honestly, Highschool sucks, but its the perfect place to crash and burn, pick yourself up, and crash and burn again. I was so scared in highschool of stuff I didn't do anything, or hardly talk to anyone, now that I'm in college I'm trying to learn all the social nuances I should have learned in highschool. All in all, don't worry about it, but make sure not to do it again. If you were close with them beforehand then simply don't notice if they say something bad to you, and treat them as you did before. You may even find the "hate" is all in your head.
 
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I don't know what grinding is, but to preserve your Christian identity, I would suggest you come up yo the girls whom you have offended and apologize. Tell them it was an awful decision you made and that you feel lousy about it and apologize to them for putting them into that embarrassing situation and then ask them if they could forgive you. tell them that you won't be doing it again. I'm sure this will win back their respect.
 
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Your initial conviction was right. I'm very sorry that you gave into that temptation. God is merciful to forgive, and it is a great thing that you've recognised that it was wrong and are determined to live for Christ now. That is very precious in the Lord's eyes. From experience I've learned that God quite often seems to orchestrate negative consequences for our sins, to teach us. "The Lord disciplines the one he loves, and he chastens everyone he accepts as his son". You were chastened by the fact that word got round and the consequences were negative to you. Do you realise how fickle people's opinions are? You would have been damned if you did grind or damned if you didn't, and that voice of temptation hid the former to persuade you by the latter to side against the Lord. I think your chastisement is a sign that the Lord loves you as his son. Keep walking in him. You have my respect.

I think it doesn't matter whether you're in highschool or not; sexual purity is a matter of spiritual obedience, and I'd have thought that it applies to anyone above the age of puberty who cares about God's glory and their soul: sin isn't less sinful or damaging because it's committed by someone who is less mature in years. Timothy was young, and yet the Apostle Paul sent him out to be a church leader, and told him to let nobody think less of him because of his youth: being young had nothing to do with his responsibility to guide that church in holiness.

Moreover, as a matter of practical wisdom I've learned through life that what you do shapes the trajectory of what you go on to do. And habits make the man. I believe that a fornicator is not one who fornicates once and repents and is forgiven and washed clean through the covenant of Christ's blood, with a view to never defiling himself again; a fornicator is one who makes a practice of fornicating.

You did right to repent, and the Lord has chastised you in love. Take it in your stride, and don't listen to the peer pressure any more. If it's better to lose you right hand than to be sent wholly into hell through that besetting sin that it keeps causing you to commit to your estrangement from God, then you can afford to lose their esteem of you. As I said above, it's fickle anyway.

What God has forgiven, it is wrong of them to keep judging you for, if that's what they're doing. Stand strong in the Lord. Satan is called both the Tempter and the Accuser, and peer persuasion is very much one of his instruments. Don't listen to them. You are forgiven. Walk in it.
 
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I don't know what grinding is, but to preserve your Christian identity, I would suggest you come up yo the girls whom you have offended and apologize. Tell them it was an awful decision you made and that you feel lousy about it and apologize to them for putting them into that embarrassing situation and then ask them if they could forgive you. tell them that you won't be doing it again. I'm sure this will win back their respect.

This is exactly what I was going to say, I agree.
 
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I don't know what grinding is, but to preserve your Christian identity, I would suggest you come up yo the girls whom you have offended and apologize. Tell them it was an awful decision you made and that you feel lousy about it and apologize to them for putting them into that embarrassing situation and then ask them if they could forgive you. tell them that you won't be doing it again. I'm sure this will win back their respect.

I agree. I think that would help allot! Also remember we all make mistakes, but the main thing is that we learn from our mistakes and it can help us to do better next time we are tempted to say no. :)
 
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Guard your own heart while this plays out -- you will be getting different sorts of attention, including flattery and attention from people who thought you were more conservative. You opened the door to see yourself a different way too, and that comes with a smattering of different emotions.

There's a lot of power that shows up in choices like this. It was fun to get out of your box, fun to flirt, scary to take risks, and great to build friendships. Any risk comes with good and bad, and you might not have been prepared to handle the bad. If you are getting positive feedback from people you don't usually respect, then manage that well, hold your ground, and handle new opportunities wisely.
 
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Dear Revelation210Faith. You had helpful advice, and Jesus will forgive you if you ask for it. In Matthew 22: 35-40: Jesus tells us Love God with all our hearts, with all our souls, and with all our minds, also: to love our neighbour as we love ourselves. Do this and show God that you are sorry for what you did. Jesus also told us that on those two Commandments hang all the Law and the Prophets. The Bible tells us: " Repent and be Born Again," God wants us to give up all selfish wishes and wants, and change gradually into the sons and daughters which God wants us to be. Do this and God will know that you are trying to become as God wants us to, and your friends will know that that you are sorry for what you did. I say this with love. Greetings from Emmy, your sister in Christ.
 
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