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[heart of peace]

Hello in here - I think I may post in here time to time. I am currently a mom to one boy, almost 3. I am wanting to start trying for a second child but my husband and I have decided to wait for another year because of other reasons. If things were different, he agrees that we could start trying now :-( I have started taking the steps though to prepare my body for another pregnancy, just in case God has different plans for us .

So, for those that have more than one child and planned on the subsequent pregnancies, how did you know it was the time to get pregnant again?

 

[jessesgirl]

how exciting for you!

We haven't had more than one, but we decided a few months ago that we wouldn't be on any contraception and that whatever God planned, we would give Him free reign to do in our lives. Justin is one and still no second baby, but we are hoping someday soon!

We decided to go ahead and start the stopping (contraception) because we want a big family and we want our kiddos fairly close in age.

 

[Orthosdoxa]

Hi Ms. Dahl! Fancy seeing you here!

(I was just poking around and noticed your name.)

We're thinking about trying for a third, but need to get a few bills paid first AND I need to lose 50 pounds. (Actually I need to lose more than that but that's what we decided as far as TTC goes.) I've gotten so crazy fat these past few years, after being a size 12 in college. It's crazy. And I totally believe that being as overweight as I am is why I had so many complications with my twins.


So, that's where we are. Oh, wouldn't that be fun if we were pregnant at the same time?

 

[heart of peace]

Hey Orthosdoxa, this is a pleasant surprise! I haven't really explored much more than the parenting forum and of course TAW here. This place is so daunting, I don't know where to start...lol You had a complicated pregancy? Were you on bedrest at all?

I have several solid reasons of why we need to put it off a bit longer but I am starting to get antsy for another child. My heart sighs each time I think of holding a newborn, if that makes any sense. I pray that when the time is right for us, God will make it clear as day to us that we can start trying for real for real I get the sense that the time will be anywhere between 6 months to a year from now.

 

[Orthosdoxa]

You had a complicated pregancy? Were you on bedrest at all?

Yeah - it started at 10 weeks with bleeding and cramping. I was placed on semi-strict bedrest. At 15 weeks, I began gushing torrents and clots of blood, DH rushed me to the ER, where we saw two heartbeats, but they couldn't stop the bleeding. They said there was no hope and they were sorry, and to come back in the morning if I was still bleeding, because I'd probably need a blood transfusion by then, I'd lost so much. DH and I spent the next three days in bed sobbing our eyes out, holding each other, begging the Mother and God and St. John the Wonderworker for intercessions. After 40 hours the bleeding finally slowed down, though I never did go back for that blood transfusion. I guess (subconsciously) if my babies didn't live, I didn't want to either. I saw my OB the following Monday and he ordered me on full bedrest and to do NOTHING but get up to go to the bathroom. DH had lost his job 4 days before the massive bleed, so he was there to wait on me hand and foot.

I was like that, in bed full time, for 5 months, until mid to late July, when I was 32 or 33 weeks or so. I was going stir crazy and reasoned by then that if they had to take the babies, they'd be okay, plus I hadn't had any further bleeding for a while (which I still did during part of that time in bed). I wasn't running marathons or anything, but I let myself get up and do my hair, etc. The babies were born Aug. 14.

So yeah, I'm a little spooked to TTC again. I know exactly what you mean about the heart sighs, though - I think about a newborn all the time!!

 

[heart of peace]

Wow, what an experience! Glory be to God that you not only survived the ordeal but that you have your blessed children in your lives. What a testimony you have. No wonder I am so amazed by your spirituality, girlfriend! hehe

Thank you for sharing such a personal experience. I take it seriously when those that do not know me very well extend such an honor.

 

[heart of peace]

I keep getting this sense that God is wanting me to prepare for a new soul to enter our family. I think about another child probably 4 days of the week. I picture 2 children in my arms all the time. I need to get into some serious prayer to discern if this is my own flesh that is feeling this way or if this is truly something that is being placed in my spirit by God.

I'd love to know about how those in here who planned to have their subsequent children - what led you to believe it was time to have your next child. Anybody?

 

[Orthosdoxa]

I guess I'm not sure how to answer that. My DH and I both feel that we are not done yet. I wouldn't worry that my desire for a child is just my own flesh - children are always a gift from God, whether they were greatly desired and worked for, or whether just a surprise.

But we'll see what happens. 4 years of marriage and only one pregnancy, and we've never used birth control. I wasn't supposed to be able to get pregnant at all. Oh, how I want another little one, though. Last time, I was pregnant two weeks after being anointed with the oil from a weeping icon of St. Anna. Perhaps I shall have to ask Father about another annointing.