My wife and I got married a month ago and we just moved into our new house. She has an 11 year old son. They were previously living with her mother. My wife's mother pretty much raised him because my wife was working. The problem is, his grandmother babied him, let him get away with whatever he wanted, gave him what he wanted, she dressed him, and she even did his homework for her. So as you can see, it was a very toxic environment.
So now he is living with us. He has known me for over a year and a half and we have a great relationship. Last night was the first night we slept together as a family. He was up all night crying because he wants to move back in with his grandmother. She is also texting him telling him lies about me that I am not going to let him see her, that I'm taking her away from him, that only she can take care of him.
It is really hard on us because we want to be a family so bad and know this is what is best for him. All he talks about is wanting to move back in with her, and wanting to go spend time with her. Thing about that is, if he goes over there, he won't want to come back with us and my wife's dad has a history of violence. They don't want me to go to their house because they don't like me because I am preventing them from abusing and taking advantage of my wife.
I know I am rambling but I am at my wits end. I really don't know what to do at this point. It is a fine line between letting him vent and heal and get adjusted from living with us, but don't want him going back over there because of the toxic environment and the violent tendencies.
So now he is living with us. He has known me for over a year and a half and we have a great relationship. Last night was the first night we slept together as a family. He was up all night crying because he wants to move back in with his grandmother. She is also texting him telling him lies about me that I am not going to let him see her, that I'm taking her away from him, that only she can take care of him.
It is really hard on us because we want to be a family so bad and know this is what is best for him. All he talks about is wanting to move back in with her, and wanting to go spend time with her. Thing about that is, if he goes over there, he won't want to come back with us and my wife's dad has a history of violence. They don't want me to go to their house because they don't like me because I am preventing them from abusing and taking advantage of my wife.
I know I am rambling but I am at my wits end. I really don't know what to do at this point. It is a fine line between letting him vent and heal and get adjusted from living with us, but don't want him going back over there because of the toxic environment and the violent tendencies.