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Hello all,


I’m new to this forum and from Canada. My profile lists my age as 45, though I am actually 40. I joined out of curiosity—to engage in online debate, discussion, and learning, as well as to use this as a social outlet.


I want to share a bit about myself. I try to make the best of my situation, though I do face challenges—mainly isolation. I receive disability benefits due to an autism diagnosis I received in my early 30s. I share this as a factual part of my situation; it is not something to debate, and I hope it is understood as context rather than judgment. I do view my diagnosis as a subjective medical opinion and view myself as having higher functioning autism.


I am aware that some perspectives, including certain Christian views, may frown upon using social assistance. For context, I was a contributing member of the economy for nearly 20 years before needing support. I also have intellectual property—original music, a TV script—and other talents that simply aren’t utilized today because I receive disability benefits. This is not a choice or a fault of mine; it reflects my neurology and circumstances, which are beyond my control. I hope this is understood rather than judged.


Despite challenges, I have held many positions in my lifetime, including being a professional musician for approximately 10 years. One of my primary goals is to find more meaning, to improve my income, and to become healthier socially by forming meaningful connections.


Currently, I am involved in a discrimination dispute with an employer. I was rejected from an interview after sharing my autism diagnosis. While the case is moving toward conciliation and I am confident in my legal position, the dispute has resulted in a loss of income and thre social benefits associated with employment for over a year. I try to focus on what I can control and remain optimistic about the outcome. The fact it has dragged on for over a year and may be even a few more years before any outcome is realized is something which bothers me. While it is an unfair situation, I am sure I will achieve a favourable outcome. The only issue is it will take a long time. I won't get justice today, and maybe not even within a year.

I have many interests: human rights issues, physical fitness (I used to run competitively as an amateur with moderate success), creative arts (I have composed original music), and learning about the stock market. I am curious and enjoy learning about a wide range of topics.


I do not view myself as a Christian, though I see value in learning about different faiths. For me, meaning comes from lived experiences and meaningful social connections. Like many people with autism, I experience isolation and unemployment. The vast majority of people with autism are unemployed, unfortunately and this is supported by statistics.


In summary, I am grateful for what I have, aware of my challenges, and focused on thriving. I hope to meet new, well-intentioned people and form meaningful relationships.
 
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Hello all,


I’m new to this forum and from Canada. My profile lists my age as 45, though I am actually 40. I joined out of curiosity—to engage in online debate, discussion, and learning, as well as to use this as a social outlet.


I want to share a bit about myself. I try to make the best of my situation, though I do face challenges—mainly isolation. I receive disability benefits due to an autism diagnosis I received in my early 30s. I share this as a factual part of my situation; it is not something to debate, and I hope it is understood as context rather than judgment. I do view my diagnosis as a subjective medical opinion and view myself as having higher functioning autism.


I am aware that some perspectives, including certain Christian views, may frown upon using social assistance. For context, I was a contributing member of the economy for nearly 20 years before needing support. I also have intellectual property—original music, a TV script—and other talents that simply aren’t utilized today because I receive disability benefits. This is not a choice or a fault of mine; it reflects my neurology and circumstances, which are beyond my control. I hope this is understood rather than judged.


Despite challenges, I have held many positions in my lifetime, including being a professional musician for approximately 10 years. One of my primary goals is to find more meaning, to improve my income, and to become healthier socially by forming meaningful connections.


Currently, I am involved in a discrimination dispute with an employer. I was rejected from an interview after sharing my autism diagnosis. While the case is moving toward conciliation and I am confident in my legal position, the dispute has resulted in a loss of income and thre social benefits associated with employment for over a year. I try to focus on what I can control and remain optimistic about the outcome. The fact it has dragged on for over a year and may be even a few more years before any outcome is realized is something which bothers me. While it is an unfair situation, I am sure I will achieve a favourable outcome. The only issue is it will take a long time. I won't get justice today, and maybe not even within a year.

I have many interests: human rights issues, physical fitness (I used to run competitively as an amateur with moderate success), creative arts (I have composed original music), and learning about the stock market. I am curious and enjoy learning about a wide range of topics.


I do not view myself as a Christian, though I see value in learning about different faiths. For me, meaning comes from lived experiences and meaningful social connections. Like many people with autism, I experience isolation and unemployment. The vast majority of people with autism are unemployed, unfortunately and this is supported by statistics.


In summary, I am grateful for what I have, aware of my challenges, and focused on thriving. I hope to meet new, well-intentioned people and form meaningful relationships.
Welcome!
 
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Hello @redraven, WELCOME TO CF :wave: I'm glad that you found us and joined in the discussions with us :)

Your personal intro was great :oldthumbsup: Thank you for sharing it with us!

As far as being accepted here, I don't think that you'll have a problem with anyone, but if you do, there are people here to help (including most of us). Also, if you'd rather not make an official complaint about another member with a mod (but you'd still like to do something), you can quickly/easily choose to "Block" a member who is bothering you for some reason (and unblocking them again later, if you choose to do so, is just as quick and easy).

Just FYI, we have a board here for people who are on the Autism Spectrum to get and/or to give help from/to others (and other members, those not on the Spectrum, are allowed to join in too if they'd like to or think that they can be helpful in some way). You can find that board here: Autism & Aspergers

I'm sorry to hear about the isolation and unemployment that you've been experiencing, however, you sound like you've had, and are still having, a very interesting life, so I look forward to talking with you out one some of the other boards soon :) (and I hope that this place will help a bit with your feelings of isolation going forward :oldthumbsup:).

--St_Worm2 (David)
p.s. - I'm glad that you're interested in looking into others' religious beliefs because that topic is a very important one to most of our Christian members, including myself, so it will, no doubt, be a topic that several of us may broach with you from time to time :) (though if you'd prefer not to discuss something with us sometimes, just let us know).
 
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Thank-you so much St_worm2, very kind of you. I feel pretty comfortable regardless of the forum because at the end of the day, it's just
a website and you can log off if it isn't your preference. I was up front about the autism and my circumstances because for me it is relevant. At the same time, I know from experience on a different forum how sharing this info. has been used against me. I won't name the forum, but I have experienced relentless online harassment for years simply for sharing certain details. Anonymity can sometimes be advantageous. I also believe some people are simply quite disturbed and likely mentally ill when their behaviour is to inflict harm intentionally. I try not to take comments personally when they come from people who in my view are unwell.

I don't share the experience of autism and the past harassment to sound like a victim either.

The isolation/unemployment is reality, but I do have resources available. I don't mind spending a lot of time online, but I also don't want my life to be spending 10 hours+ per day online and I want more meaningful connections that go beyond online.

You mention the 'Golden Rule'. Do to others what you would have them do to you. I agree - this is basic common sense. Easy to understand in principle yet not always applied by all people. I don't see any quote from Mark Twain? Here is one I just looked up: "The secret of getting ahead is getting started'. Yes, a good quote. I am trying to find more meaning in my life. What exactly I should be working on I do not know.
I have been very motivated at various points in my life and maintained a more disciplined routine. These days I am unsure what I should do to find more meaning and purpose, though I have not given up hope.
 
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Thank-you so much St_worm2, very kind of you. I feel pretty comfortable regardless of the forum because at the end of the day, it's just a website and you can log off if it isn't your preference.
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I was up front about the autism and my circumstances because for me it is relevant. At the same time, I know from experience on a different forum how sharing this info. has been used against me. I won't name the forum, but I have experienced relentless online harassment for years simply for sharing certain details.
I'm sorry to hear that, and I certainly hope that it doesn't happen to you again, especially here at CF!!

Anonymity can sometimes be advantageous. I also believe some people are simply quite disturbed and likely mentally ill when their behaviour is to inflict harm intentionally. I try not to take comments personally when they come from people who in my view are unwell.
That's a good attitude to have, especially online, because unlike the "old days" when we typically talked in person or, at least, over the phone to each other, acceptable/civil behavior is often replaced by rude behavior on social media platforms. People are mean (for all kinds of reasons .. the Christian faith talks at length about why, just FYI), but back when we were regularly forced to interact with one another "in person" to communicate, it seemed so much easier to treat other people like, well, people :)

I don't share the experience of autism and the past harassment to sound like a victim either.

The isolation/unemployment is reality, but I do have resources available. I don't mind spending a lot of time online, but I also don't want my life to be spending 10 hours+ per day online and I want more meaningful connections that go beyond online.
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You mention the 'Golden Rule'. Do to others what you would have them do to you. I agree - this is basic common sense. Easy to understand in principle yet not always applied by all people.
Yes, it's a principle that's been around for centuries and in many different cultures, although it's mostly been a "don't do" kind of principle outside of Christianity, as well one that had "self" in view, at least first & foremost. As one famous rabbi put it (loosely), "Don't do anything bad to other people so that they won't do anything bad to you".

While my preferred translation of The Golden Rule wording isn't the common one ("Do unto others...." is), it still says the same thing, so, here again is the Christian version of this principle from Jesus.


Matthew 7
12 However you want people to treat you, so treat them, for this is the Law & the Prophets.

The difficulty with Jesus' version is what He meant by it/how it is to be obeyed, IOW, that we are to always treat others in the way that we, at least, hope that they would choose to treat us, even when they have treated us and/or are treating us horribly (which is what makes always following His version of the principle difficult).

Finally, something that I have found very fascinating and may interest you too is what Jesus sums up for us in the first half of it, specifically, "the Law and the Prophets" (which is one of the ways that Jews refer to the entirety of the Old Testament). IOW, "However you want people to treat you, so treat them" is the whole of the teaching of the Old Testament's commandments, laws, precepts, etc., distilled down for us into half of a sentence (all that is taught to us there about how we are to relate to one another, anyway), which I, at least for one, find amazing!


I don't see any quote from Mark Twain?
I edited the first version of my post into what you see above now, because it seemed too long to me. That said, here's the missing quote that I edited out (right after I posted it) from Twain.

Mark Twain - Kindness Deaf Hear Blind See.jpg

Just FYI, "patience and kindness", according to the Bible, as the two principal "ingredients" (if you will) in Godly love (you'll find the whole "ingredients" list here: 1 Corinthians 13:4-8a .. a passage that is read at most Christian weddings, in point of fact, as it ends with, "love never fails" :) (and if you'd care to read the passage in context, here are the first three verses prior to the "list" 1 Corinthians 13:1-8) the whole of which giving us much insight into the Christianity or, at least, what the Christian faith is supposed to look like, anyway).

Here is one I just looked up: "The secret of getting ahead is getting started'.
That's a very good quote, as most of Twain's quotes are (even the rude ones ;)).

I am trying to find more meaning in my life. What exactly I should be working on I do not know.
I have been very motivated at various points in my life and maintained a more disciplined routine. These days I am unsure what I should do to find more meaning and purpose, though I have not given up hope.
I have some ideas about that, because that (finding the true and ultimate meaning and purpose to life, that is) is a big part of what finally led me to the Christian faith 39 years ago (I wasn't always a Christian, just FYI). I'll leave talking about that for a later time however, and only if you want to hear about it then, of course.

--David
p.s. - here's another quote for you (one that is both thought-provoking and nice enough for the forum we are on, too ;)).


Mark-Twain-The-two-most-important-days-in-your-life.jpg
 
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