I went through a long period of singleness in the past. My friends were instrumental in helping me navigate dating when I decided to begin once more. I can’t stress the importance of having wise people in your corner who’ll encourage, counsel, and help you examine potential partners.
Although I haven’t experienced this to the degree you mentioned, the gap created problems during a period when most my age were partnered and gaining experience. I was very naive and they were a welcome buffer.
My outlook was positive. I didn’t see the angles and pitfalls. But they educated me and I learned my share on my own. The two qualities I would look for in a prospect are patience and honesty.
You need someone who’s willing to move at your pace who won’t make you feel inept because of your inexperience. In the meantime, healthy friendships with happy couples are a must.
You don’t need anyone filling your head with nonsense and jaded rhetoric. Ask them for constructive feedback on your personality, appearance, and conversation. Get input from both sexes.
Long periods of unattachment can foster insecurities. Join a Toastmaster group and do the exercises for both tracks. You’ll enhance your leadership skills and improve your communication. You’ll meet others and makes a few friends while you’re there.
If you don’t have a hobby this is a great time to pursue things of interest. Don’t forget physical fitness and good health. Investing in a better you improves your appeal and increases your quality of life.
While you’re working on you, check out
Dating Divas. They have great ideas for dates and fun ways to spend quality time with your partner. You’ll have several ideas in hand as you meet others.
In case you’re wondering, I practice what I preach.
2018 was busy and I dated a lot. I needed a break the following year. But I’m ready to start again. I revamped my look and raised the bar on my appearance. I’m taking sewing classes, going to Toastmasters, volunteering with a global organization with black tie events, expanding my social network, and relentlessly pursuing my purpose.
Desire is nice but you need to give them a reason to say yes. And that must relate to their needs and values. You ask yourself what you’re adding to their life and how it will improve with your presence.
Dating enables us to answer that question. Some opt for courtship in its place or intentional friendships. Through our interactions we make a value assessment. We’re determining whether their presence is unforgettable..irreplaceable...and worthy of a lifelong commitment.
Women haven’t given up. We’re more self-aware than in the past. We’re not waiting to be rescued or hindered by limiting thoughts and outlooks. We strive for holism and seek to nurture every facet of our person.
This is difficult for those whose ideals pigeonhole the fairer sex. And it doesn’t account for their gifts and talents. Divine attributes the Lord bestowed that have their intended use.
And if you keep that principle in mind: mutual growth and betterment. You’ll receive the fruit of your labor.
Good luck and don’t lose hope.
~Bella
