- Oct 17, 2009
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I've owned and lived in my small home for 19 years and live next to a rental property that is really close--as in 6 feet away. It's 2 adults, 1 kid who is 11 years old who usually has a friend about the same age there, 2 dogs and a cat in 2 bedroom rental that's smaller than my house. The kids are often outside throwing balls, frisbees and other things around and always manage to throw something at the side of my house at least once while outside. I've even found damage to my vinyl siding. At one point, I saw the kid throw a snowball at my kitchen window.
When I know the kids are outside throwing things around, I try to discreetly watch them through a window in my kitchen so I can catch them in the act. They always see me since they keep looking in my window at me. But I took comfort in knowing that if they see me, then they'll know that I'll see when they throw something at my house, reducing the chance they'll do it.
Well, one day I noticed a motion sensing security camera on their back porch--aimed directly at my kitchen window from 6 feet away. I discovered this after a couple times of going outside to check for further damage to my siding and then the neighbor went outside right afterward to stand and stare at my window. It looks like their camera sends alerts to their phone. So now I can't even go outside my house without the neighbor being notified.
Finally, just yesterday, I decided I'd had enough, and after hearing a loud BANG against my house, I opened the window and told him that if he does it one more time, he'd be in trouble. 5 minutes later, the parents are banging on my front door. I grabbed my phone, set it to video record, and answered the door with the phone in my hand.
As the arguments and accusations flew back and forth, I discovered that they had called the police on me after their kid said I was watching him through my kitchen window and was "intimidating" him. They said the police advised them to install a camera if they had concerns about me. (I've since discovered that this is legal here, even if it looks into my window). The mom also didn't believe what I said about her kid throwing things at my house, citing that she didn't hear anything. "Of course not!", I said. "It's MY house he's throwing things at, not yours!" She also stated that a reason for the camera was because I have my curtains open all the time which she said is "creepy". I told her that it's my main south-facing window and I want to let the sun in and the curtains are not easy to reach anyway. She informed me that I don't need to have the sun coming in since I don't have any plants in my house--something she wouldn't know without looking in my window, which I find to be even more creepy. She even stated that when they first moved in last November, my curtains were closed at that time, but have been open ever since. Not true. Other crazy arguments were also made but this should be enough for now. I could post the video of the argument, but would that be legal for me to do?
What gets me the most is that she seems to believe that there's nothing wrong with her kid looking in my window, and that it's either no problem or not even true that he throws things at my house, and that it's ok for her to look in my windows, but it's NOT ok for me to look out my window, and even calls the police on me for it, and then sets up a camera to stare into my house. Sure, I could just keep the curtains closed, but I've learned in the past that when I do that, the kid becomes more emboldened to do things he shouldn't do because he knows I'm no longer watching him. So I leave the curtains open for that reason, and to bring in more daylight.
What do you think? Does my neighbor have more of a right to look into my windows than I have the right to look out? Should I close the curtains and feel like I have to stay in the dark about who's throwing things at my house? Would doing so be a way of trying to create peace, or would I just be giving a bully neighbor what they want? I can't even go around that side of the house without being recorded on camera and then stared at by the neighbor afterwards, or even something thrown at my house at that time. I know the name of this neighbor and have done an internet search of them. She has a lengthy police record which includes a rather messy neighbor problem in the past that involved her ending up in jail and doing community service, so I know I'm not the only one she's had problems with.
Ok, any advice, other than to write shorter posts?
When I know the kids are outside throwing things around, I try to discreetly watch them through a window in my kitchen so I can catch them in the act. They always see me since they keep looking in my window at me. But I took comfort in knowing that if they see me, then they'll know that I'll see when they throw something at my house, reducing the chance they'll do it.
Well, one day I noticed a motion sensing security camera on their back porch--aimed directly at my kitchen window from 6 feet away. I discovered this after a couple times of going outside to check for further damage to my siding and then the neighbor went outside right afterward to stand and stare at my window. It looks like their camera sends alerts to their phone. So now I can't even go outside my house without the neighbor being notified.
Finally, just yesterday, I decided I'd had enough, and after hearing a loud BANG against my house, I opened the window and told him that if he does it one more time, he'd be in trouble. 5 minutes later, the parents are banging on my front door. I grabbed my phone, set it to video record, and answered the door with the phone in my hand.
As the arguments and accusations flew back and forth, I discovered that they had called the police on me after their kid said I was watching him through my kitchen window and was "intimidating" him. They said the police advised them to install a camera if they had concerns about me. (I've since discovered that this is legal here, even if it looks into my window). The mom also didn't believe what I said about her kid throwing things at my house, citing that she didn't hear anything. "Of course not!", I said. "It's MY house he's throwing things at, not yours!" She also stated that a reason for the camera was because I have my curtains open all the time which she said is "creepy". I told her that it's my main south-facing window and I want to let the sun in and the curtains are not easy to reach anyway. She informed me that I don't need to have the sun coming in since I don't have any plants in my house--something she wouldn't know without looking in my window, which I find to be even more creepy. She even stated that when they first moved in last November, my curtains were closed at that time, but have been open ever since. Not true. Other crazy arguments were also made but this should be enough for now. I could post the video of the argument, but would that be legal for me to do?
What gets me the most is that she seems to believe that there's nothing wrong with her kid looking in my window, and that it's either no problem or not even true that he throws things at my house, and that it's ok for her to look in my windows, but it's NOT ok for me to look out my window, and even calls the police on me for it, and then sets up a camera to stare into my house. Sure, I could just keep the curtains closed, but I've learned in the past that when I do that, the kid becomes more emboldened to do things he shouldn't do because he knows I'm no longer watching him. So I leave the curtains open for that reason, and to bring in more daylight.
What do you think? Does my neighbor have more of a right to look into my windows than I have the right to look out? Should I close the curtains and feel like I have to stay in the dark about who's throwing things at my house? Would doing so be a way of trying to create peace, or would I just be giving a bully neighbor what they want? I can't even go around that side of the house without being recorded on camera and then stared at by the neighbor afterwards, or even something thrown at my house at that time. I know the name of this neighbor and have done an internet search of them. She has a lengthy police record which includes a rather messy neighbor problem in the past that involved her ending up in jail and doing community service, so I know I'm not the only one she's had problems with.
Ok, any advice, other than to write shorter posts?
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