Hello,
I'm not sure where your husband is spiritually, but some adjustments will be necessary with prayer and some others to consider. Well... many aren't going to like the process but some face this issue today and it's becoming more rampant.
The Bible says wives submit to your husbands but it also says:
Ephesians 5:25 - Husbands,
love your wives, even as
Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it;
Colossians 3:19 - Husbands, love your wives, and be
not bitter against them.
Those two might help him. But... The dress code is something God wants women (and men) to adhere to as He cherishes us. This prevents others from stumbling and sinning against God via adultery. (1 Timothy 2:9-10, Matthew 5:28) We're held accountable for causing others to sin. (Mark 9:42) Some see this scripture as children in general, but as Christians, we
become '
children' of God. For example simple public behavior: A Christian drinks beer or bows down to a Buddha statue (jokingly) in front of others (believers or unbelievers). Sinful influence will bring others to excuse themselves "
They did it, why can't I?" But in God's eyes sin is sin regardless the level of severity. Some excuse the Blood of Christ and grace covers us. If so then these verses are of none effect -> (Romans 3:31, Romans 6:2, Romans 6:15, Romans 7:7, James 4:4, 1 John 2:16, Romans 8:7, Romans 7:18 and more...) Due to prevalence of societal norms, people fight against any sin to keep it whether Christian or not (those are actually demons because it's of the flesh called Spirit of the World (1 Corinthians 2:12).
Ask God for mercy and grace to give both of you time to remove anything not of Him such as ungodly clothing and items. Pray over it and ask God "Is this ok?" and wait for the answer. (John 10:27). If you're not there spiritually yet to hear His voice then there's some more steps to consider (many dislike this part). More fasting, prayer for cleansing of anything you'd eaten that clogged your pineal gland, repentance, reading the Word, worship, dancing, and coming out of the world more. (Psalms 100, Psalms 149, Psalms 150, 2 Corinthians 6:17) It takes time as everyone develops at a certain degree.
Your husband trying to push you too fast won't help as it's a process for everyone. But seeing this behavior from him saying "
Choke and Die" in actuality, that is
not him acting towards you in that manner. That is a spirit spouse he's dealing with. You're a threat to her in the spirit realm. Demons can manipulate our flesh if we give in especially if we have sin or character traits we haven't asked God to remove. (Romans 7:23, Luke 8:26-30). I don't know how many he has from his past relationships as both of you could possibly have one or more. It depends on what was done in your past or past ancestors from many generations back.
Let me explain...
Most pass off this behavior as natural using emotions & psychology (which is true) but forget there's something bigger behind it spiritually (Ephesians 6:12)
Unfortunately, if these are involved then there are more spiritual implications that I see in your situation where previous children and marriage are concerned. It's a time consuming process involving, intercession, prayer, lots of repentance, divorcing previous natural spouses spiritually, cutting soul ties and covenants, fasting and spiritual warfare are needed against demonic spirit spouses and children aka incubus/succubus demons. They exist and are widespread tearing families apart today because people have a tendency of not fighting desire to be with one another for obvious reasons such as hormones, attraction, ideas from movies, books, media etc.
As any Christian grows to be more serious with God, the demonic spirit spouses & spirit children within begin to manifest and arise to ensue chaos in marriages, relationships, children, causing strife, being unequally yoked, divorce, murder and/or suicide to destroy everything in a familial relationship. (John 10:10)
Once all the damage is done, the surviving spouses restart a new relationship only to have the process start over again spreading like a virus. If this isn't stopped in time, well... it's not good. Marriage is 90% of a person's destiny to raise up children in God. People forget satan exists and is behind it all. (1 Peter 5:8)
These parasitic pests are acquired through many forms of sin via premarital sex, adultery, fornication, masturbation, fantasy lust and imaginations (2 Corinthians 10:4-5), not asking God's permission for divorce, not divorcing a natural spouse spiritually after a regular divorce, marrying people not ordained by God, witchcraft, occultism, tattoos, piercings, jewelry, inappropriate contentography, makeup, weaves, hair extensions, sins of past ancestors form generational or ancestral curses (Leviticus 26:40-42), specific types of clothing or items etc., it's a very huge list. These demons cause spouses to hate each other, nitpick to the point of fighting and also cause the parents to dislike and hate their own children (if they have spirit children). It's why we see people claiming they did harm to their child and no one can figure out why. One's spirit will nurture a spirit child as their own in the spirit realm and have love for it and disregard their own natural children the same way a spirit spouse does causing havoc in a family.
God gave His many spiritual laws (Romans 7:14, John 4:24) for a reason but very few get the full explanation of "
why or what will happen" from each sin and transgression. Much of this information gets hidden and locked away because of those who decided to play with the Bible removing specific books cursing themselves (Revelation 22:18-19) and God has to reveal it to His true children rooted in Him to get people delivered. Satan can't hide everything. God turns evil situations into good. (Genesis 50:20)
I have a link explaining some of what you're experiencing.
Link to describe Spirit Husbands and Spirit Wives
https://www.linkedin.com/pulse/soul-ties-evil-spirit-wives-husbands-part-7-8-samuel-williams
The rest will be up to belief, wanting deliverance and having a serious walk with God on saving a marital relationship and children (pets too) because if anyone dies with these attached to them in the spirit realm they can wind up in fire and they will spread amongst the next generation of children in the bloodline (Exodus 34:7) as we are to be only married to God through Christ and not demons. (Daniel 2:43) They can also spread to pets because demons do not care. They need living breathing souls and flesh to inhabit (preferably human) but will cling to any sort of beast (animals) if necessary in desperation or to hide. Regrettably, pets don't go to heaven.
May this benefit you greatly in Yahushua's HaMashiach's name.
