- Sep 21, 2018
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Hi, I'm new to this site. I just recently married my husband in August and we have just found our first disagreement on family values I guess. I'm wanting others opinions please. From his previous marriage he had a step-son and they are still in touch, he's like close to 20 years old. Well, I have no problem with that nor do I have a problem with him being around us. I have three children from previous relationship. I have not met him yet. Well there was a certain thing going on at our work that we can buy a brick and have it laid on a sidewalk in our employer's garden. I mentioned I wanted to purchase one and have our family's names put on there. He then included his step-son from his previous marriage. I told him I don't feel comfortable with that since he's not "our family". He said he will always be considered his son to him. I just don't agree with that because he has a father who is very much involved and doesn't call my husband Dad or anything. He just asks him for help on things and such. He said he considers him his family still. I then told him I will not tell my children that he is their step brother or that he's his son because it's not true at all. Has anyone of you dealt with this? Am I in the wrong? I don't want to upset my husband but I just don't feel it's right to say he's part of "our family". By the way my husband has 3 sons of his own from a previous marriage. I feel bad but I feel very strong on how I feel as well. Help!