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Hello Everyone, I am new to these forums. I am in the middle of a divorce. I was married 14 years to a "non-believer." Almost 4 months ago, he blind sided me with the news that he was no longer in love with me and didn't feel he had been for a couple of years. We have a 7 year old son so he said he tried to hold it together for our son but could no longer do it because he was so unhappy. He moved out of the house 3 months ago. I begged him not to go and then for the first month he was gone, I pleaded with God to change his heart and bring him back. Then it hit me one day how sad I had really been in the marriage because my husband was unloving, unaffectionate, harsh with me and my son most of the time and just plain incapable (or unwilling) to love me in the way I need to be loved. So I realized our seperation was actually a good thing for me. I have gotten over my husband and I honestly can say that I don't hurt for him anymore. Of course, it is still sad that my family broke up, but the hurt I feel now is lonliness. I am ready to move on and fall in love again. Family and friends tell me that I am not ready yet, it has only been a few months, etc. What I am trying to get people to realize is that I haven't felt truely loved in about two years. My husband stopped sleeping in the same bed with me several months before he told me didn't love me anymore. He told me he slept better on the couch because of his sleep apnea. I believed him. So my problem now is that I am so lonely and so depressed. I want to meet someone and fall in love so badly. I am struggling with patience. I am struggling with waiting for God's perfect plan. I hurt almost all throughout the day and I am having trouble focusing on being a good mother to my son. I am trying to listen to what God is telling me, but I am so full of sadness that God's voice is muffled to me right now. I would appreciate prayer and words of wisdom.