Need Hope!

[dabro]

I am a christian who suffers from mental illnesses....Not to shine the light on me cuz I hate doing that but, I feel as tho I will never find a wife....Someone that is right for me. I want and is a strong desire. I have how ever been patient and just kinda focused on getting better but, what if that becomes the part of me that just tries to get better. I know my number one objective is to please God and do His will


I never know how to do His will ever since I got slammed with the OCD and depression...There is such a stigma around mental illness and I feel it is three times harder for me to find someone then it is for someone my age.....I have social anxiety so I really don't get out much....



Trying to be a better person is okay and all but, really? all this time alone for eight years has shown me just my faults...Never giving me the chance to shine and show what I have learned.....Guy's I'm just very discouraged that I'll ever find someone.....I believe that if God wanted me alone, that I would be ok with that. But, I'm going in spurts andbeing content for a season then feeling alone all the time is just heart crushing......I know in my own heart that finding someone would help....Thats why there called help mates..




But I seemed to have something wrong with me and I'm tired of waiting for the right one............

 

[ByTheSpirit]

Well bro I understand your dilemma and I can tell you that I was and still am somewhat socially awkward and anxious. I met my wife online because I could never ask a woman out face to face. We have now been married 8 years so there is hope. Your Father in Heaven knows your desires, do not despair, His timing is always best. But try every avenue you can for finding your spouse. I can promise you there are many women out there who really could care less what a man looks like or is dealing with (mentally) as long as they love her and provide for her. Now obviously I'm not a woman but that is an observation I make from living around women my whole life. Grew up in a house with my mom and 2 sisters. I was the only male so I've seen a bit of the females way of thinking.

Now ladies, please don't roast me alive for what I have said. I may be wrong, but I feel confident I am somewhat accurate in my remarks. I mean no disrespect or insult if any was caused.

Dabro, be yourself bro! For real! No woman, no one, wants to date a person who is fake. Pray continuously for wisdom and providence to bring your spouse to you, or you to her.

Father, You are glorious! You are righteous and holy! We love You! I cry out to You on behalf of my brother that You would guide him and provide for him the things he so desires. May he find a spouse that meets his every need and want, may they live together in peace and prosperity in You righteous Father! Make my brother bold and courageous to find a spouse. May he be wise in dating and find new innovative ways to discover the treasure You have for him! In Jesus' name, amen!

 

[Cribstyl]

May God touch your heart my friend.

My prayer is that God will comfort you and draw you closer to Him. Only God can work in your life for His pleasure. As we are obedient He is able to give us the desires of our heart.
Praise and worship draws us before the throne. Bring Christ your broken heart and He will comfort you.

 

[stormdancer0]

As someone who's been there, all I can tell you is to keep on keeping on. God has a purpose for every trial He allows in your life. I have to trust that God knows what He's doing, and how much I can handle.

I must say His opinion of my level of strength is sometimes much higher than I think it is. But He's always right.

 

[Tigger45]

Hey dabro! One of the best ways I know to meet ladies is to find a group that you have an interest in. That way you will have something in common with the ladies of that group. Also then you can get to know each other and things can come about naturally. Take care and God bless.

 

[dabro]

So are you saying that all will go to heaven and be saved?

 

[FreeSlave]

dabro if you can half way follow 1 Corinthians 13: 4-7 that you are better than 90% of the men is this world. Have that be your goal and there will be lots of christian women who would love to be with you. If you have social anxiety you could use christian mingle.

 

[dabro]

Thanks all. I just feel like I'm drowning in my own suffering...I don't see how anybody could like me and I have a confession....I am in bondage to beauty....I have tried to fight it but, my ex was so pretty that I feel like I will never fall in love with someone like that....Inseide and out she was beautiful......I feel like I have to atleast have someone that is pretty which is not right....My concience kills me everyday as I struggle with this lust....Even tho I hardly look at pretty women anymore I just accept that this is my lot in life.....Everybody deserves a chance.....I just don't know how to get over my ex and this bondage that I'm in.....It's killing me....I want freedom......I want to know that everything will be okay.....but I suffer from severe doubts.....IDK how anybody would want me and that makes me look pityfull and no woman wants a man that can hold up the house.

 

[ashleycoe89]

trust me there is someone out there for you god will put that person in your life when your ready i tryed to find it on my own and ended in heartbreak the first time and then god had the grace to sent me my hubby he was not what i wanted and our situation is not really what i wanted but he is the best husband ever be still and let god move he will send someone who is perfect for you god will just trust him it may not be who you think of as ideal trust me i liked dark hair dark eyes tattoos and piercings lol and my hubby now is blond hair blue eyes and hates tattoos and piercings lol yeah but in my eyes he is the best looking man on the face of the earth just listen to god and focus on him and never let go of him

 

[iambren]

There is medication out there. You can take it to help overcome your problems and no one needs to know. I am on medication obtained after I saw a Christian psychiatrist and it helped/saved my life 25 years ago.

 

[redrose42]

Hope is a wonderful word...Trust in the Lord and don't despair
He is a friend so true
No matter what your troubles are
Jesus will see you through

the joy of the Lord is your strength....God can do anything...BUT...fail

maggie

 

[D2wing]

We are tormented by our lusts and fleshly desires. Not by the grace of God. You are not the only one. This temptation is common to man. My opinion is God wants you to look beyond the Flesh both in yourself and others. There is hope but you need to get yourself in check and study what love is. l Corinthians:13. It is not about what you want. It is about putting someone else first and what they need. It is a struggle friend, for many of us. I hope this helps.