- Aug 7, 2017
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Hi all, I have been married to my husband now for almost 15 years. We've had our ups and downs but have persevered with our love of God first and our love of each other second. However, as of late my husband has been in a serious funk where he is doubting his worth as both a man and a provider. I have been constantly trying to reassure him that our son and I love him and that he means the world to us but he seem to be sinking deeper and deeper into his self pitty. The bulk of this started when he lost his job at Gander mountain and has escalated due to issues with his sister and her husband.
When I first met my husband he was struggling with alcoholism but thank the great good Lord he over came it and hasn't had a drink in years. Since he sobered up he began going to church, held down a steady job, and became the spiritual leader that he was meant to be. Despite the progress he made as a man and his merits as a father his sister never quite forgave him for his behavior when he was in the grips of alcoholism and seemed to always resent the amount of resources her parents devoted to his recovery. Even nite years later (15 actually) she acts as if he is the same alcoholic he was before his recovery. Her husband is much much worse, he constantly belittles my husband for his lack of college education, his former alcoholism, how he is a "failure of a big brother", and what not. I know that it is just better to ignore bullies but our current circumstances makes that incredibly hard. Right now I am the family breadwinner, my in laws pay our mortgage and car notes, and our special needs son is having a hard time understanding why he cannot go play with his cousin anymore (the daughter of my sister in law). It crushes my husband that he isn't able to provide the life for or son and I that he feels we deserve and it is extra painful that his brother in law and niece are rubbing his nose in it. I really don't know what more to say and do to help him. I am afraid he may turn to drink again.
When I first met my husband he was struggling with alcoholism but thank the great good Lord he over came it and hasn't had a drink in years. Since he sobered up he began going to church, held down a steady job, and became the spiritual leader that he was meant to be. Despite the progress he made as a man and his merits as a father his sister never quite forgave him for his behavior when he was in the grips of alcoholism and seemed to always resent the amount of resources her parents devoted to his recovery. Even nite years later (15 actually) she acts as if he is the same alcoholic he was before his recovery. Her husband is much much worse, he constantly belittles my husband for his lack of college education, his former alcoholism, how he is a "failure of a big brother", and what not. I know that it is just better to ignore bullies but our current circumstances makes that incredibly hard. Right now I am the family breadwinner, my in laws pay our mortgage and car notes, and our special needs son is having a hard time understanding why he cannot go play with his cousin anymore (the daughter of my sister in law). It crushes my husband that he isn't able to provide the life for or son and I that he feels we deserve and it is extra painful that his brother in law and niece are rubbing his nose in it. I really don't know what more to say and do to help him. I am afraid he may turn to drink again.