Hello and thank everyone for any input they may give. I'm a married man of many years. Here is what's going on.
I’m going to keep the cheating details brief but elaborate on other information.
I had been cheating on my wife for a few years in the beginning of my marriage, then with one woman later in the years, then another woman that I worked with a few years ago that turned into a one-time kissing but no sex emotional affair. The affair lasted for just weeks, about a month, then after a hiatus of about 6 months of no talking to each other, we started talking again for about a month and a half. Needless to say, I did have an emotional attachment to this latest person, but I know for a fact that I didn’t love her. It was lust with a personality attachment. Please note again that for brevity, I am leaving out most of the sordid details.
Here’s where I’m at today, at this moment… At this very second. My mind is a mass of confusion. My wife is just about ready to bail the marriage, and I can’t say at all that I blame her. Period. I have been a liar on the details of the one-night stand and the details of the emotional affair. Many of the details of the emotional affair were told to my wife over a period of a couple of Years! You read that right… Not days, but years. No one can stand up to that type of emotional abuse, but to God’s grace, she is still here, though she is on a very, VERY thin sheet of ice concerning our marriage. I haven’t cheated since and I never will again. I am saved by Christ and there is a definite change in my heart toward the things of God.
What I would like help with is me. How do I get rid of myself and get with the program as a Godly husband and completely eradicate the self-righteous and self-absorbed Pharisee that I am? Back then I was COMPLETELY self-centered and my wife’s destroyed mind, heart and soul is proof. I desperately need help with my heart of steel. Jesus has been softening my heart for quite a few months now, but I am looking at complete eradication of ‘myself’. A lot of the time, instead of seeing my wife as the destroyed soul that she is, I counter her conversation of the details with what I consider ‘facts’ as I saw them.
Understandably the details are brief but if anyone wants a fill-in, please feel free to ask. Thanks again.
I’m going to keep the cheating details brief but elaborate on other information.
I had been cheating on my wife for a few years in the beginning of my marriage, then with one woman later in the years, then another woman that I worked with a few years ago that turned into a one-time kissing but no sex emotional affair. The affair lasted for just weeks, about a month, then after a hiatus of about 6 months of no talking to each other, we started talking again for about a month and a half. Needless to say, I did have an emotional attachment to this latest person, but I know for a fact that I didn’t love her. It was lust with a personality attachment. Please note again that for brevity, I am leaving out most of the sordid details.
Here’s where I’m at today, at this moment… At this very second. My mind is a mass of confusion. My wife is just about ready to bail the marriage, and I can’t say at all that I blame her. Period. I have been a liar on the details of the one-night stand and the details of the emotional affair. Many of the details of the emotional affair were told to my wife over a period of a couple of Years! You read that right… Not days, but years. No one can stand up to that type of emotional abuse, but to God’s grace, she is still here, though she is on a very, VERY thin sheet of ice concerning our marriage. I haven’t cheated since and I never will again. I am saved by Christ and there is a definite change in my heart toward the things of God.
What I would like help with is me. How do I get rid of myself and get with the program as a Godly husband and completely eradicate the self-righteous and self-absorbed Pharisee that I am? Back then I was COMPLETELY self-centered and my wife’s destroyed mind, heart and soul is proof. I desperately need help with my heart of steel. Jesus has been softening my heart for quite a few months now, but I am looking at complete eradication of ‘myself’. A lot of the time, instead of seeing my wife as the destroyed soul that she is, I counter her conversation of the details with what I consider ‘facts’ as I saw them.
Understandably the details are brief but if anyone wants a fill-in, please feel free to ask. Thanks again.