My wife and I have an 8 month old girl. She is our first and only child at this point.
We've had one major disagreement that's put a lot of stress on our marriage since our child was born- keeping our daughter away from sick family members (colds, bugs, etc.).
I'm adamant about keeping our daughter away from sick people whether it's family, friends, etc. if of course we can help it. I'm well aware that our daughter is going to get sick from time to time and will be in contact with germs- I can accept that. She recently got through a bad cold like a champ.
It is my preference that if at a family or friend gathering there will be sick adults/ children there that we know about, we don't attend. My wife's feelings are the exact opposite. She hates missing out on gatherings with family or friends and despite my issues of having our daughter around sick people, she will attend no matter what and take our daughter with her.
My wife's grandmother had pnemonia and she brought our child around her against my wishes. My wife's mother currently has a cold and yet she lets her mother hold our daughter against my wishes. My wife's neice had croup and my wife let my daughter be around her against my wishes.
I've tried to compromise and let our daughter around sick family as long as we try to keep our distance but that doesnt seem to work. Our daughter is the new baby that everybody wants to hug, kiss, touch, etc.
This makes me feel terrible because 1) I feel like my wife chooses her family over me & our daughter and 2) I feel like my wishes are not being considered. I'd like some sort of a compromise but that's not happening.
When I discuss my feelings with her, she either cries about it accusing me of being unfair or cruel or tells me she's sorry and she'll try to prevent it from happening again. Either way, history repeats itself. She gets her way and I get no say in the matter.
I've seen her mom, sister, and aunts do the same thing with their husbands many times before- completely disregard their husbands wishes and handle things their way. Their husbands accept it and let it happen to keep the peace. I fear that these actions give my wife justification for what she does although I feel like in every other scenario we're able to talk about it and come to a mutual understanding.
I hate to see my baby sick. Am I overreacting?
We've had one major disagreement that's put a lot of stress on our marriage since our child was born- keeping our daughter away from sick family members (colds, bugs, etc.).
I'm adamant about keeping our daughter away from sick people whether it's family, friends, etc. if of course we can help it. I'm well aware that our daughter is going to get sick from time to time and will be in contact with germs- I can accept that. She recently got through a bad cold like a champ.
It is my preference that if at a family or friend gathering there will be sick adults/ children there that we know about, we don't attend. My wife's feelings are the exact opposite. She hates missing out on gatherings with family or friends and despite my issues of having our daughter around sick people, she will attend no matter what and take our daughter with her.
My wife's grandmother had pnemonia and she brought our child around her against my wishes. My wife's mother currently has a cold and yet she lets her mother hold our daughter against my wishes. My wife's neice had croup and my wife let my daughter be around her against my wishes.
I've tried to compromise and let our daughter around sick family as long as we try to keep our distance but that doesnt seem to work. Our daughter is the new baby that everybody wants to hug, kiss, touch, etc.
This makes me feel terrible because 1) I feel like my wife chooses her family over me & our daughter and 2) I feel like my wishes are not being considered. I'd like some sort of a compromise but that's not happening.
When I discuss my feelings with her, she either cries about it accusing me of being unfair or cruel or tells me she's sorry and she'll try to prevent it from happening again. Either way, history repeats itself. She gets her way and I get no say in the matter.
I've seen her mom, sister, and aunts do the same thing with their husbands many times before- completely disregard their husbands wishes and handle things their way. Their husbands accept it and let it happen to keep the peace. I fear that these actions give my wife justification for what she does although I feel like in every other scenario we're able to talk about it and come to a mutual understanding.
I hate to see my baby sick. Am I overreacting?