- Jun 9, 2019
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- Single
First of all I am VERY happy that I found this place.
A little intro: 39 year old single mother of a bright and wonderful 12 year old girl. I do not know the father (a story for another place). Everybody told me that I should just get rid of it but I knew better, and I am thankful I made the right decision. I became a Christian shortly before I had my daughter. As for my Daughter she has been a Christian since she was little, we both go to Church together. My daughter does go to a public school, and I am no fan of this, but the Christian school here wants $$$ that I can't afford.
My ultimate worry is that my daughter is somehow going to be pushed into doing things that she shouldn't be doing. I have a very positive open relationship with her, but I know that the time is coming where she will not be telling me everything. She is already interested in a couple boys that I know of, but I obviously can't control what they do.
So, I am on here because I need some advice on what I should and should not say. I feel like I should tell her everything about me back when I was a teenager, but at the same time should I be telling her all of this bad stuff? Let me be honest on here and say that I lost my virginity when I was 14, something that I will always painfully regret doing. I ended up so lost with myself that in the process I ended up having sex with multiple boys during my high school years, most of them boys my age, nearly all were just 1-day flings.
I guess I am asking advice on whether or not I should tell her about my mistakes. Should I tell her all about my teen years, or should I act like I was a wonderful innocent teen?
Another question is should I buy her condoms? Trust me just typing out that line nearly gave me a heart attack! I obviously want her to stay a virgin until marriage, but I also want her to be safe incase it doesn't turn out that way. Or maybe I am overthinking that and maybe I shouldn't be talking about condoms until age 13 or 14? UUUGGGHHH!!!
I am on the fence on the best way of doing this. Would love all the advice I can get.
A little intro: 39 year old single mother of a bright and wonderful 12 year old girl. I do not know the father (a story for another place). Everybody told me that I should just get rid of it but I knew better, and I am thankful I made the right decision. I became a Christian shortly before I had my daughter. As for my Daughter she has been a Christian since she was little, we both go to Church together. My daughter does go to a public school, and I am no fan of this, but the Christian school here wants $$$ that I can't afford.
My ultimate worry is that my daughter is somehow going to be pushed into doing things that she shouldn't be doing. I have a very positive open relationship with her, but I know that the time is coming where she will not be telling me everything. She is already interested in a couple boys that I know of, but I obviously can't control what they do.
So, I am on here because I need some advice on what I should and should not say. I feel like I should tell her everything about me back when I was a teenager, but at the same time should I be telling her all of this bad stuff? Let me be honest on here and say that I lost my virginity when I was 14, something that I will always painfully regret doing. I ended up so lost with myself that in the process I ended up having sex with multiple boys during my high school years, most of them boys my age, nearly all were just 1-day flings.
I guess I am asking advice on whether or not I should tell her about my mistakes. Should I tell her all about my teen years, or should I act like I was a wonderful innocent teen?
Another question is should I buy her condoms? Trust me just typing out that line nearly gave me a heart attack! I obviously want her to stay a virgin until marriage, but I also want her to be safe incase it doesn't turn out that way. Or maybe I am overthinking that and maybe I shouldn't be talking about condoms until age 13 or 14? UUUGGGHHH!!!
I am on the fence on the best way of doing this. Would love all the advice I can get.