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I've posted here several times about problems with my wife. She is not a believer, and we have our ups and downs. Right now we are in a really long down period, that just drags on and is getting worse. Our marriage pretty much only exists on paper at the moment. The love is not there, on both sides, and we both annoy eachother to no end. She has no idea what a marriage is supposed to be like, and my efforts to love her, help her, and show her are met with opposition and mocking and insults. She does not see eye to eye with me on my faith, and even makes fun of me for it....for example, some sex gadget came on the home shopping channel and she points at the screen and goes "Look hun, it's SIN!!!!" I said "If you don't like my faith that's fine, if you don't agree that's fine, but do not make fun of me for it!" She does not sleep well, she is sick all the time, she is mean and spiteful, she uses obscene language in the house even though I have repeated asked her over the years to keep it clean around the kids and me, and she refuses to do this courtesy for me. She thinks I want her to worship me which is not true! I wait on her hand and foot, and I stay patient and calm even though she's angry all the time. She has told me to my face that I am the person she respects the least in her life. She is CONSTANTLY texting and typing on the computer, and is so secretive about who she talks to and I don't even know anything about her life, her struggles, her problems anymore, becsause she never opens up to me. I went to see my pastor, and he said I still have to stay married to her and keep on loving her. I do that, because I promised to, but I'm not feeling it. I feel no romantic love at all anymore, and can't stand her presence, especially since she makes it a point to push my buttons and spit in my face. What do I do? How long do I have to put up with this? My first wife died, and she was awesome. Her death was for no reason at all. I think I made a mistake marrying the person I am with now and I wnat to be single again! My kids and I deserve better and I can't hold out forever!
Abd before you give me the standard "you guys need counselling" response that you always give me, my wife refuses to go. I get myself help from the pastor, but she refuses, and is convinced it does not help. I tried that so come up iwth something new please. I don't want to hear "You need professional help!"
Thanks
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Abd before you give me the standard "you guys need counselling" response that you always give me, my wife refuses to go. I get myself help from the pastor, but she refuses, and is convinced it does not help. I tried that so come up iwth something new please. I don't want to hear "You need professional help!"
Thanks
D