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Background: She does not shave her legs as a lifestyle. He loves smooth legs.
She shaves her legs for his birthday sometimes-- as a gift. She will do this as an anniversary gift too.
If it is a resentment issue you have built in a way for her to be less excited about your birthday and your anniversary. I would say that you can explain to her the following:
"I love you just as much either way. You know I find shaved legs attractive. You can shave them whenever you feel like it if you want to give me a treat. But you don't have to do it on a schedule. "
Then instead of it being expected of her she can do it freely to please you, when she feels like being extra attractive to you. You may still get special treatment at times, and she won't have to feel resentment.
I would explain it as similar to something like a piece of lingerie that you like. She doesn't have to wear it all the time. But when she does it is special. And it is up to her.
If she says you should be just as attracted either way, tell her that is not how it works. We don't necessarily choose what is attractive. But we choose to love.
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