he's 16
for about three years my son has steadily gotten more antisocial and depressed-looking. he has a sort of haunted look in his eyes. i thought there must have been something wrong because i've had other children and it never got THAT bad just because of hormones. i thought it might be at school but he always said everything was fine there. i tried twice to ask him what it was but he wouldn't tell me at all, he just kept silent and looked ashamed. last week i tried again. when i was babysitting my sisters kids he went up to his room and he looked terrible. i went in after they were asleep and turned the light out and asked him what was wrong. he didn't say anything for about half an hour, but i was more persistent and then he started mumbling illegible things and beginning to say something and cutting off. i don't know how long it took but eventually he said 'i'm a pedophile' really quick, then he started weeping terribly and shaking. i said it was ok and comforted him, but i really don't know what to think, i'm really shocked and i don't like to say it but a little disgusted because i (was) really anti-pedo.
when he calmed down he told me that he really liked girls between 7 and 11 sexually and he wanted to touch them and see them naked but he knew it was wrong and he said he wouldn't ever do it. he said he didn't like adults. he said he was ashamed about it and scared that other people would find out and would hate him, which is why he didn't tell me. he said he started liking little girls when he was 13 and his lust has gotten steadily worse since then. he told me that he had a collection of pictures of little girls he cut out from swimsuit magazines, and he had a piece of my friend's daughters clothes.
i really don't know what to do.
is it a sin? is he really a pedophile? what should i do, should we get treatment or something? should i trust him around my friends' kids anymore? please help me.
for about three years my son has steadily gotten more antisocial and depressed-looking. he has a sort of haunted look in his eyes. i thought there must have been something wrong because i've had other children and it never got THAT bad just because of hormones. i thought it might be at school but he always said everything was fine there. i tried twice to ask him what it was but he wouldn't tell me at all, he just kept silent and looked ashamed. last week i tried again. when i was babysitting my sisters kids he went up to his room and he looked terrible. i went in after they were asleep and turned the light out and asked him what was wrong. he didn't say anything for about half an hour, but i was more persistent and then he started mumbling illegible things and beginning to say something and cutting off. i don't know how long it took but eventually he said 'i'm a pedophile' really quick, then he started weeping terribly and shaking. i said it was ok and comforted him, but i really don't know what to think, i'm really shocked and i don't like to say it but a little disgusted because i (was) really anti-pedo.
when he calmed down he told me that he really liked girls between 7 and 11 sexually and he wanted to touch them and see them naked but he knew it was wrong and he said he wouldn't ever do it. he said he didn't like adults. he said he was ashamed about it and scared that other people would find out and would hate him, which is why he didn't tell me. he said he started liking little girls when he was 13 and his lust has gotten steadily worse since then. he told me that he had a collection of pictures of little girls he cut out from swimsuit magazines, and he had a piece of my friend's daughters clothes.
i really don't know what to do.
is it a sin? is he really a pedophile? what should i do, should we get treatment or something? should i trust him around my friends' kids anymore? please help me.