My mothers brain is basically broken and she does not get any joy out of seeing me or anything else, She talks about going to a nursing home so maybe I should steer her in that direction, I will no longer be able to work from my parents house after the covid situation improves I will have to go back to the big city, and it is better if someone is always there.
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My mother is very depressed and is no longer happy to see me, any advice.
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How old is she? My father passed away at 90 last summer and we're moving my mother into an "elderly home" next month. She's old (actually two years older than him) and, frankly, ready to pass. Death is the most guaranteed part of life.
My mother never really had many friends. It was all about family. She's just at peace now that she has a lot of kids, grandkids and great grandkids. And in this facility she'll be forced to be around other people. She may be entering a new phase of life.
However, if you're talking nursing home, that's different. Is your mother a Christian? Being that old and moving on in that way - while not believing in God - would be very depressing. But that is on her, not you. People all choose their own path and at the end of the day, we end up wherever that path leads us.
I've not addressed your living conditions because I consider that to be a separate subject.
My mother never really had many friends. It was all about family. She's just at peace now that she has a lot of kids, grandkids and great grandkids. And in this facility she'll be forced to be around other people. She may be entering a new phase of life.
However, if you're talking nursing home, that's different. Is your mother a Christian? Being that old and moving on in that way - while not believing in God - would be very depressing. But that is on her, not you. People all choose their own path and at the end of the day, we end up wherever that path leads us.
I've not addressed your living conditions because I consider that to be a separate subject.
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A good Christian nursing home can do wonders for old people. My dad is in one, he is 91 and he loves it there even though he was happy to be at home with mum as well. Look up a good nursing home, by reviews, for appearance can be deceptive, and send her there.
Is your mother on anti depressants? i ask this because my mother in law is in a nursing home at 91 and was very depressed at first, for she broke her hip and was wheelchair bound, but anti depressants got her through it and she is much happier now.
Peace.
Is your mother on anti depressants? i ask this because my mother in law is in a nursing home at 91 and was very depressed at first, for she broke her hip and was wheelchair bound, but anti depressants got her through it and she is much happier now.
Peace.
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My mother is 83 and quite frail physically,
She has a small church service at our house , she does not get any comfort from it. She freaked out because she had trouble reading the prayer
She has started taking anti depressants I hope they kick in fairly soon
She has a small church service at our house , she does not get any comfort from it. She freaked out because she had trouble reading the prayer
She has started taking anti depressants I hope they kick in fairly soon
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Depression is real and debilitating. It robs us of our ability to see anything positive. Especially when it is empowered by events or circumstances beyond our control. It's when I feel most helpless or powerless to change my circumstances that my depression is the strongest.
If possible, help her by setting up supports for her after you move that will be ongoing and committed to being there for her. Pray, pray, pray for her. Even though she may seem to be pushing you away, she loves and needs you. These overwhelming changes really rock my foundations (especially those that I can't change). And I find myself withdrawing from my supporters when these things happen.
This group meeting at her house sounds like a good place to start to help find friends willing to stand with her during this time.
If possible, help her by setting up supports for her after you move that will be ongoing and committed to being there for her. Pray, pray, pray for her. Even though she may seem to be pushing you away, she loves and needs you. These overwhelming changes really rock my foundations (especially those that I can't change). And I find myself withdrawing from my supporters when these things happen.
This group meeting at her house sounds like a good place to start to help find friends willing to stand with her during this time.
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