My mom is going to die man, what am I supposed to do

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I posted the thread under 'Our Father' a few weeks ago. My mom has cancer, and she is going to die.

Yesterday she got more news and our time is even shorter than expected.

She cried when she told me, the first I've seen her genuinely cry in a long time. She knows the truth of everything that's ever happened to me, and she is sorry.

I have messed up. I am drinking because I don't know what else to do. I'm crushed.

My mom is literally dying man! She is going to leave me. My mother dude. God!!!!!!

I'm so tore up. I dont even know. I'm playing this at her funeral

 

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Hugs and prayers for you

I lost my mother 12 years ago to cancer, watched her every step of the way and it destroyed part of me. I still tear up when I think about her.

It is important to spend as much time with her as you can and leave nothing unsaid. I know this from experience. I am truly sorry for the news.
 
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I posted the thread under 'Our Father' a few weeks ago. My mom has cancer, and she is going to die.

Yesterday she got more news and our time is even shorter than expected.

She cried when she told me, the first I've seen her genuinely cry in a long time. She knows the truth of everything that's ever happened to me, and she is sorry.

I have messed up. I am drinking because I don't know what else to do. I'm crushed.

My mom is literally dying man! She is going to leave me. My mother dude. God!!!!!!

I'm so tore up. I dont even know. I'm playing this at her funeral

I am so sorry. I am praying for peace for you and your mother. God is still with you and her. He will never leave you and your mom. Praying for comfort for you both.
 
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I'm so sorry.
I posted the thread under 'Our Father' a few weeks ago. My mom has cancer, and she is going to die.

Yesterday she got more news and our time is even shorter than expected.

She cried when she told me, the first I've seen her genuinely cry in a long time. She knows the truth of everything that's ever happened to me, and she is sorry.

I have messed up. I am drinking because I don't know what else to do. I'm crushed.

My mom is literally dying man! She is going to leave me. My mother dude. God!!!!!!

I'm so tore up. I dont even know. I'm playing this at her funeral

 
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My mom went suddenly. She had heart problems but didn't tell anyone.

I feel for all of you who have to go through a lengthy process like this. It rips me apart just to have this happen to a pet, even for a short time, so I can only imagine the pain you all have to endure with something like this, not to mention the pain of the one dying.

I'm sorry.
 
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I am sorry to hear this. I lost my mother this year too and it hurts. Mother's day without a mother sucked. I know that you are in pain, but drinking will help neither you nor your mother. If you can spend as much time as you can with here.

You will not regret it.
 
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I am so sorry.

My Mom died suddenly 11 years ago of ventricular fibrillation when I was 45, I never got to say bye. It feels like it was 3 days ago. So you've got to stop with the booze and be with her every minute that you can. Make sure that they're taking good care of her. And that she's comfortable. I don't know of any secret or easy way to do it.

You've got to be the tough guy now.

Take Care.
 
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I can feel your pain. My father died in 2006, it was an ordeal. I was being treated for stage 4 cancer at the same time, thought it best not to burden him with it. I survived, he did not. You must understand that we all are IMMORTAL, death is a change of address, nothing more. Do your best to get your mother prepared for the event and you both will be much happier for it. And LAY OFF THE BOOZE, it does not solve the problem, it makes you incapable of handling the problem. Best wishes for you both.
 
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I lost my Father May a year ago. I lost my Mother several years back. I lost two brothers way too young.

Death is not easy but it is a part of life. We live in a cycle. Jackson Brown sang in his song "before the deluge". How we are all making our way back to nature.


Some of them knew pleasure
And some of them knew pain
And for some of them it was only the moment that mattered
And on the brave and crazy wings of youth
They went flying around in the rain
And their feathers, once so fine, grew torn and tattered
And in the end they traded their tired wings
For the resignation that living brings
And exchanged love's bright and fragile glow
For the glitter and the rouge
And in a moment they were swept before the deluge



The hardest part of death is if there is suffering and the loss we experience.

Sorry for your mothers suffering Michael. Remember it is lifes cycle and don't let the sorrow and loss compound your struggles.


Speak to your Mother about Christ and faith. When my Father agreed to last rights by a Priest his death took on a different meaning. It was both sad and very poignant. That moment our loved cross over from life to until death is very poignant and mysterious. We need to delend on faith.
 
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In the name of the Father, and the Son, and the Holy Spirit
Amen.

HAIL, O Star of the ocean,
God's own Mother blest,
ever sinless Virgin,
gate of heav'nly rest.

Taking that sweet Ave,
which from Gabriel came,
peace confirm within us,
changing Eva's name.

Break the sinners' fetters,
make our blindness day,
Chase all evils from us,
for all blessings pray.

Show thyself a Mother,
may the Word divine
born for us thine Infant
hear our prayers through thine.

Virgin all excelling,
mildest of the mild,
free from guilt preserve us
meek and undefiled.

Keep our life all spotless,
make our way secure
till we find in Jesus,
joy for evermore.

Praise to God the Father,
honor to the Son,
in the Holy Spirit,
be the glory One. Amen.

Holy Mother of God, and Mother of All the Baptized, pray for us!
Saint Monica, pray for us!
Pope Saint John Paul II, pray for us!

In the name of the Father, and the Son, and the Holy Spirit
Amen.
 
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even with this news, there is one good but painful thing; you both know ahead of time that this will happen.
How you treat this time of passage will determine what you both will learn from it.
My prayers are with you both. :oldthumbsup:
 
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I posted the thread under 'Our Father' a few weeks ago. My mom has cancer, and she is going to die.

Yesterday she got more news and our time is even shorter than expected.

She cried when she told me, the first I've seen her genuinely cry in a long time. She knows the truth of everything that's ever happened to me, and she is sorry.

I have messed up. I am drinking because I don't know what else to do. I'm crushed.

My mom is literally dying man! She is going to leave me. My mother dude. God!!!!!!

I'm so tore up. I dont even know. I'm playing this at her funeral


If your drinking you're no good to your mother in this moment of all moments.
If there's one thing she don't need on her deathbed it's worrying over you and how you'll cope when she's gone.

Stay sober for your mother bro.
If you have to turn to booze please promise to wait until she has passed.

Pray for her, comfort her and help her laugh. Laughter helps a lot, laughter is so refreshing!

Holy Mary stay with them both!
Amen.
 
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