- Dec 13, 2015
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I've asked this before but I have a really close online friend that I met on a video game several years ago. He is transgendered and wants to become a woman in fact he has been taking estrogen pills for almost a year now, it's uncomfortable talking to him on discord because he sounds extremely strange. That being said I still love and care about him something I thought would never be possible because homosexuality and transgenderism makes me extremely uncomfortable. Because of me he has "accepted" Christ.
He's thanked me over and over again for helping him find faith but I can't get over the fact that he is taking estrogen to become more woman like. And he probably is still sleeping with men I've been afraid to ask him after I called him out about it about a year ago. He said he sleeps with men because he's lonely and I told him I understand being lonely i after all didnt meet a woman until i was about 27 years old but that doesn't make what he's doing right. His dad died several years ago and his mom and Aunt have been raising him both of them are Catholics so me telling him to stop sleeping with men and that I'm uncomfortable with him transitioning isn't new to him. What's new to him is the Protestant faith and the five Solas. Being raised Catholic he thought only Catholicism existed in Christianity. Like me when I was started and when i shared the gospel with him he said that he couldnt help but respond (a fantastic sign that God is with him). He basically saw my light, my kindness, and my rockhard faith and wanted the same for himself.
He is a veteran and got shot while serving in Iraq. He has also attempted suicide multiple times to where my wife called the cops on him once because he made her very afraid. I told him that God keeping him alive is a good sign that he wants to use him to work for him.
That being said, I don't think his faith in Christ is genuine. I hate to say it because his faith came from me but he doesn't share the same values as I do. Like for example Paul saying we can't live in sin and he still lives in sin. He doesn't want to dedicate his life to doing the works Christ set out for him. I love and care about him so much and I'm only uncomfortable because I care about him. Idk. His life did a complete 180 compared to how he was when we met but I still fear for his salvation. Maybe as time draws on he will respond to God more and more.
What can I do? Should I continue telling him that I'm uncomfortable with him transitioning? If I find out he is still sleeping with men should I continue telling him it's wrong? I've been asking God what to do and all I can do is continually talk to him. I vowed to be his friend until I die and I plan on keeping that promise. I will still love him even if he fully becomes a woman. No matter what. But, it's also tearing me apart because I'm concerned for him. What should I do?
He's thanked me over and over again for helping him find faith but I can't get over the fact that he is taking estrogen to become more woman like. And he probably is still sleeping with men I've been afraid to ask him after I called him out about it about a year ago. He said he sleeps with men because he's lonely and I told him I understand being lonely i after all didnt meet a woman until i was about 27 years old but that doesn't make what he's doing right. His dad died several years ago and his mom and Aunt have been raising him both of them are Catholics so me telling him to stop sleeping with men and that I'm uncomfortable with him transitioning isn't new to him. What's new to him is the Protestant faith and the five Solas. Being raised Catholic he thought only Catholicism existed in Christianity. Like me when I was started and when i shared the gospel with him he said that he couldnt help but respond (a fantastic sign that God is with him). He basically saw my light, my kindness, and my rockhard faith and wanted the same for himself.
He is a veteran and got shot while serving in Iraq. He has also attempted suicide multiple times to where my wife called the cops on him once because he made her very afraid. I told him that God keeping him alive is a good sign that he wants to use him to work for him.
That being said, I don't think his faith in Christ is genuine. I hate to say it because his faith came from me but he doesn't share the same values as I do. Like for example Paul saying we can't live in sin and he still lives in sin. He doesn't want to dedicate his life to doing the works Christ set out for him. I love and care about him so much and I'm only uncomfortable because I care about him. Idk. His life did a complete 180 compared to how he was when we met but I still fear for his salvation. Maybe as time draws on he will respond to God more and more.
What can I do? Should I continue telling him that I'm uncomfortable with him transitioning? If I find out he is still sleeping with men should I continue telling him it's wrong? I've been asking God what to do and all I can do is continually talk to him. I vowed to be his friend until I die and I plan on keeping that promise. I will still love him even if he fully becomes a woman. No matter what. But, it's also tearing me apart because I'm concerned for him. What should I do?