my dilema

[TravellingGrace]

So, you feel that passion is a pre-requisite for (your) marriage? Suppose God sent you a fine Christian man who lacked passion?

So when you say "I want a good strong Christian man to just love me for who I am, and hold me in his arms", you mean a good strong Christian man isn't enough. He has to be passionate, too.

I just want to make sure we are clear.

If the man isn't passionate about God, then how can I follow him? A passion and thirst for God is very important to me. By Passion I mean persuing him whole heartedly... he can be layed back, but that doesn't mean he's not passionate about it. Passion isn't always jumping off the walls raring to go. I want to be able to FOLLOW my husband, and I certainly can't follow somebody who lacks passion for their God.

Since I am called to leadership in God's church I don't think it makes much sense to be with a man who lacks a passion for God. I don't want to be leading my husband to the point where I feel like I'm dragging him. Yes, it's give and take in a relationship, but the husband should be leading more so... that's what he was made to do.

So, by passionate I mean seeking after God whole heartedly every day, and thirsting for him. Wanting to see the unsaved saved, and just loving God's people. That's the kind of passion I'm talking about...

If my husband and I don't mesh with that, how can we mesh at all? I have a passion to know God, and a thirst for him, and I want to see the unsaved saved, and I love God's people.

 

[TravellingGrace]

im sorry you are feeling that way and i totally know what you are going through! i hope God graces you with a great husband (i know He will) just remember its in His timing. maybe if you were to get into a relationship now, it wouldnt last. thats how im feeling right now. i want that relationship with my husband but i know im not ready for it. i have so much growing to do and so much i need to learn. but God is with you. and no he cant physically hold you, but he is definitly there holding your hand guiding you right now. ive felt Him hold my hand before and when He did, i felt like i was completely on fire for Him. let Him hold your hand and you will meet that great man for you. dont give up and dont give in! God is with you.

Love in His name,
Stephanie

I think that's where the impatients comes in. I want to be done working on what I need to now. I want to be ready to glorify God with my husband. I want to be ready for anything... ugh. growing up (spiritually) is so difficult! It takes time, and sometimes it's hard to wait for the growth that is slowly happening...

 

[covenantwmn]

I know I want a Godly man, if he is truly Godly and loves the LORD with all his heart, then what else is there to ask for? And Churchpunk, I bet you hate this, lol, but you are young and the LORD has someone for you, just hang tough!!

 

[TravellingGrace]

I know I want a Godly man, if he is truly Godly and loves the LORD with all his heart, then what else is there to ask for? And Churchpunk, I bet you hate this, lol, but you are young and the LORD has someone for you, just hang tough!!

lol, it's definately advice I've heard 8 bajillion times before (ok, maybe I exaggerated that just a bit! ) and it's advice I've given myself. I know it, it's in my head, but it doesn't change how I feel. I wish it did.

 

[I'ddie4him]

So, you feel that passion is a pre-requisite for (your) marriage? Suppose God sent you a fine Christian man who lacked passion?

So when you say "I want a good strong Christian man to just love me for who I am, and hold me in his arms", you mean a good strong Christian man isn't enough. He has to be passionate, too.

I just want to make sure we are clear.

I don't think she is exactly asking for THAT kind of passion.
I see she is asking for the same PASSION about Christ and being able to stay steadfast in the same walk WITH her. I think someone has misunderstood the wording in her posts.

 

[TravellingGrace]

I don't think she is exactly asking for THAT kind of passion.
I see she is asking for the same PASSION about Christ and being able to stay steadfast in the same walk WITH her. I think someone has misunderstood the wording in her posts.

my thoughts exactly... but you worded it better! thanks!

 

[paulewog]

Heh, well, you know everything you need to know, it seems, you're "just" fighting the whole lonely/circumstanceish-happinessish stuff. Which is hard and a lot harder than simple ignorance about what you should or shouldn't do.

Loneliness isn't necessarily bad. If God said it wasn't good for Adam to be alone, I dare say He seemed to think it wouldn't have been good for Eve to be alone Perhaps God is just testing your patience and trust in Him. Don't falter and go for an unChristian though, whatever you do. You know they don't care for God and are at enmity with Him. Don't give in to that, you'll hate yourself later for it

But I can't really say anything about the loneliness stuff, that's something that no amount of advice can really take apart. You can be with friends all you want, but if you really are of that age and maturity where you just want to have your own home, with your own husband, etc., friends don't satisfy that longing. You can certainly take it to God and trust that He will satisfy all your needs though.

And you COULD bake cookies, whiel you're waiting!

 

[I'ddie4him]

lol, it's definately advice I've heard 8 bajillion times before (ok, maybe I exaggerated that just a bit! ) and it's advice I've given myself. I know it, it's in my head, but it doesn't change how I feel. I wish it did.

You will feel differently when you find that special person. Mindsets change, Ideas change, Your heart changes also. Don't feel as tho you are unworthy, You are just not yet at that path where God will lead you to that one person yet.

I was 27 when I got married the 1st time. That ended 9 years later on a bad note. I got remarried to a wonderful woman that God led me too. We both had survived failed mariages and we have a strong christian basis for our union. Just be patient and you will find that person when you least expect it. I did, I know you will too.

 

[I'ddie4him]

Heh, well, you know everything you need to know, it seems, you're "just" fighting the whole lonely/circumstanceish-happinessish stuff. Which is hard and a lot harder than simple ignorance about what you should or shouldn't do.

Loneliness isn't necessarily bad. If God said it wasn't good for Adam to be alone, I dare say He seemed to think it wouldn't have been good for Eve to be alone Perhaps God is just testing your patience and trust in Him. Don't falter and go for an unChristian though, whatever you do. You know they don't care for God and are at enmity with Him. Don't give in to that, you'll hate yourself later for it

But I can't really say anything about the loneliness stuff, that's something that no amount of advice can really take apart. You can be with friends all you want, but if you really are of that age and maturity where you just want to have your own home, with your own husband, etc., friends don't satisfy that longing. You can certainly take it to God and trust that He will satisfy all your needs though.

And you COULD bake cookies, whiel you're waiting!

Gotta leave those cookies alone paulewog, Gonna get fat like me ..............

 

[TravellingGrace]

Heh, well, you know everything you need to know, it seems, you're "just" fighting the whole lonely/circumstanceish-happinessish stuff. Which is hard and a lot harder than simple ignorance about what you should or shouldn't do.

Loneliness isn't necessarily bad. If God said it wasn't good for Adam to be alone, I dare say He seemed to think it wouldn't have been good for Eve to be alone Perhaps God is just testing your patience and trust in Him. Don't falter and go for an unChristian though, whatever you do. You know they don't care for God and are at enmity with Him. Don't give in to that, you'll hate yourself later for it

But I can't really say anything about the loneliness stuff, that's something that no amount of advice can really take apart. You can be with friends all you want, but if you really are of that age and maturity where you just want to have your own home, with your own husband, etc., friends don't satisfy that longing. You can certainly take it to God and trust that He will satisfy all your needs though.

And you COULD bake cookies, whiel you're waiting!

oh trust me, I'm not going to date a non-Christian. I already discussed that with him, and he even said he probably couldn't date a Christian girl again because of the difference in views and how it'll just end up going nowhere! (I think that was God working there! thanks God!! I was completely stressing that he was going to ask me out and I would have to explain to him why I couldn't lol!)

I don't like having my patience tested

I COULD bake cookies! In fact, I could bake a lot of other things, since I work in a bakery

It's almost worse when I'm at my best friends house and have to help take care of the foster kids... they're so cute... I want my own! but I think I can wait just a bit longer for that

 

[TravellingGrace]

You will feel differently when you find that special person. Mindsets change, Ideas change, Your heart changes also. Don't feel as tho you are unworthy, You are just not yet at that path where God will lead you to that one person yet.

I was 27 when I got married the 1st time. That ended 9 years later on a bad note. I got remarried to a wonderful woman that God led me too. We both had survived failed mariages and we have a strong christian basis for our union. Just be patient and you will find that person when you least expect it. I did, I know you will too.

LOL! Lord, give me patience... NOW PLEASE!!

 

[I'ddie4him]

oh trust me, I'm not going to date a non-Christian. I already discussed that with him, and he even said he probably couldn't date a Christian girl again because of the difference in views and how it'll just end up going nowhere! (I think that was God working there! thanks God!! I was completely stressing that he was going to ask me out and I would have to explain to him why I couldn't lol!)

I don't like having my patience tested

I COULD bake cookies! In fact, I could bake a lot of other things, since I work in a bakery

It's almost worse when I'm at my best friends house and have to help take care of the foster kids... they're so cute... I want my own! but I think I can wait just a bit longer for that

Trust me, When you have your own, Those ideas will change FAST !!!!!
Specially when they hit the teen years. You are tempted to pack their bags and ship em to grandmas house so you can think.

 

[I'ddie4him]

LOL! Lord, give me patience... NOW PLEASE!!

You are so cute...............

 

[TravellingGrace]

Gotta leave those cookies alone paulewog, Gonna get fat like me ..............

lol, at work, we usually have a package of cookies set aside for kids to have one when they're shopping with their parents. Every once in a while we'll sneak one ourselves if we're hungry, or just hankering for a cookie

 

[TravellingGrace]

Trust me, When you have your own, Those ideas will change FAST !!!!!
Specially when they hit the teen years. You are tempted to pack their bags and ship em to grandmas house so you can think.

so that's why I spent so much time at grandma's house!

 

[paulewog]

Cookies?

Heh, little kids. I don't know why, but cute little girls are really adorable. There are some of the cutest little girls in my church, hehe. And very well behaved, which increases their cuteness, I think

 

[TravellingGrace]

You are so cute...............

I try

 

[I'ddie4him]

so that's why I spent so much time at grandma's house!

I think thats why I spent so much time at my grandparents farm too............To keep me so tired, I couldn't get into anything.

 

[TravellingGrace]

Cookies?

Heh, little kids. I don't know why, but cute little girls are really adorable. There are some of the cutest little girls in my church, hehe. And very well behaved, which increases their cuteness, I think

it does increase their cuteness. Girls are adorable when they're little, but I must warn you now... when we hit 13, it isn't pretty! I want boys, for that specific reason! I don't want to deal with another version of myself!

 

[I'ddie4him]

it does increase their cuteness. Girls are adorable when they're little, but I must warn you now... when we hit 13, it isn't pretty! I want boys, for that specific reason! I don't want to deal with another version of myself!

You can have Matt for a week. He is a smaller version of me..............Much to my dismay. He has my temperment and personality as well.
He and I butt heads most everyday over his stubborness.
I just hope he doesn't get more like me as he gets older. I was NOT a poster child for good behaviour. Trust me.