Dear Forum,
I am a new member of this forum and am very troubled right now.
I am a very conservative old fashioned person, but I am in my 30's I am married and have three children.
I feel like the world has liberalized before my very eyes the last 15 years. I feel that as the older generation dies off we are left with a very liberal accepting younger generation. I belong to a church that had an extremely strong stance on homosexuals. They are still very against Gay marriage, and homosexual sexual relations. But they used to teach that gay people were not born that way, but that it is a perversion or sinful behavior, much like a sex addiction, or a pedophile, or married spouse that cheats on his wife 30 times.
My church came under fire for donating resources and man hours to pass Proposition 8 in California. I was proud of this accomplishment, and felt it was a great thing. I guess there was an overwhelming backlash from gays and their liberal friends. As well as liberal members within the congregation.
Recently my church announced that they apologize for their anti gay stance, and have changed official doctrine to recognize that homosexuals are born that way. And that as long as homosexuals refrain from sexual relations, they can hold many church positions and have full fellowship. This has probably always been policy, and I understand that we can't block people from worshiping that want to. But it's the born that way change that bothers me. I find it hard to believe that someone could act like one of those crazy flaming homosexuals, because they are born that way. Are people born as pedophiles then? Are the people with the strange fetishes born that way as well? What about the situations where a young boy is molested, and then becomes gay later in life? Surely he was not born that way? Or the battered angry wife, that divorces her husband and moves in with a woman and becomes a lesbian? Surely she was not born that way, but has turned her back on traditional relationships, because of her bad experience, and experiments.
My church also produced an instructional video where several gay people were interviewed, and their mannerisms were disgusting to me, and they even mentioned how fulfilling their gay relationships were.
I shelter my young kids very much. They do not watch movies with any intimate scenes, don't go on the internet except for kids sites, and then under supervision, and we don't let them play at other kids houses unless we really know the family well. I am concerned about them seeing the flamboyant behavior of a homosexual person. And personally I don't want to see it either. I am sick of their agenda. I want it the way it was 20+ years ago before they were emboldened. I don't think that gays that get married and adopt kids are families.
I feel like my church is jumping the bandwagon now, because they know that this lifestyle is going to be completely acceptable in another 20 years across the board, and that people that voice opinions like my own then will be looked at like racists are now. Like crackpots. Both me and my wife have a lot of time in this church. My wife doesn’t care about this as much as I do. But I am very bothered. Not attending church or changing denominations is not an option because it would cause a lot of strife in my marriage.
Sorry that this post is so long.
Any advice?
I am a new member of this forum and am very troubled right now.
I am a very conservative old fashioned person, but I am in my 30's I am married and have three children.
I feel like the world has liberalized before my very eyes the last 15 years. I feel that as the older generation dies off we are left with a very liberal accepting younger generation. I belong to a church that had an extremely strong stance on homosexuals. They are still very against Gay marriage, and homosexual sexual relations. But they used to teach that gay people were not born that way, but that it is a perversion or sinful behavior, much like a sex addiction, or a pedophile, or married spouse that cheats on his wife 30 times.
My church came under fire for donating resources and man hours to pass Proposition 8 in California. I was proud of this accomplishment, and felt it was a great thing. I guess there was an overwhelming backlash from gays and their liberal friends. As well as liberal members within the congregation.
Recently my church announced that they apologize for their anti gay stance, and have changed official doctrine to recognize that homosexuals are born that way. And that as long as homosexuals refrain from sexual relations, they can hold many church positions and have full fellowship. This has probably always been policy, and I understand that we can't block people from worshiping that want to. But it's the born that way change that bothers me. I find it hard to believe that someone could act like one of those crazy flaming homosexuals, because they are born that way. Are people born as pedophiles then? Are the people with the strange fetishes born that way as well? What about the situations where a young boy is molested, and then becomes gay later in life? Surely he was not born that way? Or the battered angry wife, that divorces her husband and moves in with a woman and becomes a lesbian? Surely she was not born that way, but has turned her back on traditional relationships, because of her bad experience, and experiments.
My church also produced an instructional video where several gay people were interviewed, and their mannerisms were disgusting to me, and they even mentioned how fulfilling their gay relationships were.
I shelter my young kids very much. They do not watch movies with any intimate scenes, don't go on the internet except for kids sites, and then under supervision, and we don't let them play at other kids houses unless we really know the family well. I am concerned about them seeing the flamboyant behavior of a homosexual person. And personally I don't want to see it either. I am sick of their agenda. I want it the way it was 20+ years ago before they were emboldened. I don't think that gays that get married and adopt kids are families.
I feel like my church is jumping the bandwagon now, because they know that this lifestyle is going to be completely acceptable in another 20 years across the board, and that people that voice opinions like my own then will be looked at like racists are now. Like crackpots. Both me and my wife have a lot of time in this church. My wife doesn’t care about this as much as I do. But I am very bothered. Not attending church or changing denominations is not an option because it would cause a lot of strife in my marriage.
Sorry that this post is so long.
Any advice?
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