- Dec 13, 2015
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I'm in a relationship with a 19 year old (going on 20) man and I'm 25.
We've been sleeping together. I'm concerned about getting pregnant even though we use protection....
I told my mom the other day that we talked about moving in together and having a baby. She was like okay.... So your gonna have a baby out of wedlock? And I shrugged... I mean since I'm 25, I have a job, my bachelor's degree, my own car, etc. It's a little different than if i was a teen. Sometimes I feel like I'm just going with things cause I don't feel like I have a choice what happens to me.
Part of me cares that this is sin (maybe it's sin) and the other part of me feels too depressed to care about my life or what happens. Besides, marriage in the Bible wasnt anything like what we have today. And men had multiple wives and all kinds of strange things. I feel like we've put some kind of modern day spin on marriage to make it Christian. I've read parts in the Bible where men slept with women and they became their wife afterwards. So then in that sense what is fornication really? Seems like it's more so sleeping around with random people you don't care about that God is talking about, but I could be wrong.
Anyway, Ive talked with the guy about getting married in a courthouse or something if I get pregnant. I've even thought about other options of which I rather not mention cause well... and I can't do birth control too much anymore cause it destroys my hair and messes with my hormones. We told each other we would stop having sex. We usually end up having sex again.
I'm seriously fed up with everything in my life. I feel like I'm just making reckless choices sometimes. I'm sick of my mindless job, sick of trying to get married and do things right but not finding anyone to marry, sick of feeling like I'm going to hell because im depressed and despise life even though I don't want to feel this way.
I know this guy is very young. He likes kids etc. Even told me if I can't have children he won't be with me it's his deal breaker....
Then there's me trying to sort out how I feel about him and what not.Hes definitely a 'bad boy's :/ I thought I loved the person at first maybe I do I don't know. It's definitely a different kind of love. I am only used to being infatuated with men and or things as a means to escape my problems. This guy likes to take responsibility for things and forces me to do the same so he doesn't help me run from my issues therefore with him things don't feel like roses and daisys all the time. We argue and he's stubborn. I have fun hanging out with him, we cook together, clean, argue over money, make up, bounce ideas off each other, etc. It's like I like him but I don't trust him (but I don't trust anyone) and think he's too young to trust to commit to anything. And so I tell myself he's not to be trusted as I've been betrayed by men before. They abandon you when things get rough.
But then there's also my depression and anxiety factoring in and it's like I can't decided whether that's making me hate everything and everyone or is it really how I feel. I know a big part of me just wants to abandon everything and everyone and move far away and disappear it's impossible to do this with a relationship and maybe a kid if I get pregnant.
Regardless my actions are all over the place foolish as they may be. I've just stopped caring about my life. Can't tell what I want.
We've been sleeping together. I'm concerned about getting pregnant even though we use protection....
I told my mom the other day that we talked about moving in together and having a baby. She was like okay.... So your gonna have a baby out of wedlock? And I shrugged... I mean since I'm 25, I have a job, my bachelor's degree, my own car, etc. It's a little different than if i was a teen. Sometimes I feel like I'm just going with things cause I don't feel like I have a choice what happens to me.
Part of me cares that this is sin (maybe it's sin) and the other part of me feels too depressed to care about my life or what happens. Besides, marriage in the Bible wasnt anything like what we have today. And men had multiple wives and all kinds of strange things. I feel like we've put some kind of modern day spin on marriage to make it Christian. I've read parts in the Bible where men slept with women and they became their wife afterwards. So then in that sense what is fornication really? Seems like it's more so sleeping around with random people you don't care about that God is talking about, but I could be wrong.
Anyway, Ive talked with the guy about getting married in a courthouse or something if I get pregnant. I've even thought about other options of which I rather not mention cause well... and I can't do birth control too much anymore cause it destroys my hair and messes with my hormones. We told each other we would stop having sex. We usually end up having sex again.
I'm seriously fed up with everything in my life. I feel like I'm just making reckless choices sometimes. I'm sick of my mindless job, sick of trying to get married and do things right but not finding anyone to marry, sick of feeling like I'm going to hell because im depressed and despise life even though I don't want to feel this way.
I know this guy is very young. He likes kids etc. Even told me if I can't have children he won't be with me it's his deal breaker....
Then there's me trying to sort out how I feel about him and what not.Hes definitely a 'bad boy's :/ I thought I loved the person at first maybe I do I don't know. It's definitely a different kind of love. I am only used to being infatuated with men and or things as a means to escape my problems. This guy likes to take responsibility for things and forces me to do the same so he doesn't help me run from my issues therefore with him things don't feel like roses and daisys all the time. We argue and he's stubborn. I have fun hanging out with him, we cook together, clean, argue over money, make up, bounce ideas off each other, etc. It's like I like him but I don't trust him (but I don't trust anyone) and think he's too young to trust to commit to anything. And so I tell myself he's not to be trusted as I've been betrayed by men before. They abandon you when things get rough.
But then there's also my depression and anxiety factoring in and it's like I can't decided whether that's making me hate everything and everyone or is it really how I feel. I know a big part of me just wants to abandon everything and everyone and move far away and disappear it's impossible to do this with a relationship and maybe a kid if I get pregnant.
Regardless my actions are all over the place foolish as they may be. I've just stopped caring about my life. Can't tell what I want.
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