LiberatedChick
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Taken from a link you posted
The vast majority of young women today want to marry and have children. And many of these women and most young men see cohabitation as a way to test marital compatibility and improve the chances of long-lasting marriage. Their reasoning is as follows: Given the high levels of divorce, why be in a hurry to marry? Why not test marital compatibility by sharing a bed and a bathroom with for a year or even longer? If it doesn't work out, one can simply move out. According to this reasoning, cohabitation weeds out unsuitable partners through a process of natural de-selection. Over time, perhaps after several living-together relationships, a person will eventually find a marriageable mate.
This talks about cohabitation as being a test for a relationship. Testing out whether it'll work and then being free to give up if it doesn't. The last paragraph shows that it's this "throw away" mentality that is the cause of the break ups NOT cohabitation. Cohabitation is merely how this train of thought can manifest itself. If you're an engaged couple, wedding planned and sorted you don't believe that if it doesn't work you'll just give up and leave and therefore don't have the "throw away" mentality that much of the world has these days (i.e. if it doesn't work, chuck it out can get a new one instead of fixing it).*snip*More in question within the research community is why the striking statistical association between cohabitation and divorce should exist. Perhaps the most obvious explanation is that those people willing to cohabit are more unconventional than others and less committed to the institution of marriage. These are the same people then, who more easily will leave a marriage if it becomes troublesome. By this explanation, cohabitation doesn't cause divorce but is merely associated with it because the same type of people is involved in both phenomena.
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