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Hi everyone. I was told years ago by my mother’s little sister that my mom had aspergers. My aunt said that my mom didn’t know she had it. Their parents had not wanted her to know and refused any therapy or special education.
So my aunt says. I don’t exactly trust my aunt. That’s sad isn’t it? However I think at the time she wanted to give me a reason why my mom was so Unaffectionate with me and my brother. She told me that was because of the autism.
I know very little about any type of autism. I read a little bit on google...and some of the symptoms made sense with my mother’s behavior. But the main thing I’m curious about is the detachment. My mom does not touch. Like when sometimes A person might touch the shoulder of the one they are talking to...mom never does this. No physical contact. Not with me. She does touch her grandchildren...my kids. She hugs them, holds their hands (well, when walking). So she is capable of physical contact . However, with me, she seems uncomfortable if she accidentally brushes against me. And I honestly can’t Think of a moment from my childhood where physical contact was made. Mom Never gave affection. Neither physical or emotional. She is completely distant. But that’s with me. So...I’m wondering....is the detachment due to aspergers or any other form of autism?
Now... to state the obvious ... since she is a mother...she has made physical contact with someone before. I don’t mean to be crude or anything...I’m just saying....she’s capable of touching and being touched....but never hugged her own kids. Literally never. ( well I assume she did when we were babies but I don’t remember so it really doesn’t) No kisses. No physical contact or affection. Nor emotional affection.
I’m really just trying to understand if this is a symptom of something. Or am I just unloveable? (At least to mom)
So my aunt says. I don’t exactly trust my aunt. That’s sad isn’t it? However I think at the time she wanted to give me a reason why my mom was so Unaffectionate with me and my brother. She told me that was because of the autism.
I know very little about any type of autism. I read a little bit on google...and some of the symptoms made sense with my mother’s behavior. But the main thing I’m curious about is the detachment. My mom does not touch. Like when sometimes A person might touch the shoulder of the one they are talking to...mom never does this. No physical contact. Not with me. She does touch her grandchildren...my kids. She hugs them, holds their hands (well, when walking). So she is capable of physical contact . However, with me, she seems uncomfortable if she accidentally brushes against me. And I honestly can’t Think of a moment from my childhood where physical contact was made. Mom Never gave affection. Neither physical or emotional. She is completely distant. But that’s with me. So...I’m wondering....is the detachment due to aspergers or any other form of autism?
Now... to state the obvious ... since she is a mother...she has made physical contact with someone before. I don’t mean to be crude or anything...I’m just saying....she’s capable of touching and being touched....but never hugged her own kids. Literally never. ( well I assume she did when we were babies but I don’t remember so it really doesn’t) No kisses. No physical contact or affection. Nor emotional affection.
I’m really just trying to understand if this is a symptom of something. Or am I just unloveable? (At least to mom)
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