Modesty in our Churches?

[sylverpiano]

Taking a cue from my good friend Michie, I am posting a link to an article:
cleavage in church

I can't imagine dressing like some of the descriptions in the article anywhere at any time, much less while at Mass.

 

[WarriorAngel]

When the shirts are low cut - you are supposed to wear a tank or something under to hide cleavage - i see a lot of women wearing them as is.

Maybe they dont know?

 

[Gwendolyn]

I don't like showing cleavage. I feel weird wearing a one-piece bathing suit because if I lean down or bend over the boobs are in clear view. I can't imagine wearing a low-cut shirt that shows off my boobs. I wear shirts underneath low-cut things.

 

[Antigone]

I've got no problems showing cleavage most of the time, but I draw the line at church and work (because being ogled by 14 year olds is no fun).

 

[MKJ]

Shoulders are something I find interesting, because in some places it seems like bare shoulders are regarded in the same way as cleavage, and in other places more like ankles.

 

[Tallguy88]

I've got no problems showing cleavage most of the time, but I draw the line at church and work (because being ogled by 14 year olds is no fun).

As a former 14 year old, we always appreciated it when the attractive teachers "dressed down."

 

[Gwendolyn]

Shoulders are something I find interesting, because in some places it seems like bare shoulders are regarded in the same way as cleavage, and in other places more like ankles.

I show shoulders during the summer, but for a reason - I sweat so profusely that sleeves soak through within minutes, and it's gross. So I swear sleeveless tops.

 

[sylverpiano]

Considering that I am 4'9" tall and weigh in at 92 lbs, I don't really have "cleavage" to show, but I still dress modestly out of habit and temperament.

 

[Tallguy88]

I always leave the top button of my shirt unbuttoned. I'm sure the ladies appreciate it.

 

[Shane R]

This issue does not exist at Roman Catholic Mass onboard the ship. Everyone wears coveralls with a blue undershirt.

 

[Mariposa36]

So, I do get annoyed when people dress super sleezy, but not for the same reasons as "bikini girl".

It's totally okay to wear a bikini to the pool or beach and no, not all of them are sleezy. Heck, there are bikinis that cover more than some one pieces. Point 1 why bikini girl is wrong and doesn't know what she's talking about.

Dressing super sleezy isn't stylish or flattering like some may think it to be. Personally, I'm a self-proclaimed fashionista and I wouldn't wear anything less than like this. Obviously, I'd wear more clothes and more dressy clothes to an event like church or work. The people that let everything hang out in public, simply don't know how to dress themselves properly.

Lastly, bikini girl uses that study and thinks she's so smart, but really you can make a study reveal about anything. This is a big issue with pharmaceutical research -- a company can make it appear as if the drug poses a lot risk or has a desired effect when the reality may be different. Even if her study was correct, it still doesn't say much. Look at all the male doctors, nurses, medical examiners, anatomists, etc. that deal with nudity on a daily basis. Men aren't this inherently sex-crazed creatures like some people try to make them appear to be. Honestly, I think such a stereotype is terribly offensive to men.

Oh and I know I'm posting in the Catholic section, but I have been to Catholic churches before.

 

[WarriorAngel]

Performing surgery on someone nude is a bit different than say - going to Mass displaying for all the world as much flesh as you want.

Men can lust after a woman wearing a completely covered robe.
But to intend to show off - thats another story.

 

[LewsTherin]

Cleavage is also very distracting to a chalice bearer at an altar rail. I don't usually look around at others during church services, but if I'm serving as chalice bearer I pretty much have to look at everyone at a downward angle, and cleavage can put a man's mind in completely the wrong place at that moment. So I REALLY appreciate modestly dressed women at church.

 

[Tigg]

Modesty in our churches? I would like to see some modesty anywhere. And while I am at it, some strong restraint on language used and subject matter on the tv, shows etc. Wishful thinking I know.

BOT, what modesty? Where?

 

[MoNiCa4316]

This is something I've been thinking about recently: modesty.

I think that it's good to be modest to help our neighbour and to protect our dignity. Sometimes I do wonder what it's like to be a guy in our culture. Must be tough. Of course guys can be immodest too and cause women to be tempted. But it seems guys are more visual and modern fashions for men are not as immodest as modern fashions for women. Generally speaking. (there are exceptions).

I don't think that a bikini becomes alright just because it's at the beach. There are men at the beach who would stare, just like in any other public place. The context is still: a public place. I wouldn't wear something like that anywhere.

 

[Virgil the Roman]

Men should avoid wearing tight shirts or showing off as well. Men do need to exercise modesty. I know it's not something we men often think of; but we don't want to trip up the womenfolk ourselves. So we've got to bear that in mind.

Besides, ladies like and respect a sharp dressed man. Keep that in mind and things ought to go well!

 

[MoNiCa4316]

^ that's nice

To be honest, I don't even like modern clothing that much!

 

[Virgil the Roman]

Glad to see you on here, again, Monica!