- Feb 11, 2018
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Hey all! I'm a new member, who's looking for answers and advice without typical textbook replies. This isn't something I can really discuss with some one in person.
I'm a 27 yo male. Grew up ultra fundie, but have left the legalism. I am a complete virgin......as in I've never even had a passing conversation with a single, non family female other than strictly for business.
My issue: I've been listening to various pastors while on the road, and have been feeling pretty crappy about masturbating. Im not addicted to it, nor inappropriate content. In fact I can go a couple weeks with out haveing to relieve the tension. But the "burning with passion" is still there.
Here's where my frustration is. The pastors all talk about inappropriate content being a bad thing(which I total understand), and masturbation being a selfish/wrong thing. If scripture says it is better to marry than to burn with passion, what is one to do if marriage is not an option in todays society....even within the church? I would probably have better chances, especially at my age, just going out and proposing to a prostitute than holding a convo with a christian female. of course you then run into the issue of being "unequally yoked". Every time I do the "deed" I feel somewhat sad that I have no one to share an experience with. Truth be told, I feel that way with every high/low, success/failure.
So what is the answer? Is there really a scriptural problem with masturbating for the rest of my life? Is my guilt just remains from my fundie upbringing? IDK what the right answer is. It seems like I'm cornered with no "right" way out.
I'm a 27 yo male. Grew up ultra fundie, but have left the legalism. I am a complete virgin......as in I've never even had a passing conversation with a single, non family female other than strictly for business.
My issue: I've been listening to various pastors while on the road, and have been feeling pretty crappy about masturbating. Im not addicted to it, nor inappropriate content. In fact I can go a couple weeks with out haveing to relieve the tension. But the "burning with passion" is still there.
Here's where my frustration is. The pastors all talk about inappropriate content being a bad thing(which I total understand), and masturbation being a selfish/wrong thing. If scripture says it is better to marry than to burn with passion, what is one to do if marriage is not an option in todays society....even within the church? I would probably have better chances, especially at my age, just going out and proposing to a prostitute than holding a convo with a christian female. of course you then run into the issue of being "unequally yoked". Every time I do the "deed" I feel somewhat sad that I have no one to share an experience with. Truth be told, I feel that way with every high/low, success/failure.
So what is the answer? Is there really a scriptural problem with masturbating for the rest of my life? Is my guilt just remains from my fundie upbringing? IDK what the right answer is. It seems like I'm cornered with no "right" way out.
