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What I do know is that having such an inclination or temptation isn't the problem. A person can struggle with this or pretty much any sin and remain on good terms within the Church. But I said "struggle with". The problem for them is that there is no legitimate outlet available. Just as for unmarried folks there is no legitimate outlet for sexual behavior. Chastity is the expectation.
You raise a valuable point here that I hadn't previously considered. There really isn't any outlet available for folks with same sex attraction or for folks who are unmarried. It's kind of weird to think that those two groups are in the same boat, but now that you mention it, in many ways they are.
As a single Orthodox person, I know how hard it can be to remain virtuous. It's really difficult. There are no outreach efforts for non-vocational pursuing single people in Orthodoxy, at least that I've found, just as there are not many groups for Orthodox with same sex attraction. Both topics are kind of taboo. For single people who are attracted to the opposite sex you will often hear, "oh you'll find someone eventually". But there is no real help to bring Orthodox singles together, and there are only a smattering of single Orthodox people around. St. Paul wrote that men and women should take each other as wife and husband to prevent sins of the flesh, but that was a different era. Marriages then were arranged. Today they are not. Finding husbands and wives is not an easy task for Orthodox in the West, and many people might fall into sin because of this. While it is their "fault" (for lack of a better word) for for letting temptation get the better of them if they do not remain chaste, it is also somewhat understandable in a cultural context. What choice do single Orthodox have? Do they date secular people who might also lead them into sin? Do they pursue Christians of other persuasions, who may or may not approve of their Orthodox faith? Do they struggle with socially forced chastity? There is no help for them, and not many people want to talk about or understand their struggles. That can be frustrating.
I would imagine for same sex attracted people, the lack of support can be frustrating as well. Though the church cannot condone unholy relationships, it can still try to minister to the needs of these people. This is especially the case for the ones who are open to the teachings of the church, and for those who might struggle from same sex attraction, but who also have inclinations towards the opposite sex.
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