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I have a Catholic friend who has a Mormon boyfriend. He's pretty much left Mormonism, he's open to Catholicism, and is on the verge of RCIA, but just can't make sense of the Trinity. This is not the focus of the thread (though prayers are always appreciated); this is just to provide background.
I was in the car with two other friends today, Jayda & Brian. Jayda made mention of the aforementioned relationship, and mentioned how the girlfriend is trying to convert her Mormon boyfriend, so it won't be an issue for marriage. Brian asked, "Why would that be an issue?". Jayda mentioned that the Catholic Church permits marriages with other Christians, but doesn't see Mormons as Christians, and thus wouldn't see a Catholic/ Mormon marriage as valid. Brian (already in a bad mood) said, "This is why I don't like the Catholic Church.". He went on to describe his displeasure with the Church forcing its way into things where it shouldn't be; he said that marriage is between the 2 people, so all the other people shouldn't be able to make up rules to not allow some marriages. He also mentioned an aunt of his that wasn't allowed to be a godmother, because of something the Catholic Church said.
I wasn't really sure how to respond, for a few different reasons, but I did notice that some of the difficulty came from his view on what the Church was. He seemed to be describing it as a group of people who make up rules, while I was describing it as the institution left by Christ, with some rules in place to help us. But, I didn't get anywhere, and I realized I needed to ask other Catholics for help: how do I explain this? How do I describe this, keeping love at the center (because that's the nature of God), in a way that makes sense to a spiritual-but-not-religious person?
When praying about it, thanks be to God, I was granted peace; I felt Jesus saying, "It wasn't his time yet.". I knew that it wasn't yet the right time for Brian to come to the Church. But I also knew I needed to take it to the one who knows Christ better than any of us: His mother. I just finished a Rosary for him & a few others I'm trying to evangelize, and in my time of silence after the final Sign of the Cross, I knew that Mary would do most of the work, but I still need to find out more; hence, this post.
Helpful: Here's a good article to describe the Canon law involved with mixed marriage: Marriage between a Catholic and a Non-Catholic
May God bless us all, with peace, courage, and all good things; now accept those blessings & pray!
O Blood & Water, which gushed forth from the Heart of Jesus as a fount of mercy for us, I trust in You!
I was in the car with two other friends today, Jayda & Brian. Jayda made mention of the aforementioned relationship, and mentioned how the girlfriend is trying to convert her Mormon boyfriend, so it won't be an issue for marriage. Brian asked, "Why would that be an issue?". Jayda mentioned that the Catholic Church permits marriages with other Christians, but doesn't see Mormons as Christians, and thus wouldn't see a Catholic/ Mormon marriage as valid. Brian (already in a bad mood) said, "This is why I don't like the Catholic Church.". He went on to describe his displeasure with the Church forcing its way into things where it shouldn't be; he said that marriage is between the 2 people, so all the other people shouldn't be able to make up rules to not allow some marriages. He also mentioned an aunt of his that wasn't allowed to be a godmother, because of something the Catholic Church said.
I wasn't really sure how to respond, for a few different reasons, but I did notice that some of the difficulty came from his view on what the Church was. He seemed to be describing it as a group of people who make up rules, while I was describing it as the institution left by Christ, with some rules in place to help us. But, I didn't get anywhere, and I realized I needed to ask other Catholics for help: how do I explain this? How do I describe this, keeping love at the center (because that's the nature of God), in a way that makes sense to a spiritual-but-not-religious person?
When praying about it, thanks be to God, I was granted peace; I felt Jesus saying, "It wasn't his time yet.". I knew that it wasn't yet the right time for Brian to come to the Church. But I also knew I needed to take it to the one who knows Christ better than any of us: His mother. I just finished a Rosary for him & a few others I'm trying to evangelize, and in my time of silence after the final Sign of the Cross, I knew that Mary would do most of the work, but I still need to find out more; hence, this post.
Helpful: Here's a good article to describe the Canon law involved with mixed marriage: Marriage between a Catholic and a Non-Catholic
May God bless us all, with peace, courage, and all good things; now accept those blessings & pray!
O Blood & Water, which gushed forth from the Heart of Jesus as a fount of mercy for us, I trust in You!