Marriage outside of the church you attend?

[GabrielxBaker]

Recently I had a conversation with a friend of mine on how their church has said that you can only Marry someone who attends the same church as you do.

the way I understand it is you cannot be unevenly yoked I have never heard anything on you are stuck in your own church?

Any thoughts on this?

 

[somuchjoy]

I have heard that your faith should be the same, like once saved always saved vs loss of salvation. But I have never heard only in your church :/ if I was able to marry, that would definitely leave me out of the running

 

[GabrielxBaker]

I have heard that your faith should be the same, like once saved always saved vs loss of salvation. But I have never heard only in your church :/ if I was able to marry, that would definitely leave me out of the running

that's what ive always been taught another large curve that I was just throw this persons church is part of a group of churches that call themselves the true church and they are the only churches of Christ... all other churches are incorrect starting to sound like a cult ...

 

[Lost4words]

Where i live, marrying outside of the church is a no no.

It's always raining!

 

[Not David]

Churches that consider themselves "The One True Church" might excommunate members who marry outside the church but make exceptions if they marry someone from a different church in theirs.

 

[SkyWriting]

Recently I had a conversation with a friend of mine on how their church has said that you can only Marry someone who attends the same church as you do.

the way I understand it is you cannot be unevenly yoked I have never heard anything on you are stuck in your own church?

Any thoughts on this?

All churches do recommend "the same" denomination.
Marriage is hard enough without encouraging split marriages.
In most cases, both spouses stop attending when it happens.

 

[thecolorsblend]

Recently I had a conversation with a friend of mine on how their church has said that you can only Marry someone who attends the same church as you do.

the way I understand it is you cannot be unevenly yoked I have never heard anything on you are stuck in your own church?

Any thoughts on this?

There are a lot of similarities between certain branches of the Christian faith. A semi-devout Presbyterian could probably marry a semi-devout Methodist without too much trouble, I suppose.

In general though, it's probably good advice. Marrying someone with as similar religious views as you as possible is one more point of commonality in the marriage. And you will need as many as you can get sometimes.

 

[ChicanaRose]

that's what ive always been taught another large curve that I was just throw this persons church is part of a group of churches that call themselves the true church and they are the only churches of Christ... all other churches are incorrect starting to sound like a cult ...

Yeah, that was my initial instinct...it sounds a bit cult-like.

 

[bèlla]

Sometimes denominational differences can be a problem. Especially when the gap is large. There are some people I’d never consider dating because I have no interest in converting (or may be spiritually opposed to their teachings). I think common denominators in matters of faith are ideal.

 

[SPF]

Recently I had a conversation with a friend of mine on how their church has said that you can only Marry someone who attends the same church as you do.

the way I understand it is you cannot be unevenly yoked I have never heard anything on you are stuck in your own church?

Any thoughts on this?

I would want clarification on whether they meant the same "type" of church they attend, or the actual same local church they attend.

I would imagine that when two Christians get married that they would desire to actually go to the same local church. I can't foresee a healthy marriage in which two Believers decide to attend two separate local churches. I've known Christians that attended separate churches when they met, and by the time they were married they were both attending the same local church. I've also known Christians that when they got married they each left the local church they attended and sought a "fresh start" at a completely new local church where they could lay down new roots.

Cult members like Jehovah's Witnesses would certainly say that one JW must marry another JW, but they wouldn't even go so far as to say that one JW can only marry a JW from their local Kingdom Hall.

If your friend goes to a Church where their Pastor is saying that the members literally cannot marry anyone outside of their local church - I would see that as a huge red flag and would probably think there are other, larger issues going on at that church.

 

[Mountainmanbob]

A Christ follower should only marry
a Christ follower.

When we met my wife and I attended different denominations. Once serious we chose to attend one church together.
M-Bob

 

[seeking.IAM]

One faith. One Lord. One Baptism. One God and Father of us all. That's what matters.

 

[Albion]

All churches do recommend "the same" denomination.

I don't think that that's true, but as for the admonition not to be yoked unequally to another, it's unequally that matters. Many if not most marriages between people of different Christian churches are certainly not a matter of being yoked unequally.

So if you were to marry a Christian of another denomination, it would matter if they impeded you in the exercise of your own faith, but if they accommodated it --and I don't mean converting to it--that would not be a case of an unequal yoking, in my view.

If we were talking about marrying a non-Christian, that would raise additional concerns, but that would depend to some degree on what the religion was.

 

[Mountainmanbob]

All churches do recommend "the same" denomination.

Misuse of the word (all).

For ones who have attended several different churches in their lifetime
they know that Not To Be True.

We have a few young singles in our church at this time.
All members of (Bible believing churches) are welcome to date.
MB

 

[SkyWriting]

Misuse of the word (all).

For ones who have attended several different churches in their lifetime
they know that Not To Be True.

We have a few young singles in our church at this time.
All members of (Bible believing churches) are welcome to date.
MB

True, we sloppy liberals allow in most anyone.