What does your wife mean when she asks you this question out the blue?
My wife calls me and suddenly asks me this question..
And mind you her tone was not pleasant..
" So do you love me..or are you in love with me...? "
I felt like I was on trial..
To the point where I say...
I love GOD more than you...
Cause HONESTLY...I don't know what " IN LOVE " means!!
To where when I tried to ask her what it means...she says..
" NO!!..NO!!...answer the question!! "
She wanted to know if I loved her...or was I IN LOVE with her?
I'm like what?
Is that even BIBLICAL...is where I immediately moved my thoughts toward because there was a DEVIL on my phone speaking through my wife..
Scriptures explaining this ordeal would be fabulous. Thanks.
Being "in love" is the description of romantic love which is mainly emotional and provides good and pleasant goosebumps and feelings toward the object of your love.
Loving a person is a constant act of the will to ensure the greatest well-being of that person.
Notice that Jesus said, "Love God with all your heart, mind and strength AND love your neighbou as yourself." He said to love God and your neighbour, not love God, THEN your neighbour.
The reason why there is not a priority list is that loving God is loving your neighbour (in this case, your wife), and loving your wife is loving God. The two are intertwined.
So it is not a matter of putting God first in the loving, but obeying 1 Corinthians 13 in relation to loving your wife is, in fact, loving God through your obedience to His Word in the loving of your wife. If you are doing this consistently, there would be no reason for your wife to think that she is being unloved, which I think she might be, given her response, as you are describing it.
I really doubt that there is a devil speaking through her. Because I believe the devil is a liar, then if a devil is speaking through her, then everything she is saying is a lie. Is that the case? Or is she expressing something out of a sense that you don't love her as she feels she needs to be loved?
Actually saying to a wife, "I am loving God first" implies that "I am putting my religion first before you", and that would make any wife feel unloved and unappreciated. Actually it is inconsistent with 1 Corinthians 13 to make a statement like that to your wife.
There is a marked difference between God Himself and our religion which is the way we decide to worship and serve God. Notice that Jesus said that we are to love...as we love ourselves. We always make decisions that work toward our greatest personal well-being, like the good cows who eat the delicious tufts of grass, instead of the ultra-religious cows who choose the grass with cowpats on them so that they can have some suffering in their lives. Therefore, if we decide for our own well-being, then we make that same decision concerning our wives. In fact, we put our wives before our own well-being in our decision-making.
This means I would never say to my wife that "God comes first", because she would see it as putting my church involvements before her and that I would be loyal to my church before any loyalty to her. I had that difficulty in one church I went to years ago and it caused great conflict in my marriage until I realised that those church leaders had no right to put a loyalty wedge between my wife and me.
It is not a matter of saying the words, "I love you before everything else.", but it will be your actions which will show your true attitude toward her. A person can say, "I am in love with you", but in actual fact wants to use her to satisfy his own emotional and sexual needs. But a husband who really loves his wife will show it through his attitude and actions toward her, she will know it, and through her actions toward you will show her loving response.
