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Loss of Salvation? Is God fed up with me?

Discussion in 'Salvation (Soteriology)' started by BlemishedSoul, Apr 23, 2019.

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  1. BlemishedSoul

    BlemishedSoul New Member

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    I’m in complete and utter despair and ruin. I’m pretty sure that my life is ruin. I was raised in a Christian home. Claimed to be a Christ follower my whole life and felt like I was. I have struggled with my sexual sin most of my life. When I was younger it was masturbation and occasionally still. In HS and college, I wasn’t focused on Christ. I was in relationships that weren’t God-honoring. I was in a long term one for 5 years. I’ve had sex before marriage and I’m not proud of it. In 2013, I committed myself to maintain my purity. I didn’t sleep with anyone until 2018. My prayer life, church life, worship life, Bible reading was gone. I ended up sleeping with my ex again and fell into a dark place. I then had two relationships after that and ended up sleeping with both guys. Needless to say, those didn’t work out. Why can’t I just stand up and say no like I did for 5 years? Why do I struggle with this? I hate it! I don’t feel forgiven and I feel like I’m not saved anymore even though I believe in Jesus with all of my heart. Why do I continue to walk the opposite direction? Is there any hope for this Christian girl, who has slept with 6 men, during her Christian walk? I feel completely hopeless. Please help! will God accept me back after so many countless falls?
     
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  2. Michael Collum

    Michael Collum Everything began with a voice, use yours Supporter

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    That sounds like a confession to me. . . 1 John 1:9
     
  3. Jeshu

    Jeshu Bought by His Blood Supporter

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    If you are sorry and would like to be different then Jesus is for you. Jesus is patient beyond believe. Repent and accept God's grace back into your life. Grow love for Jesus dying for your sins and making freedom from it an option again.

    Be of good courage, forgive yourself your falls and praise Him for redemption.
     
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  4. BlemishedSoul

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    Even after I have confessed and failed time and time again?
     
  5. SnowTiger

    SnowTiger Well-Known Member Supporter

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    I think Jesus loves you and knows that you want to repent. As long as you want to repent, I think there is hope.
     
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  6. Tomm

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    If you are feeling bad about your past sins, then that means God is shining His light on you, God is pouring His love and mercy on you now. Otherwise you'd not care about sins (because we can't repent without God's grace according to Catholic teaching).
     
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  7. Jeshu

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    See the good thing with Jesus is that He doesn't want us doomed but saved. So He paid your price hoping you would love Him for that and move away from a life of sin.

    Jesus teaches us to forgive 70x7=490 times a day if someone is sorry about the wrong they have done. Forgiveness should be no licence to sin but rather freedom from it.
     
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  8. paul1149

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    Then Peter came to Him and said, "Lord, how often shall my brother sin against me, and I forgive him? Up to seven times?"
    Jesus said to him, "I do not say to you, up to seven times, but up to seventy times seven. -Matt 18:21-22​

    If our Forerunner told us to do it, certainly He will do it. 1Cor 13 says love keeps no account of wrong, and 1Jn 4.8 says God is love. And think of how He protected the woman caught in adultery, John 8.

    Come back now, the way you are, and let Him love you and fill the void you've been trying to fill the wrong way. Do not try to clean yourself up without Him - chances are it will never happen. Those who are forgiven much love much, and you can have a wonderful love relationship with the Savior. Don't delay!
     
  9. BlemishedSoul

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    Thank you all. I’m just so tired of confessing and falling right back into the same sins. I have a voice inside my head telling me that I’m not truly saved or truly a Christian. I feel like I can’t be an effective witness because of my sin. I hate it. It’s hard to talk about it to people because of the thought of being judged. I just always feel hopeless like I won’t overcome it or I will fall back into it again.
     
  10. Michael Collum

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    I see a genuine desire to repent.

    If you're concerned about your salvation, focus on developing trust (faith) between you and God. Since salvation is based on a trust bond developing between you and God until you are born again, I recommend to make your calling and election sure. Intimacy with God in His presence is really the only way to be sure of your relationship status with God.
     
  11. BlemishedSoul

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    Yes, it truly hurts my heart that I have failed Him so much.

    How can I do this? I can’t feel God there when I’m praying like I used to. I feel like His Presence is gone or maybe I’m just thinking that because I haven’t spent time with Him? I want to make sure that I’m right with Him tonight before falling asleep. I must.
     
  12. Michael Collum

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    If it seems like something is obstructing God's presence, confess sins, they're opaque and block out the light. When you're tired of confessing, and trusting God to cleanse, praise Him since he inhabits the praises of His people.

    All in all, adjust your expectations for the long term for any big changes.
     
  13. Kenny'sID

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    The solution is not going to seem as simple as it really is for you because you are having trouble forgiving yourself, but I'll tel you, you are no worse than many, and you haven't done a thing God hasn't forgiven before...

    All you need do is get back up and give it another go. If you sin along the way, ask for forgiveness ad move on, and don't let Christs return or your death, whenever that may be, catch you living in sin, as that would be the only thing that could cause you a real problem.

    I'd recommend the scripture on the Prodigal Son for you, so you know God is not only willing to take you back but he's overjoyed to do so. Just get it into your mind he's seen all this before, and just as the Prodigal Son, it's just like a really good loving parent, they are going to have a problem with their children being bad because they know that only brings sadness, but are always willing to forgive if the child is willing to try to straighten up. If They mess up a little along the way, it's no big deal to the parent, nor is it to God as long as they know you are sincere.

    You probably know most of that already, but just in case, I think that's pretty much it, and it's all up to you, and you have already show you can do it.

    A side note before our Eternal Security crowd gets a hold of you. It sounds like you know better than to listen to someone who tells you, you never were lost since you were first saved because God allows us to live in sin, so think I'll leave that at that except to say, go their route and that really will be the end for you.

    If you ever find yourself where you are now again, do just as you are now and get back up and try again. We are told to forgive others 7 x 70 times as long as they ask, and I doubt
    God wold not do that for us if he is telling us to forgive others as much as it takes.
     
  14. BlemishedSoul

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    What happens if I still feel this way even after confessing my sins? Should I just sing praises? I used to feel Him but it has been quite some time since I have. I could always feel the Holy Spirit guiding me too. I know that I was the one that walked away from Him but I want Him back.
     
  15. Job3315

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    Sexual sin, just like any other sin, is a symptom of something that you are craving from God himself but don’t know how to obtain it. You are trying to fill a void but satisfy it with what you think you need.

    In the Christian life you will get many of those moments, the key is to welcome God into that area of struggle. Adam and Eve hid from God’s presence, but now that we are connected back to God (our source) we can openly go to Him and tell Him what we are struggling with. I learned not to hold back anything and He is always welcome into my deepest desires and struggles. God was with Cain before he sinned. God told him (was leading him/teaching him) and told Cain, “sin lies at your door...but you should rule over it”. So, when sin comes, rush to the Lord and ask Him to help you rule over it.

    God is not fed up with you, He loves loves LOVES His children and He knows your condition.

    About salvation and forgiveness, every once in a while we go through some dry seasons because we get tested to know how certain you are of your salvation. Sometimes we have to declare, worship and sing until we believe even when we don’t feel worthy, believe what He says about you. ❤️
     
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  16. paul1149

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    This is a problem many of us have at times. We have a failing and our conscience condemns us. But 1 John says that "when our heart condemns us, God is greater than our heart and knows all things." If you are repentant and love Christ your sin, even though you don't have mastery over it yet, is covered by His grace. Self-condemnation cuts us off from our only hope- Christ himself. It throws us back on works-salvation, because we think we have to shape up before Christ will accept us. That is antithetical to the Gospel of mercy and grace.

    Do some reading at Romans 6.14, the second half of Romans 7, and all of chapter 8. Paul details the struggle we have against sin, and how fruitless it can be. But instead of rejection he finds acceptance and grace in Christ Jesus, and that grace will in turn give him the victory he could not attain on his own (6.14). Also check out Philippians 1.6, and chapters 3 and 4. Stay in the Word, sister. There you will find strength. And enjoy the forgiveness Christ extends to you in a love we can only scarcely comprehend.
     
  17. Michael Collum

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    Sin that lives in the body is kind of like an organism. Sometimes the same sin needs to be confessed multiple times since we need to trust God to cleanse what was confessed. Depending on how much sin you are dealing with, it might take a while.

    Also, since sexual sin does damage to the soul, according to the scriptures, there may be some repair work required before everything works like it used to again. It is recommended to be patient.
     
  18. Kenny'sID

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    God loves that attitude, I'm guessing you already are right with him or you can at least get that way in the time frame you mentioned. Don't go by feelings because I'm afraid a lot of that may be your own guilty feeling still in the way. IOW it's you, not him, but that should subside, and you'll feel better about it soon enough...that's how it works for me anyway..
     
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  19. Mountainmanbob

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    Sometimes it takes us being sick and tired of being sick and tired with ourselves.

    The Holy Spirit Will grieve our hearts and souls to the point in which we truly wish to repent.

    There's a cleansing that we receive that lets us know we wish not to return to our sin for the pain caused is too great.

    Paul claimed to be the worst of sinners but, I believe myself to be the worst of sinners but, I don't do most of those same things today.

    M-Bob
     
  20. childeye 2

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    I believe that God understands the source of our weaknesses and he even states that His strength is made perfect in our weakness. There is a reason that Jesus said the prostitute entered into the kingdom of God ahead of the Pharisees, and why those forgiven much love the Master more than those forgiven little. Perhaps God withholds such virtue that we seek until He is certain that we will have learned how and why to treasure it. My advice would be to forgive the weakness of others so as to be forgiven for your own.

    1 The Pharisee stood and prayed thus with himself, God, I thank thee, that I am not as other men are, extortioners, unjust, adulterers, or even as this publican.

    12 I fast twice in the week, I give tithes of all that I possess.

    13 And the publican, standing afar off, would not lift up so much as his eyes unto heaven, but smote upon his breast, saying, God be merciful to me a sinner.

    14 I tell you, this man went down to his house justified rather than the other: for every one that exalteth himself shall be abased; and he that humbleth himself shall be exalted.
     
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