Lord have mercy. My mom was diagnosed with cancer.

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I am ambivalent about sharing this. On the one hand I am struggling to cope with my feelings about it. It happened very recently and serendipitously, so I thought everything was going to be fine, but with each new test, the situation seems to be worse. We still don't know much about the exact staging and treatment plan - we will find out Monday or Tuesday.

On the other hand, I am even having trouble praying. I don't know how. I don't know about asking for prayer either. I've always had difficulty asking that. In these situations (and whenever it was about me) I've had a strong feeling that "Your will be done" is all that is appropriate. But, yeah, now I have an urge to ask. But I can't. I don't know.

The distance, the impossibility of just dropping everything and flying there tomorrow, just compounds it all.

It's not right, it'a all wrong, it's not what it was supposed to be, they were supposed to come over here next week to see their granddaughter for the first time.

Lord have mercy.
 

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I am ambivalent about sharing this. On the one hand I am struggling to cope with my feelings about it. It happened very recently and serendipitously, so I thought everything was going to be fine, but with each new test, the situation seems to be worse. We still don't know much about the exact staging and treatment plan - we will find out Monday or Tuesday.

On the other hand, I am even having trouble praying. I don't know how. I don't know about asking for prayer either. I've always had difficulty asking that. In these situations (and whenever it was about me) I've had a strong feeling that "Your will be done" is all that is appropriate. But, yeah, now I have an urge to ask. But I can't. I don't know.

The distance, the impossibility of just dropping everything and flying there tomorrow, just compounds it all.

It's not right, it'a all wrong, it's not what it was supposed to be, they were supposed to come over here next week to see their granddaughter for the first time.

Lord have mercy.

I'm so sorry. I'll be praying. My older sister died of cancer at age forty-five; a younger sister at age fifty-two. My husband at age sixty-two. My mother lived to be ninety-three.

God gives us strength and comfort.

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3Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of compassion and the God of all comfort, 4who comforts us in all our troubles, so that we can comfort those in any trouble with the comfort we ourselves receive from God.

Know that God will help you.
 
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I am ambivalent about sharing this. On the one hand I am struggling to cope with my feelings about it. It happened very recently and serendipitously, so I thought everything was going to be fine, but with each new test, the situation seems to be worse. We still don't know much about the exact staging and treatment plan - we will find out Monday or Tuesday.

On the other hand, I am even having trouble praying. I don't know how. I don't know about asking for prayer either. I've always had difficulty asking that. In these situations (and whenever it was about me) I've had a strong feeling that "Your will be done" is all that is appropriate. But, yeah, now I have an urge to ask. But I can't. I don't know.

The distance, the impossibility of just dropping everything and flying there tomorrow, just compounds it all.

It's not right, it'a all wrong, it's not what it was supposed to be, they were supposed to come over here next week to see their granddaughter for the first time.

Lord have mercy.
Lord have mercy!

It can certainly be a roller coaster for the emotions, and spiritually. You, your mother, you family - have my prayers.

Never feel badly about asking.

Praying for you all.
 
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On the other hand, I am even having trouble praying. I don't know how. I don't know about asking for prayer either. I've always had difficulty asking that. In these situations (and whenever it was about me) I've had a strong feeling that "Your will be done" is all that is appropriate. But, yeah, now I have an urge to ask. But I can't. I don't know.


I think I understand what you mean, but still surely it doesn't hurt to ask for prayer and just an acknowledgement from others that they care about a bad situation such as this one.

I am sorry this has happened to you and your family, especially your mother. God's will be done, as you say, but nevertheless I pray that her pain is minimized and your family and friends and anyone else who knows and loves your mother find peace of mind in this trying time.
 
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Naturally your confused, that's perfectly normal. But don't give up on prayer, it's not that hard, God I need help will do. Take it one step at a time and when it happens, and it will, when it comes to mind the good things in your life, don't forget to be grateful. It makes all the difference, and God be with you in these trying times.

Grace and peace,
Mark
 
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Lord, have mercy!

I am so sorry you and your family have to go through all of this. Having had a few close members of my family deal with cancer, I know that nothing about it is easy for any of the family. I pray that God’s is with you all, gives you strength, and surrounds you with those who will support you.
 
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May the Lord guide, guard, keep, and bless you all, Andrei! The Lord is a healer, a Savior, a God of life. May He refresh and renew your mother and erradicate the affliction of cancer from her life. Lord have mercy!
 
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hi there am sorry to hear that your mother has cancer my mother had cancer and beaten it and is well but i no longer in contact to her due to issues around my childhood
i pray that your mother is healed keep positive dont start reading things about the cancer as it will only make you worry and sometimes its not helpful to read things about an illness online better to hear that from someone who is qualified to talk about it

praying for you and your family
 
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Thank you all for this.

The news is not good. The chance of cure is infinitesimal, median survival is 18 months, what we can hope for now is that she will tolerate the treatments and stay progression free for as long as possible.

I was really hoping for something a little bit better, but it is what it is...
 
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Thank you all for this.

The news is not good. The chance of cure is infinitesimal, median survival is 18 months, what we can hope for now is that she will tolerate the treatments and stay progression free for as long as possible.

I was really hoping for something a little bit better, but it is what it is...

Andrei brother, what kind of cancer is it?
I pray that God will do as he sees fit and that your mother will find peace.
Is your mama Christian btw ?
 
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