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I have wanted to reach out for some time to see the opinions of other Christians about this matter. I am a gay man who is at the same time reconciling his belief in the Lord. Is there any advice anyone can provide for me on how to address reconciling my relationship with the Lord? I am sure you can understand this is a very difficult matter for me and any advice would be very helpful, thanks.
I appreciate your willingness to open up to total strangers.
I have 3 boys, and they are each so incredibly unique and different. It's been really neat to watch them grow and see their personalities develop. As a parent, I've also been able to see their "natural" weaknesses, and tendencies towards sin.
For example, my middle child has a problem with telling the truth. He has since he was little. He hasn't been raised differently than his brothers, and both his mother and I are actually very open, and I think for the most part provide a stable and safe environment for them. Yet, he still has a problem with lying.
Why do you think that is? Is it a character flaw? Does he need "more Jesus"?
I think part of sin entering the world is that often times people are born with a tendency towards one "type" of sin over another. Whether it's an addictive personality, telling the truth, or even sexually related.
I believe that Scripture is clear that God created men and women uniquely, and purposefully to be together. Sexually speaking, the natural relationship is for a man and a woman. More than that, I believe God has said it is immoral and sinful for a man and a man or a woman and a woman to have a physical relationship.
Thus, for a man or a woman who finds themselves attracted to someone of the same sex, I personally have great compassion for them. I think each case is different, and I think there are some people that can find love from the opposite sex, but I think there are also people that will never be able to find love from the opposite sex.
And that's the hardest.
It's the hardest because God created us as relational beings. Marriage is the most intimate and God-reflective relationship we can have this side of heaven. For people born with a homosexual bent - that honestly just sets them up for a difficult life.
But at the end of the day, for me, it's always about reminding myself that God is God, and I am His creation. Life is not about me. Life is about knowing Christ, loving Him, becoming more like Him, and showing that love through my life to others.
For now, we all deal with sin. We all deal with sexual struggles, homosexual and heterosexuals alike.
If I was homosexual, I think I would pray that the Lord would help me to overcome that and to find a loving relationship with a woman. But I would also be realistic and understand that it might not happen, and that I might need to remain single for the rest of my life. If that were the case, then someone like Paul from Scripture would probably say I was making a good choice. For the single man can be more dedicated and singularly focused on the Gospel than the married man.