looking in CAc for a loving relationship
What are some tips you can give when trying to date a christian women ?
what are christian women into or want in a man ?
Date with a goal.
I know nowadays people say " Oh just go with the flow" or " Just see how you feeeeeellll" "just have funnnnnnnn" and feeelingssss and emotionssssss and blah blah blah blah blah. But a woman following God is not one who in my sight would be ruled by feeeelinnnggsssss. They gonna see dating through the lens of God. They will judge situations. So in how you present yourself, the places you pick, how you treat her, and the conversations you entertain with, she will check how it aligns not with her, but how it lines up with God's will. Don't pick places and do things that will compromise that and you should be fine. If you're naturally already doing that in everyday life, then just continue as such.
Also I would imagine that christian women, if they are dating, 9.7/10 they are looking for long-term relationship and marriage at some point ( unless they point blank say im just dating). So also judge the situation wisely. If they are not someone you see long-term, spare them the time.
Christian women want 2-3 things:
1. They want a man, that actually conduct himself as a man
2. They want a man, who knows they are a man
3. They want a man, who know they are a child of God.
The number of men I see right now that are either conducting themselves as everything other than a man (even acting as a woman, there I said it), that don't know how to be one or what it means to be one, or are not really a child of God is overwhelming. Its almost like men don't like being men. It hard for a woman, who is operating as a woman, to get behind a man, that doesn't like being a man. I know society is tearing up masculinity apart and putting all these negative connotations on being a man, praising the effeminates and male feminists, putting them on pedestals, but don't follow those things. Enjoy being a man and delight in the things God call men to do.
-Men are leaders
-Men (in marriage) are the head of their wives
-Men (also in marriage) are called to lay down their lives for their wives, as Christ lay down His life for the church.
-Men value their wives as he values his own life.
So with those in mind, even in singledom, there has to be a sense that there's an understanding of manhood. A Christian woman is not going in to expect someone that they have to be a leader of, or to be the head of, or to lay their lives for, even if she could do all those things, that is not what she is called for. They are looking for someone to submit to, to be lead by, and support. So same when you are trying to find a woman, she has to be one who you can lead, that you can be the head of, that would let you lay down your life for them, and that you can value like you value your own life. Get a woman that supports you being a man, and not emasculate. A woman that wants to emasculate, wants to be the "masculine" of the situation. Flee from them.
In knowing who you are as a man, you'll be able to love your rib, the woman, fully.
