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Lookig for a wife or girlfriend i am doing my will ?

Discussion in 'Requests for Christian Advice' started by ovis90, Sep 16, 2020.

  1. ovis90

    ovis90 Member

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    Is trying to force or seeking for a wife on my own means i am doing my own will and against Gods will?
     
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  2. FutureAndAHope

    FutureAndAHope Just me Supporter

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    As long as you are seeking a wife consensually, you are in God's will. The bible tells us that we have a "right" to a wife (1Co 9:5), and that if we have strong desires for a wife, we should "seek one" (1Co 7:9 ).

    Find someone who likes you and marry, if you desire to.
     
  3. LoveGodsWord

    LoveGodsWord Well-Known Member

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    Nothing wrong with asking God for your wife. If it is God's will he will send you your wife in His timing. His timing however is not always our timing as he knows what is best for us.

    God bless.
     
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  4. pdudgeon

    pdudgeon Traditional Catholic Supporter

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    If I could, I would give your answer above 5 gold stars.

    This is exactly the way to go about finding not just
    "a wife", but THE wife that God wants you to have; the one and only wife that God wants for you.

    Patience is key here, because at the same time that you are looking for a wife, God is in the middle of preparing a wife for you.

    Smart Christian men know this, and so they in turn begin to prepare themselves to become good Christian husbands, who can both tenderly love and care for a good wife.

    That too takes time and the mans submission to God so that God can sweep your heart clean, pour into your heart the kind of sacrificial love that your wife needs, and also so that He can increase your knowledge, your fortitude, and imbue you with good judgement so as to lead your wife in safe and Godly ways.

    When you seek a Godly wife, you seek one of God's most precious treasures on Earth. Remember that!
     
  5. Carl Emerson

    Carl Emerson Well-Known Member

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    Seek first the Kingdom of God and His righteousness and all these things will be added unto you...
     
  6. ovis90

    ovis90 Member

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    I know its not bad to ask for a wife , but i mean is it good to look for a wife? Somestimes i just feel hopepless i am already 30 years old never had a girlfriend. I asked many times to meet a girl from God. I dont go out much so not much of a chance to meet anyone, even in Catholic church nobody talk to each other, so the chances even lower.
     
  7. JohnDB

    JohnDB Regular Member

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    Well...
    When churches reopen freely and the pandemic is over...
    Then you simply need to get involved in your community. Go to church...Jaycees...United Way projects or whatever.
    You can ask a local priest if he knows about Local projects you can join in with...if he doesn't know go ask the Baptists or Methodists or presbyterians...
    What? It's not like you are an atheist...they won't mind.

    A single Christian man without vice is a unicorn...
    Some young lass will hunt you down and make sure you are married.

    Have you ever been to Washington DC?
    Women outnumber guys something like 10:1.
    The reverse of Alaska.

    Sure quarantine sucks...but it won't last forever.
    And some of these Christian single ladies are gonna be a bit bold...so BE PICKY and discriminating.
    You may have hidden yourself away...it's the only way you could have made it this long.
    Because them women are always hunting...

    Yeah I know...you just think that you are the hunter... you are really the prey. Be careful.
     
  8. tturt

    tturt Senior Veteran Supporter

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    You could use the time to prepare. There's Biblical advice in Scripture.. Also, encourage you to watch "Marriage Today" Those televised programs are on Daystar. Plus their website marriagetoday.com/category/tv-episodes/ has probably 60 free episodes including "What a man really needs" and 'What a woman really needs" by Jimmy Evan's ministries. All teachings are Biblically based. Plus there's books, videos, etc. He was interviewed on Joni Table Table for 4 sessions about "The Four Laws of Love." Think those can still be viewed.
     
  9. lambofgod43985889

    lambofgod43985889 Well-Known Member Supporter

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    Maybe you should accept a "no" from god
     
  10. ovis90

    ovis90 Member

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    I think that constant thinking that i need to find someone is making me not focus on more important things in life like faith or my future.
     
  11. venksta

    venksta Jesus is humanity's most successful rebel.

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    What kind of woman are you seeking? If you're not after someone, who loves the Lord our God, with all her heart, all her mind, and all her soul, then you can try on your own means. However, only God can reveal the godly woman you desire. He already knows her. So its up to you if you want His help, to find her, or find someone else on your own.

    If you want God's help, first draw near to Him, and He will draw near to you. Spend time reading and studying the Bible, thats the best way to grow your relationship with God, and to have a better shot to let him guide you. :)

    With the current pandemic and churches closed, it may seem like a lost chance to meet someone right now. But look at it this way, you have more time to spend with building your relationship with God, and being better prepared when your church opens up again.
     
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  12. JohnDB

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    Actually...
    There's an old axiom...
    To have a friend, one must first be a friend.

    And that's soooo true.
    You can have your head "in the clouds" so far with religious thoughts and career self improvement...or you can live a rich, full life.

    A man's life isn't measured by his possessions. Those things don't make a life. Sure they are fun...but...

    Your relationships with others around you are really more important in having a full life rich in friends and relationships.
    I'm not suggesting that you should be a social butterfly... only the village bum hangs out with the whole town.
    But you should be a part of your community.
     
  13. ovis90

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    When i look online on my own i feel only lust and look to the looks, but in my heart maybe i created this perfect girl i dream to meet i knew once such girl but never had a chance to talk to ,but i feel some how i wish God send me such wife and from my spirit i feel good when i think about this girl. It feel God is telling me its possible to meet this girl , but when i start to think that i will close all options if i dont look online and than i dont know where i can meet this girl i wish to meet.
     
  14. JohnDB

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    I can't begin to tell you the number of girlfriends I had that came as a result of having friendships with people I had no interest in dating...

    Dude! Your sister is HOT! Might be a joke but it's also often true.

    I had a male friend and he had a former female classmate he was still friends with that was going to college and her roommate became a girlfriend of mine...
    It's how these things work...you make friends and extended friendship networks are where the bulk of dating life comes from.
     
  15. Bèlla

    Bèlla ילדה❣️טובה Supporter

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    pdudgeon,

    Great feedback. The same holds true for women!

    Yours in His Service,

    ~Bella
     
  16. Sketcher

    Sketcher Born Imperishable

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    Not unless God previously gave you clear instructions that this contradicts.
     
  17. DancingPenguins

    DancingPenguins New Member

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    nvm
     
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  18. steppinrazor

    steppinrazor Philippians 4:8, Proverbs 3:6 Supporter

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    personally, I think a man needs to be in the wilderness and learn yourself. The wilderness can be the world, the true wilderness, or just your path that the father has set before you. In my opinion, I don't think the computer age has provided the right system of government of relationships. Sure, love has been found online and through these apps, but I think you should find your mate through actual seeking and moving through life. My wife was found when i was not seeking her...it was almost the exact moment I let go of many things in my life.....
     
  19. ovis90

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    I had this feeling i dont know how to say that it was telling me to stop either using those sites or just maybe trust in him and just stop forcing online looking. But fear of not finding and adiction to this pages i couldn't gave up looking.
     
  20. Sketcher

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    Perhaps you need to try something different if that is unproductive? Using those sites isn't sinful in and of itself.
     
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