My gf and I have been doing the LDR for about 9 months. We talk on the phone every night (thank God we have unlimited minutes T-Mobile to T-Mobile
). We also are reading a book together over the phone--although we are making really slow progress (we either never get to reading it or we get into a good discussion about it so we only finish a page or two
) We also write letters, emails, and send little gifts now and then. We see each other every couple months for a few days.
Honestly, things have been amazing. We have done the best a couple can possibly do given these circumstances. I think that having a Christ-centered relationship is how this is accomplished. A LDR is built hugely on trust as well.
There are benefits to this kind of relationship too--you really get to know someone well from talking to them so long--also, especially if you start out as an LDR (like we did), you don't get
too blinded by physical attraction and affection
. Affection and attraction are very good, but sometimes people can overlook serious personal incompatibilites if these two things are good. We have really been able to build our relationship from the heart outward.
Likewise, the temptation to just spend time together exclusively is not an issue--we both have plenty of time for family and friends and other activities while still maintaining a close and involved relationship. It's a good balance.