Hi everyone,
Two questions for you, both related to non-married coubles who decide to live together.
Question one:
My question is twofold. I am 22, and I have an 18-year-old brother. He doesn't understand why it is inappropriate for a non-married couple to live together. His misunderstanding appeals to the common secular logic - "If you're going to be married, you need to know that you can live with that person, right? Just so you don't get married and find out you can't stand to live together."
I don't really know how to answer him. I'm not equipped with logical, well-thought-out answers. I understand that it is inappropriate, and would never seek to live with a man prior to marriage; but would any of you be able to explain to me why, both according to the faith and maybe in some ways a secular person could try to understand?
Question Two:
I've been listening to the Catholic Channel on Sirius satellite radio. Today, on the segment called Catholic Guy, the host was discussing with a priest (Fr. Jim) the issues associated with pre-marital counselling. He asked him what it's like to encounter couples who live together and refuse to move out. He said in that instance, he gives them two options: move out completely, or, if that is too financially difficult given the situation, live as brother and sister.
We do the "ask your priest" thing a lot in here. I've heard from other priests that living together before marriage is unacceptable in all cases, even if you live as brother and sister. But this priest and the other co-hosts were agreeing with each other and saying that if worse comes to worse, you can agree to live as brother and sister, with separate sleeping quarters.
Is this like anything you have heard? It's the first time I've encountered a priest who would permit it.
Thanks for all your help. It will put me at ease.
Two questions for you, both related to non-married coubles who decide to live together.
Question one:
My question is twofold. I am 22, and I have an 18-year-old brother. He doesn't understand why it is inappropriate for a non-married couple to live together. His misunderstanding appeals to the common secular logic - "If you're going to be married, you need to know that you can live with that person, right? Just so you don't get married and find out you can't stand to live together."
I don't really know how to answer him. I'm not equipped with logical, well-thought-out answers. I understand that it is inappropriate, and would never seek to live with a man prior to marriage; but would any of you be able to explain to me why, both according to the faith and maybe in some ways a secular person could try to understand?
Question Two:
I've been listening to the Catholic Channel on Sirius satellite radio. Today, on the segment called Catholic Guy, the host was discussing with a priest (Fr. Jim) the issues associated with pre-marital counselling. He asked him what it's like to encounter couples who live together and refuse to move out. He said in that instance, he gives them two options: move out completely, or, if that is too financially difficult given the situation, live as brother and sister.
We do the "ask your priest" thing a lot in here. I've heard from other priests that living together before marriage is unacceptable in all cases, even if you live as brother and sister. But this priest and the other co-hosts were agreeing with each other and saying that if worse comes to worse, you can agree to live as brother and sister, with separate sleeping quarters.
Is this like anything you have heard? It's the first time I've encountered a priest who would permit it.
Thanks for all your help. It will put me at ease.