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Little bit weary

Discussion in 'Prayer Wall' started by TriciaR, Aug 2, 2020.

  1. TriciaR

    TriciaR Member

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    I find it really difficult to connect with people properly, like a two way conversation. Usually I just talk to people about themselves. Then when I put stuff out there, I often get limited response.
    I always hope what I put out there resonates and encourages, and I also hope for encouragement, just a connection. But I know it’s not personal, but it’s hard to understand. This has been a lifelong thing anyway, being unnoticed and invisible. On here after the nice comments following introductions, it goes back to the same situation. It’s nobody’s fault. It is just how thing are and have always been for me. But it’s never easy to take and I never get used to it. I get so weary with it all. But I guess if anyone can pray that I may just understand it all - that would be good. Respectfully though, I wonder if it can just be prayer rather than advising me what I ought to do.
     
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  2. eleos1954

    eleos1954 God is Love Supporter

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    People are people ... we are faulty in many ways ... His Word on the other hand ... true and never unfailing .... try to dedicate time every day to spend with Him in His Word. Prayer ... as you say .... very beneficial,

    Be encouraged ....

    What Does the Bible Say About Encouragement?
     
  3. TriciaR

    TriciaR Member

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    I do know all this. And I do spend a lot of time in His Word.
     
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    Arc F1 Let the righteous man arise from slumber

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    You are doing what's best. We should all strive to listen more and speak less. What you see as a problem I see as a positive. You don't need validation from others for strength. Pray and be secure in who you are.
     
  5. tturt

    tturt Senior Veteran Supporter

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    Praying as you requested.

    Isn't it great that we can rely on God and His Word? !
     
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  6. eleos1954

    eleos1954 God is Love Supporter

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    good glad to hear that! May you be encouraged and blessed by it. Amen
     
  7. TriciaR

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    Thanks for the message. I hope I can see it as positive. I don't think I'm trying to get validation from others. It's just I try to connect and I feel what I say goes off in to the ether, and there's just uninterest. It's just tiresome.
     
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  8. YeshuaisFaithful

    YeshuaisFaithful New Member

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    I wanted to pm you but I dont have enough posts.

    Praying...
     
  9. TriciaR

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    Thanks for your prayers. I don't think I have enough posts either to pm!
     
  10. YeshuaisFaithful

    YeshuaisFaithful New Member

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    You're very welcome, maybe God willing, we might be able to msg in future.
     
  11. TriciaR

    TriciaR Member

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    Many thanks. And yes hopefully we can message in the future. Thanks.
     
  12. LoricaLady

    LoricaLady YHWH's Supporter

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    I pray you will be given insight and guidance about the problem and that things will turn around for you.
     
  13. TriciaR

    TriciaR Member

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    Many thanks for this. Much appreciated.
     
  14. TriciaR

    TriciaR Member

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    Many thanks for this. Yes indeed.
     
  15. Kenny'sID

    Kenny'sID Well-Known Member Supporter

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    Ive seen that time and time again when I talk to people, they just love it when you listen, but say something about yourself, they space out and you get no input whatsoever beyond an uh-huh, and then they go on about themselves again. It's so irritating and obvious they are just uncaring, and it's far from my fault, so I just figure that's the way it goes.

    Please, try not to worry about it, it probably isn't you, it's their "All about me" attitude.

    Then there are a few who can carry on a good two way conversation, with equal amounts listen/speak, or give and take. When that happens, the conversation shines. In order to make that happen, both sides need to make effort, and some people don't even know what it means to make effort to have a good balanced conversation.
     
  16. TriciaR

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    Hi, yes that's it really. It is that conversation where it's ok when you get onto the other person, but when you say something, there's no interest. It is uncaring as you say, and irritating. But yes it is just how it is unfortunately. I just seem to get it a lot of the time. Yes I really need to not let it bother me. But it has been bothering me, as I then feel like does anyone care! But then why should I be worried about it. Maybe that is more the question. Why does it bother me! I know the Lord. I look to our Lord Jesus. But maybe because it makes it hard in this world! But hopefully I can get more of those give and take conversations you mention! But if not like you say try not to worry. Thanks for your message.
     
  17. Kenny'sID

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    You're welcome, And FWIW I'm around a lot of people just like that as well. A lot of the problem may be we are just saddened that so many are like that.

    Anyway, hang in there, and hopefully there will be better days/better people in your life...they are out there.
     
  18. Paul4JC

    Paul4JC The trees of the LORD are well watered

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    (Story of my life) Pray you help TriciaR in conversations. It's hard when people don't reciprocate, but that's how people are. Give grace, strength, wisdom and understanding to deal with all this. It can be wearisome if we don't give it to you. Help us to do so. In Jesus name, Amen.

    A preacher friend of mine, shared this many years ago.

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    The Paradoxical Commandments


    People are illogical, unreasonable, and self-centered.
    Love them anyway.

    If you do good, people will accuse you of selfish ulterior motives.

    Do good anyway.

    If you are successful, you will win false friends and true enemies.

    Succeed anyway.

    The good you do today will be forgotten tomorrow.

    Do good anyway.

    Honesty and frankness make you vulnerable.

    Be honest and frank anyway.

    The biggest men and women with the biggest ideas can be shot down by the smallest men and women with the smallest minds.

    Think big anyway.

    People favor underdogs but follow only top dogs.

    Fight for a few underdogs anyway.

    What you spend years building may be destroyed overnight.

    Build anyway.

    People really need help but may attack you if you do help them.

    Help people anyway.

    Give the world the best you have and you’ll get kicked in the teeth.

    Give the world the best you have anyway.
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    [Isa 40:30-31 NIV] 30 Even youths grow tired and weary, and young men (and women) stumble and fall; 31 but those who hope in the LORD will renew their strength. They will soar on wings like eagles; they will run and not grow weary, they will walk and not be faint.


    [Mat 20:25-28 NIV] 25 Jesus called them together and said, "You know that the rulers of the Gentiles lord it over them, and their high officials exercise authority over them. 26 Not so with you. Instead, whoever wants to become great among you must be your servant, 27 and whoever wants to be first must be your slave-- 28 just as the Son of Man did not come to be served, but to serve, and to give his life as a ransom for many."
     
  19. TriciaR

    TriciaR Member

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    Thanks for this. Yes that's probably it. A sadness that's it's like this out there. Thanks for the encouragement. Hope you take care too.
     
  20. TriciaR

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    Thanks for all this. It's true as you say though to basically do as Jesus has taught us, despite the reactions we get. Yes indeed need to give it all to the Lord. Thanks for the verses and all you've sent. All very helpful.
     
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